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My boyfriend is uncut and can retract his foreskin when he is soft but when hard it can barely show the head. I have to be very careful down there because going back too far hurts him. I have read about phimosis and options to help stretch his foreskin. It doesn't seem to bother him unless there is pain.
Would it be alright bringing this up and informing him? Or have any others experienced this and had success stretching it out?
 

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I've met 2 guys in the last few years that have the same problem but are too scared to go to the doctors and do anything about it. even though it causes them pain and their dick would probably be bigger if they did. I think you should say something but chances are he's already explored the options and didn't bother doing anything about it. Sometimes i just don't understand men.
 

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An ex of mine had the same problem, often experiencing pain if he went too deep and the foreskin tried to pull back.

He thought it was normal.

I told him that pain during sex was not normal and provided him with several articles on the subject of phimosis. He went to a doctor and discussed his options, eventually choosing something called a dorsal slit.

Instead of having a full circumcision the slit just creates a break in the tight ring in the part of the foreskin that isn't expanding enough to retract over the head. It worked like a charm once it had healed.

But oh, that healing process...
When the doctor says lay down with nothing rubbing it, make sure your guy does that, unlike mine who went to work at a lumberyard in tight jeans. Some men are truly stupid.
 

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Guys, it not a big problem. As a pre-teen, I had a very long and tight foreskin. Dad took me to Dr. He told us that he needed to circumcise, Dad said NO. So the Dr. carefully pushed it back, with both index fingers he told me how to stretch it for about 15 minutes every day and more if I wanted to. About 8 weeks, it would retract easily. When I went back, he did clip the frenum. Actually not a big deal. My Dad had to be circumcised at 15. He told me it hurt big time.
 

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You cant do much. He needs a surgery to remove his foreskin.

Even though I prefer cut guys this is not correct and I would not support a full circumcision if it's not medically necessary.

My ex had a very similar problem. He thought he'd have to be cut but the doctor said it was only that he had a very short, almost non-existent frenulum. The doctor lasered it, removing what restricted the foreskin from retracting, and he's all well. This foreskin covers his glan when he's soft and rolls back without a hitch when he's hard. Also, a side result was that his dick head actually grew because the tight foreskin restricted the growth. He's got a fatter cockhead now as a result of the surgery.
 

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Stretching works and is easy to do.

He may have thrush too. I had this I think and it made my foreskin tighter than usual and was very uncomfortable. Some cream has sorted it for now but it is an intermittent problem for me and may come back but hopefully not.

Manual stretching is the cheapest and easiest way to fix it. There are devices you can buy such as the gentle foreskin stretcher but they are expensive and unnecessary imo.
 

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My boyfriend is uncut and can retract his foreskin when he is soft but when hard it can barely show the head. I have to be very careful down there because going back too far hurts him. I have read about phimosis and options to help stretch his foreskin. It doesn't seem to bother him unless there is pain.
Would it be alright bringing this up and informing him? Or have any others experienced this and had success stretching it out?

My use to hurt somewhat when pulling it all the way back.

after a few weeks of "stretching it " it started feeling good.
 

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It doesn't seem to bother him unless there is pain.

My foreskin also doesn't bother me unless it gets hurt. I don't say that to be fascetious, but because I wonder why one would want to change something on someone else's body when it doesn't bother that person.

Would it be alright bringing this up and informing him?

The only problem I can see is that he'd take it as a message that you think there's something wrong with his dick. If I didn't think there was anything wrong with my foreskin, and my partner said to me out of the blue "you know, you can always stretch out your foreskin so it'll move easier", I might be a bit consternated.
 

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He doesnt need circumcision. He should try other methods first and a circumcision should be a last resort. The other methods dont always work as in my case but he wont feel satisfied if he just goes for the circumcision. There will always be this thought of what he should have tried.
 
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We doN't know how tight his foreskin is, so we can't know whether manual stretching will be sufficient or whether surgery is required. So no promises can be made.

You should tell him that it isn't normal to have pain when eerct and that he isn't getting full pleasure from his dick.

Uncut guys should be able to fully and easily retract foreskin in order to enjoy full pleasure and that there MAY be ways other than circumcision to achieve full pleasure.

YOU coul try to stretch his foreksin for a few minutes every day as part of foreplay and see if over time it makes a difference.
 

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We doN't know how tight his foreskin is, so we can't know whether manual stretching will be sufficient or whether surgery is required. So no promises can be made.

You should tell him that it isn't normal to have pain when eerct and that he isn't getting full pleasure from his dick.

Uncut guys should be able to fully and easily retract foreskin in order to enjoy full pleasure and that there MAY be ways other than circumcision to achieve full pleasure.

YOU coul try to stretch his foreksin for a few minutes every day as part of foreplay and see if over time it makes a difference.
You MIGHT just have indigestion and a bellyache, but it could be appendicitis. Or an ulcer. Or cancer. Might want to go for the surgical option... :wink:


Yes, it is a possibility, but why must you insist on always pointing that out as if the possibility in these cases was anything but remote. If this were another body part and you routinely suggested that amputation/removal was possibly your best course of action, people would think you were deranged. And they'd be right.

As the OP has stated, her boyfriend doesn't have a problem except when she tries to force the foreskin back when he is hard, because that is painful. He can retract normally when soft, so clearly this isn't any of the chronic problems for which you so frequently suggest circumcision. And above all, HE doesn't have a problem with it. Why are you seeing problems that aren't there?