Is it sustainable to have a relationship where one boyfriend isn’t very sexually turned on by me and prefers to just jerk off by himself to gay (and even straight) porn (mostly without me knowing), while I get all my sexual drive from him?
Don't make an issue of such things. Instead tell him you approve of him jerking off and watching porn - with or without you. The two of you just have to accept each other’s peculiarities, share expenses and live peaceably together. By doing so you will indeed sustain your relationship.
How long are you together? Is there any sexual activity between you two at all?
I agree with masturbation in a relationship, all good, but if one partner is left out totally and doesn't have his needs fulfilled, I'd say this calls for a talk about or maybe an open relationship if there is no sexual fun/satisfaction at all.
I agree with masturbation in a relationship, all good, but if one partner is left out totally and doesn't have his needs fulfilled, I'd say this calls for a talk about or maybe an open relationship if there is no sexual fun/satisfaction at all.
When we talked about it, he mentioned that he’d like to watch porn sometimes when we’re intimate. I was supportive and said that’s a great idea if it helps get him turned on too.
He’s not been proposing it tho for weeks now and even when I asked if he wanted to do it, he said he wasn’t in the mood.
so when we’re intimate it’s always just me who gets off and he does not. (I certainly enjoy it, but I’d enjoy it even more knowing he enjoys it to the point of cum too…) He keeps telling me that his libido is down but I know that when he’s alone, he keeps jerking off multiple times a day…
He’s not been proposing it tho for weeks now and even when I asked if he wanted to do it, he said he wasn’t in the mood.
so when we’re intimate it’s always just me who gets off and he does not. (I certainly enjoy it, but I’d enjoy it even more knowing he enjoys it to the point of cum too…) He keeps telling me that his libido is down but I know that when he’s alone, he keeps jerking off multiple times a day…
I’ve had sort of the same issue where my boyfriend kept saying he was not in the mood and his libido was low. In the beginning I felt quite bad about it but after some conversations I understood and can deal with it now.
Once in a while we are still doing some things together, but most of the time all by ourselves.
We both now it from each other as we are open about it.
He is enjoying himself once in a while when I’m working, which I don’t mind anymore and also find his dirty underwear sometimes in the laundry.
I have more sexual urge so doing it more then he does and mostly also do it when he’s not at home. But sometimes I’m still doing when he is around and he doesn’t really care if he catches me. I just continue with doing my thing.
Just be open about it to each other.
Once in a while we are still doing some things together, but most of the time all by ourselves.
We both now it from each other as we are open about it.
He is enjoying himself once in a while when I’m working, which I don’t mind anymore and also find his dirty underwear sometimes in the laundry.
I have more sexual urge so doing it more then he does and mostly also do it when he’s not at home. But sometimes I’m still doing when he is around and he doesn’t really care if he catches me. I just continue with doing my thing.
Just be open about it to each other.
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