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I'm straight but I really like sticking things in my ass and getting that sensation. The problem is every time I try to "fuck" myself, I feel like I have to s***. I've douched to clean myself out, but for some reason it still feels like I'm going to s*** all over the place. Any ideas to help me out?
 
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OKCLane is right.... you have to be patient, practice more and this sensation will pass.

Occassionaly I still get this sensation with a new or different shaped plug... if it bothers me, I take out the toy and attempt to defecate... if nothing happens (usually the case) then I simply apply more lube and go back to playing.

Remember that this part of your body is not necessary designed to hold objects in it, and the body’s natural process here is to eliminate what is present in the anal passage... As you play more, your body will become used to having objects placed into your ass.... enjoying the pleasurable sensations is a big part of this!
 
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I feel like I'm used to the difference of being full vs need to have a bowel movement because I can stick a toy in and leave it and be fine, but when I move the toy back and forth that's when the feeling really hits and when I remove the toy usually a clear fluid comes out.
 

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If there’s clear fluid coming out that makes me wonder if you’re rushing the douching process... or potentially overdoing it (meaning giving yourself a deep cleanse when all you really needed was a fast one - ie colon vs rectum)?

I’ve had that happen (clear fluid) when I’ve done one or the other. Usually if I’m not being patient because I need to get fucked lol.
 

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I feel like I'm used to the difference of being full vs need to have a bowel movement because I can stick a toy in and leave it and be fine, but when I move the toy back and forth that's when the feeling really hits and when I remove the toy usually a clear fluid comes out.

Most likey your brain on a subconscious level is still associating the feeling to pooping. Over time your body will learn to relax and not react that way. Perhaps take your time building up the speed of movement rather than trying to thrust rapidly straight away.
 
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Just a thought - instead of a douche, when it just you, alone, use a condom on the sex toy instead and lube it up well. It's an easy clean up, and if you don't get the fluid discharge you know it was residual douche discharge. If you still get a discharge it may be disengaged rectal mucus, without the douche it will appear little darker. For some guys it is almost like a built in lube stimulated by the action. Good luck.
 

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A couple of thoughts: 1) try adding some fiber to your diet, even a supplement like Metamucil. That will make cleaning out a lot easier and less worry that something might be happening you do not want. 2) Maybe try small movements with your toy, see how it feels, adjust to it, and in time you'll be able to do more and 3) the clear fluid is pretty normal. The butt lubricates itself internally when anything is filling it (which makes taking a shit much easier and also can come in handy when you're bottoming or putting anything up there).

Overall, don't stress over it - enjoy it, try new things, have fun! I think even the most experienced bottoms had a period where they were getting used to the feeling of having something up their butt - it's a very normal part of the process.
 

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I second the suggestion of being more patient with douching. Don't go straight from douching to anal play; if you just hang out for a little while after douching then the leftover water will come out eventually. Wait for that to happen before playing.

Stretches can help you relax too. Pigeon pose is my favorite when it comes to prepping for anal sex.

pay attention to your muscular responses when doing anal play and you'll realize you can have control over them if you can breathe and consciously relax. Notice when you're constricting your sphincter or, more importantly, tensing your abdomen, and try to breathe through it to overcome any involuntary muscle responses.

Know the routines of your peristalsis, there are times of day when your body will be more likely to anticipate a bowel movement than other times. If you're a shit-in-the-morning guy, wait till the afternoon to douche and play. Alternatively, if you're a shit-after-dinner guy, maybe reserve your early morning for anal play.

No matter what, we have to cooperate with our body's needs when it comes to anal and even the most experienced bottom will have times that just aren't the right time. Don't be discouraged.
 
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Agree with everything said, may try something smaller. What toy are you using?

Use a condom if mess is an issue is great advice. I have an allergy against latex so it is a must for me. Find the right lube for you, everyone is different. And use more than you think you should. Also pay attention to what lube is being used on what toy but with a condom it's free game usually.

If the urge hits it might just mean you're going in too fast. Also I would say do it after you've taken a dump. Go slow and while I know it's hard to stop during - a break in between a good self fucking session makes it even better. Also give your cheeks some attention and your gooch too. I personally like to start with slapping my ass and then fingering my hole (no insertion) to prep it. Shower too, just for cleaning. I think douching is a little extreme for self play. I must be fully hard and horny to fuck my hole. I ease everything in - my hole is really really tight.

Good luck man, keep us posted ;)
 
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All post are good. If you feel like a bowel movement and nothing comes out use more line and get use to the feeling and then you never said the size of the toy..if your doing a graduation you will get different sensations. You will be fine patience and relax do a couple shots or whatever you do to relax you:cool:
 

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Might try some prostate play after your clean out. Lube up an use some fingers or one of the aneros massagers. Your thoughts of bowel movement should subside, an be replaced with the awesome fell of prostate massage, an the tingle of pre cum dripping. ♥

Maybe after enjoying prostate massage, playing with larger toys your thoughts might not automatically go to bowel movement.
 
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Ok gross alert but uncensored bottom advice.

When douching two things can happen to you
1- you do a quick clean and your rectum is clear but there is still stuff that can slide down but otherwise you're all good.
2- you put too much water in and stimulate the lower intestines which is a long cleaning process for deep play and big toys etc which will take at least an hour or so to finish.

Sometimes when you douche you can also cause the mucous lining to over-produce which might be the clear liquid you mention, your ass can also become irritated which will make it feel like you need to shit as well which might be whats happening to you. When douching use warm water and dont force the water out.

In order to make it feel nice, get hard first and turned on and then start using your fingers, as your ass opens up you can use larger things. I would suggest you directly put pressure on your prostate and rub with a toy while wanking so you can start associating ass play with pleasure.
 
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