Bottoming: how-to?

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Hey guys! I’m a top but I want to bottom. I’ve attempted it with some guys to no avail. I know it’s supposed to hurt but turn pleasurable after a bit, but the one time that thrusting was successful, it didn’t turn pleasurable.

Any advice/tips/tricks? I don’t know why, but I really, really want to bottom lol

Thanks in advance everyone!
 
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Hey guys! I’m a top but I want to bottom. I’ve attempted it with some guys to no avail. I know it’s supposed to hurt but turn pleasurable after a bit, but the one time that thrusting was successful, it didn’t turn pleasurable.

Any advice/tips/tricks? I don’t know why, but I really, really want to bottom lol

Thanks in advance everyone!
Success on being a bottom depends a lot on who’s topping you, too. A good top must be skilled and the bigger the dick the more important it is that they know how to help you relax, preparing your ass to be penetrated. Of course, all the advise other posters have referred are helpful too.
 
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Wanted to reiterate some points. Relax RELAX. Don’t pull your ass muscles in.

You might experience pain initially until you grove it. Don’t assume “you just are not made to bottom” like stated above. If you like the idea of being fucked, you are made for it.
 
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Thanks guys! I think I’m gonna buy me some different sized dildos and try them out. Bottoms I’ve fucked have used poppers and said that it helps too. Does anyone have any pros/cons for them?
Illegal in the US. Possibly dangerous, but I don’t know about that.
 

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when i first started to bottom i could not relax but loved to bottom. After i was done being fucked I would remember thinking NEVER again lol that my ass would be sore for days. But i loved it. I use to drink a bottle of wine before and during. Wine makes me super horny and relaxed. Then I meet a TS with a CRAZY thick cock good length too, but just thick and she would not let me stop. after that one session my ass was gtg for any thing thrown at it lol.
 

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Relax - it shouldn't hurt. It's more likely to hurt if you don't prepare properly or are rushing. Take it slow, get yourself accustomed to penetration first with a finger, massage it gently and take your time. So long as you've relaxed your anus with some foreplay, he should be able to slide in easily, and most importantly, painlessly. Ideally, you should only feel pleasurable sensations from anal sex.
 

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Relax - it shouldn't hurt. It's more likely to hurt if you don't prepare properly or are rushing. Take it slow, get yourself accustomed to penetration first with a finger, massage it gently and take your time. So long as you've relaxed your anus with some foreplay, he should be able to slide in easily, and most importantly, painlessly. Ideally, you should only feel pleasurable sensations from anal sex.

Excellent advice. A good lover will get you ready. Think of a time when you've had an itch and you just had to scratch it and you waited to. When you finally scratched the itch it was the best feeling you had. THAT Is good anal sex.

You need to be open to the experience. Let him rim you and finger you (one, then two, etc.). Make whatever sounds you want. If he does something you don't like, tell him. Same if he does something you love. At a certain point of "foreplay" the only thing that will satisfy you is his cock. Many times it's when you're at the point where you just want to yell "fuck me".

Then when he enters you? It's like that itch getting scratched. It may be a little painful at first, but after a (short) while it will be heaven.