Sideways works best for me. Being on bottom leaves you at the mercy of whoever is on top, on top you can supposedly 'control' it, but when he starts pumping up you lose the control. Sideways, I can enjoy it, and control it by clenching my butt.
And pain is NOT the name of the game! It doesn't HAVE to hurt. Discomfort, yes, at first. But it doesn't have to be painful.
And pain is NOT the name of the game! It doesn't HAVE to hurt. Discomfort, yes, at first. But it doesn't have to be painful.