Unconditional love is the province of parents and guardians. In every other developmental experience, young people have to earn appreciation through hard work and good deeds. This notion that you're born, and the world owes you a big hug and buckets of affirmation--that you're entitled to it--is rotting our country at the core, its youth, and it's certainly the ruin of the American male.
Your parents or caretakers owe you these things. The world don't owe you shit, until you earn it.
I think what you're suggesting is kind, SirNeal8; subversive, but kind. Too much kindness makes us weak, selfish, overly sensitive and soft. A soft man--not a
gentle man, but a
soft one--is a useless man, in my opinion.
Well it's all very debateable...obviously.
I don't think people are entitled to anything except basic human rights, and actually that is my least favorite attitude that I find in today's culture, bar none. However, I think that unconditional love is (ta-da!)
unconditional in its scope and applies to all people, even the worst of us, and that it isn't actually just "owed" to us by our parents and caretakers.
No one owes us shit. True. I'm okay with that. But love is never "owed" anyway. If it is, it isn't love. Try imagining it as a default position instead of something earned. Now, granted that's a very highly developed love that requires a very highly developed level of consciousness that few of us (certainly not including myself) have acheived. Nonetheless, shooting for lower just because shooting for higher is difficult is the wimpy way out.
Sometimes people suggest that being too kind, too loving, too compassionate is not ideal. That it will make a person (or culture or nation or world) weak and feable. To suggest that such an approach to humanity would make a person weak is to see life through a world view that simply can't imagine it the other way. Have we ever TRIED it? Not really...so how do we know?
I personally find the argument that nice=weak so very banal. It's right up there with the notion that "might makes right," and neither of these gems has been very good for our world, as a whole. By learning how to live peaceably with each other and the rest of the world, learning how to share, give, moderate, mediate, and seek resoultion to conflict instead of the gaining of advantage (which is what we've always done, all the time in our personal lives up through globalism),
that's how you build a world where you don't actually NEED to be strong because there's no overarching fear of being trampled if you're not.
Again, it's another worldview thing. It all depends on the level of consciousness your working at/from. So yes, I admit, it sounds naive and like something from the late-60's-early-70's...but I think there's really something there.
Another book to check out:
Spiral Dynamics by Don Beck & Christopher Cowan.
PS (I'd love to be subversive in this way. I think our way of being and thinking in the world could be much improved.)