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I went through an SA a few years ago and get a smallish hemorrhoid that randomly flares up now and again. Is there anything bad with bottoming if it's present? Would it make the bottom undesirable or something to be made fun of? I've only bottomed once since the SA and it wasn't present then. Is there any tips or tricks you could pass on to prevent/cure them?

Thank you for baring with me through all the questions. I'm really trying to learn how I can live healthy to becoming a bottom cause I don't really enjoy being a top :sob:
 

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Hey man, I also have had hemorrhoids/fissure as a bottom and unfortunately it really comes down to how much difficulty or pain they cause you. When mine flaired up, I didn't bottom at all. It was too painful afterwards. It wouldn't hurt during or immediately after, but the next day it would be super irritated.

But, if you don't like topping and bottoming isn't your thing, you just might be a SIDE!

Yes! I never heard of that until recently and its starting to become more known amd mainstream but I always thought I had to either a top or bottom and theres nothing in-between. I realize now, I don't particularly like topping or bottoming. I love oral and handjobs and frotting and cuddling and body contact!

And apparently there are a LOT of gay men who feel similar and just was forced into choosing a role. Some gay men just don't like anal play/sex!
 

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I went through an SA a few years ago and get a smallish hemorrhoid that randomly flares up now and again. Is there anything bad with bottoming if it's present? Would it make the bottom undesirable or something to be made fun of? I've only bottomed once since the SA and it wasn't present then. Is there any tips or tricks you could pass on to prevent/cure them?

Thank you for baring with me through all the questions. I'm really trying to learn how I can live healthy to becoming a bottom cause I don't really enjoy being a top :sob:
Make sure you’re hydrated, eating enough fiber, and do your kegels.

Had a similar situation after my SA when I was younger so I empathize man.
 
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I'll just share my own story; glean from it what you may.

In my 20s, I developed an internal hemorrhoid right on top of my prostate gland, accompanied by a minor fissure. The hemorrhoid eventually strangulated some blood vessels, resulting in very painful external hemorrhoids. Every second of every day was painful, never mind the brutal necesscity of bowel movements.

It took months of seeing different doctors to fully diagnose the problem and schedule a colonoscopy to get the internal hemorrhoid - the root of the problem - banded, and further weeks to fully heal. During those weeks, I took a chance and let a guy fuck me; big mistake, that was. It didn't cause any lasting problems, but it did reopen a wound, which bled.

So, I suppose I could say that if you have a chronic problem, you should see a proctologist and find out if it can be resolved.

In the meantime, the only thing that gave me any relief during that whole debacle was very warm sitz baths with salt and oils of lavender and juniper berry. If you go for that, bring a book.
 

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Thank you! I did have a colonoscopy done because I thought since the SA maybe something got damaged, but they told me it was just a small hemmorhoid. It'll go away for months then come back for 2-3 days or even a week +. I'm just worried if I begin bottoming It'll bring it back, and if it does, my partner would get disgusted by it or make fun of me for having one :( Or even worse if it's external and visible that it'd be a huge turn off. I'm already self conscious about my body so once I learned it was a hemmorhoid I've been afraid of it
 

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Thank you! I did have a colonoscopy done because I thought since the SA maybe something got damaged, but they told me it was just a small hemmorhoid. It'll go away for months then come back for 2-3 days or even a week +. I'm just worried if I begin bottoming It'll bring it back, and if it does, my partner would get disgusted by it or make fun of me for having one :( Or even worse if it's external and visible that it'd be a huge turn off. I'm already self conscious about my body so once I learned it was a hemmorhoid I've been afraid of it
Anyone that says anything negative about you that’s not a quick fix in less the 5 minutes, IS NOT WORTH YOUR TIME OR ENERGY.

Take care of yourself (which it sounds like you’re doing) and you’ll be fine. Hemorrhoids happen and doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or bottom.
 

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I went through an SA a few years ago and get a smallish hemorrhoid that randomly flares up now and again. Is there anything bad with bottoming if it's present? Would it make the bottom undesirable or something to be made fun of? I've only bottomed once since the SA and it wasn't present then. Is there any tips or tricks you could pass on to prevent/cure them?

Thank you for baring with me through all the questions. I'm really trying to learn how I can live healthy to becoming a bottom cause I don't really enjoy being a top :sob:
First of all, I´m sorry for what you went through. Thought not a SA, I wassexually molested in many ocations by a classmate and can only imagine how the experience made you feel.
On another note, one of my firs times bottoming, the top was a bit harsh on me and it also caused me to have hemorroid. I didn´t even notice until some days later i was just sitting down and felt blood dripping down my butt. I checked on the mirror and I didn´t even know what hemorroids were so when I saw the lumps idk why assumed they were anuspimples (which i thought were a thing) so I picked a pair of my eyebrow tweezers and started to slowly and painfully pick the hemorroids one by one. Was a bloody process.... but gotta say, surprisingly, I managed to get the job done.
However, the hemorroids came back a few weeks later and that´s when I decided to go to a doctor, which I would adive you do lol. But he recomended me a miraculous cream (which I could remember the name) that I applied every night for a week and boom, no more hemorroids
As for the sex part, I decided to abstain from having sex during this time because I was ashamed of the lumps and thought guys would freak out when they saw the hemorroids.
 
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I think a lot of guys don’t want to get that part of their body checked ( anus/rectum.. ). As guys will go around acting like hemorrhoids is a gay thing.. I’ve heard guys tell other guys keep that dick out of your ass and you wouldn’t have them..

Last place I worked at this guy that worked there in maintenance would come over just to give me comments about being gay and getting anal warts and all this crap.. I’d tell him for a straight man you know a lot about things that can happen to a guys ass ..


Then one day he mentioned I was walking funny.. asked me if the guys road me hard last night and got my hemorrhoids flared up.. I told him I’ve never had any issues with them .. then told him it wasn’t just a gay thing .. .. constipation can cause it and you try to force yourself to shit and it cause a blood vessel to swell up.. and that’s what call a hemorrhoid..


Couple weeks later he walks him walking slowly .. I thought he was giving me a hard time.. started bitching him out .. he whispers to me he has a hemorrhoid.. right at the edge of his asshole . I was like for real .. he says for real..

I kept a toolbox in the area I worked at .. and another box full of aspirins aleves band aids and all kinds of other things .. and in this box was also hemorrhoid pads(tucks).. and a small tube of preparation h and I reached it to him.. told him press this against the area stand there few minutes squeeze cheeks together if have to keep it there .. it will help..

He says was no way he was going anywhere near it afraid he’d touch it make it hurt more than already was.. .. I said have to find someone to do it for him .. he tells me I can do it .. I was like.. thought my gay ass wasn’t going anywhere near your ass .. .. he was like ..please ..

We went back to maintenance area and used the bathroom back there .. I sat on the toilet .. he unbuttoned his pants and I helped slide his pants and underwear to his ankles .. had him bend over and had to spread his legs apart and there it was .. size of a marble at his hole .. .. I knew he was in pain then..


We didn’t have gloves so I had to it without them.. I told him that I was goi g to have to put some of this and push it in some .. .. he says ok .. so I did and I felt it pressing against the end of my finger … I kept it there for a few minutes and I can see his balls hangin and asked him if they were hurting any .. he giggles and says not hurting but he did have a set of blue balls..

He was married and had three sons and I said would be blue balls if those were mine ..

He says the pain is going away and I pulled out the tip of my finger out and rubbed some on the outside .. of it.. told him stay there for few minutes ..

I didn’t want to freak him out but I had to tell him it was swollen n tight to point that it may pop .. .. if it does.. don’t worry .. he won’t bleed to death .. ..

When done he stands up and turned toward me and he was erect .. he says I wouldn’t be interested in his dick as it wasn’t huge .. I told him there’s nothing wrong with that ..


He came by several times through the night said the swelling went down and he was able to do number 2 now .. but he’s wiping easily .. I told him that’s good ..

Then he apologized to me for all the shit been saying and I told him it didn’t bother me.. I’ve heard it all over the years ..




My stepdad had this hemorrhoid that’s kept on swelling up and popping .. they did surgery on it .. cut out the bad part and lasers the rest .. hasn’t had any problems since


If you are wanting to do anal sex … go by how it feels down there.. you can tell if it’s swollen or not.. …

If it continues to swell up go get it checked out ..

What is SA?