I was diagnosed with cancer last fall. I have been working on contract, no permanent work (the recession being what it is). I finished my contract before my first dose of chemo, end of November and have not been working since. I know that some people who are in permanent work can hold on to their jobs. These days a lot of things can be done on a outpatient basis as I am getting. But they are done during 9 to 5, prime office hours and as I have experienced, when my white blood cell count is too low, then chemo sessions need to be cancelled and rescheduled. How many bosses are going to put up with that with a new employee. I've been dating my guy since last June. And exclusively since October. It was he who urged me to get checked. He is a lawyer who has had the same employer since 2001. While he pays for the most part our going out, I have never asked him to pay for my necesseities. I do not ponder out loud how the mortgage will get paid or how to get groceries into my apartment. Whenever we go out, in London since we both live there about 5 tube stops apart, I always suggest public transport (which I pay for myself) or walking. So now I am wondering why is he asking me how I pay the mortgage. OR on Saturday evening when we agreed to meet at his place to watch more episodes of Mad Men, he asks me whether I picked up a the bottle of wine that my sister left for me at the hotel concierge..."that we could drink that night" or else he has to pay for it. Umm, it's easy to get a decent bottle of wine for GBP5 in London. (neither one of us is a connoisseur). I aksed whether he worried that I would be a financial burden, he said no. I did suggest that as a lawyer, he could investigate with his colleagues in HR, what rights a cancer patient has regarding work in the UK. He told me that I could find that information on line. He has told me he would pay for breast reconstruction if the NHS doesn't pay for it or if to upgrade it required extra money. (upgrade meaning better materials, not larger size). We see each other once during the week and on the weekends at least on Saturday to Sunday and sometimes, like last weeked, the whole weekend. My going back to my place to do a few things. I think both of us like our space so I'm assuming the both of us are happy to not spend every night and the whole weekend with each other. But perhaps some of you, male and female, can shed some light on this situation. I suppose he could look for someone with a permanent job. He may be that type of guy. If so, I'd like to know sooner rather than later.