Bouncing from one relationship to another, is that a bad sign?

[rayray]

She probably thinks you're some kind of stalker
the mix of these three
The Incompetent Stalker
The Intimacy-seeking Stalker
The Rejected Stalker

I got to say "someperson" is consistent with the off the wall jabs . I have read quite a few of his her comments had to laugh a little knowing they must be living a bitter life .

 

[KennF]

@Brodie888

After reading my last post... I apologize. It came out WAY harsher than I intended.

I still feel the same way, but I should have worded that a lot less abrupt.

If you, in your relationships, have a bright line agreement, and they cross over it, I agree and respect you for standing up for your boundaries.

 

[Brodie888]

No argument. You, however, did add a bit to the situation.

You gave the person a "history" with "cheating". And I would challenge both of those.

The girl in question has shown no "history", unless by "history" you mean she may be dating someone else, currently. We have nothing that suggests this is her modus operandi. No idea whether she has had any other person in her life, ever. Or under what circumstances she dealt with those situations.

And we have no evidence of "cheating", unless you assume that her relationship with the guy back home is a monogamous one.

Several people have jumped in, assumed that the girl was cheating and no good, dismissed the relationship without regard to learning any of the details.

Lastly, everyone has baggage. You will never find someone without some sort of personal drama in their lives. Line from RENT: "Life's too short, baby. Time is flying. I'm looking for baggage that goes with mine."

If the OP asks about it, and finds she is a liar and cheat, then he can dump her. If he finds that she isn't lying, or it isn't a cheat, or that her boyfriend is an arranged thing that she never wanted, or half-a-million other possibilities, then why should he give up on it before he starts?

In my first post I said either she was a cheater OR there is a complicated situation.

But if she wasn't cheating then I don't understand the hesitation to go on a date. She let him put his hands between her inner thighs and more over an extended period of time so she had plenty of time to think about it. Wouldn't it make more sense for her to spell out the boundries to the OP if she was in an open relationship?

Yes everyone has luggage. Some have carry on, others a shipping container. Everyone's tolerance is different.

The OP was asking about what he should do next time if something like this ever came up. My advice was to make life easier by choosing a simpler situation. But if he does want to chase something like this, then he shouldn't be surprised if things come back to haunt him.

 

[Brodie888]

@Brodie888

After reading my last post... I apologize. It came out WAY harsher than I intended.

I still feel the same way, but I should have worded that a lot less abrupt.

If you, in your relationships, have a bright line agreement, and they cross over it, I agree and respect you for standing up for your boundaries.

I didn't find your post overly harsh or abrupt. There are a lot of assholes on this forum and from previous posts I've read of yours, I have never thought of you as being one of them!

This is a discussion of people's opinion after all. Debate is a form of learning. There isn't a black and white answer. Just perspective.

Personally, if I was in the OP's situation, I would feel misled by the fact that a BF was only mentioned in passing some time after he was emotionally invested and intimate contact was made. I'd ask the girl what's the situation with the BF and not pursue a relationship with her until she ended things with him.

 

[sangheili90]

Personally, if I was in the OP's situation, I would feel misled by the fact that a BF was only mentioned in passing some time after he was emotionally invested and intimate contact was made. I'd ask the girl what's the situation with the BF and not pursue a relationship with her until she ended things with him.

That is a very good point, in my case she shouldn't have been behaving that way around me if she never had the intention of leaving the bf back home. I understand people change but you shouldn't be touching a guy and making facial expressions that show you are sexually interested/excited around him (biting your lip and giving sexy eyes etc.) if you are in a serious relationship.

 

[KennF]

That is a very good point, in my case she shouldn't have been behaving that way around me if she never had the intention of leaving the bf back home. I understand people change but you shouldn't be touching a guy and making facial expressions that show you are sexually interested/excited around him (biting your lip and giving sexy eyes etc.) if you are in a serious relationship.

Now wait a moment here. If I were around someone as hot as Joe Manganiello or some other hottie... I'm going to look all sexy eyed and bite my lips. Hell, if he'd let me touch him, not only would I be all over him, so would my husband.

Now you've got me all hot and bothered with all the hot male celebs I'd eye, lip, lick, touch, blow, or fuck ....

Chris Pine
Norman Reedus
Kit Harington
Theo James
Nikolaj Coster-Waldau
Alexander Skarsgard
Alexander Kwanten
Max Reimelt
Miguel Angel Silvestre
Alfonso Herrera
Chris Hemsworth
Chris Evans
John Barrowman

Ok... I have to stop now before I need to take care of myself.

 

[sangheili90]

Now wait a moment here. If I were around someone as hot as Joe Manganiello or some other hottie... I'm going to look all sexy eyed and bite my lips. Hell, if he'd let me touch him, not only would I be all over him, so would my husband.

Now you've got me all hot and bothered with all the hot male celebs I'd eye, lip, lick, touch, blow, or fuck ....

Chris Pine
Norman Reedus
Kit Harington
Theo James
Nikolaj Coster-Waldau
Alexander Skarsgard
Alexander Kwanten
Max Reimelt
Miguel Angel Silvestre
Alfonso Herrera
Chris Hemsworth
Chris Evans
John Barrowman

Ok... I have to stop now before I need to take care of myself.

LOL The point is that if you are in a serious relationship with someone you shouldn't be flirting like that with another person, regardless of how good they look. I've never been in a relationship, but I'd be a liar to say I wouldn't want to take a second glance at a hot piece of ass even if I had a girlfriend.

My issue is that my cock is hard all the time now, this all started since meeting this young latina, so I want to avoid making some really stupid mistake from here on out.

 

[rayray]

I'd start taking it one day at a time from here . Things are not always the way they seem .