Boyfriend taking a side against me

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No, it's not.

For some Americans, though, it doesn't have the same emotional impact because we don't have Gypsies here and a lot of people have never experienced racism against them.

Let's say I walking down a dark street alone with no one around and I heard footsteps behind me and felt afraid because I know that this is a dangerous street and I'm a 100 lb Asian woman. If I look behind me to see who is back there and react with more fear if I see a young black man who is dressed in an urban style than if I saw a young white man dressed in a button down shirt and tie, then that's racial profiling, which I consider to be racist, but would that racist reaction be mitigated by the fact that it's a fear reaction caused by the fact that I know that in this area, most of the violence is committed by young black men? Or would I be naive to assume that I'm safe because I'm unfairly judging the young black man, not having gotten to know him?

That's what I mean about not really knowing where I stand when it comes to judging her based upon this one circumstance. Yes, I find what she said to be undoubtedly racist and that it was wrong, but I'm not entirely sure that what she did was unforgivably wrong.

I appreciate what you're saying, and what you're trying to prove with this post petite, but for your example to hold true in this situation, we'd have to assume more about the OP than she has given us...

In your example, you base it on knowing your surroundings and knowing that the majority of crimes committed in that area are by young black men.

No where does the OP state which airport she was at, or that she has knowledge that MOST of the crimes committed there are by Romanian gypsy pickpockets.

All the OP has given us (in the best chronological order one can achieve from the multiple posts adding additional information) is:

1. Woman spoke to her in Italian
2. Replied to woman in Italian
3. Women didn't understand Italian
4. Woman was behaving oddly - Standing too close for comfort
5. OP has been the previous victim of pickpockets
6. OP was concerned by behaviour and combined with previous experience was obviously concerned about a possible repeat of the event.
7. OP observed that woman was Romanian
8. OP stipulated that most gypsies come from Romania and are pickpockets
9. BF got pissy with stipulation but let it drop only to bring it up again weeks later
10. OP came here to, well, I'm not sure, she doesn't want opinions, she's made that pretty clear.

From this the only things we can learn are:

1. The OP is stubborn and not looking for opinion, just people to side with her over the BF
2. The OP likes to add to her comments at a later date (no bad thing, most of us do it!)
3. The OP considers ALL gypsies to be pickpockets - you'll note she didn't stipulate that she considers some of them to be.
4. She used that fact that this woman was carrying a Romanian passport to verify her previous feelings of unease and concern that she could be a pickpocket.
5. She has had amply opportunity to explain that she worded it badly and didn't mean that all Romanians are gypsies or pickpockets, or that she didn't mean all gypsies are pickpockets, and she's chosen to do neither.
 

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There's a man we can direct venom at? Where?

I know I'm ready! :firedevil:


:AR15firing:

:rocketwhore:

:2gunsfiring_v1:

:BoomSmilie_anim:

I've been trying to make at least a mild nuisance of myself all day, to no avail.

I guess I should not try, and then I'll get the full brunt. [Suddenly remembers how the dynamic works]
 

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I've been trying to make at least a mild nuisance of myself all day, to no avail.

I guess I should not try, and then I'll get the full brunt. [Suddenly remembers how the dynamic works]

Nooo! You're doing it all wrong! You are so bad at this! :rolleyes:

Just quote one woman's personal opinion where she's talking about what she thinks with an eye roll and write, "Yeah, right. I've heard other women say something different, so I laugh whenever I read a woman say this." Yup, cuz we share a hive mind and all have the exact same opinions. :rolleyes:

Or try, "You know what I love best? Fucking sluts. Hey, you sound slutty." I just love guys who like to degrade the women that they want to have sex with, but it's even better if you pick one of us to degrade specifically.

Or make a thread where you ask women to provide their personal opinion because you're pretending to be genuinely curious, then attack every single one who gives you the answer that you don't like.

Generally, if it's something that would make a woman walk away from you if you said it to her IRL, it's bound to also backfire online.

See, the problem that you're having is that you don't do any of those things! So you're immune from attack.

I've got my guns ready! I'm double fisting! :biggrin1:
 
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Nooo! You're doing it all wrong! You are so bad at this! :rolleyes:

Just quote one woman's personal opinion where she's talking about what she thinks with an eye roll and write, "Yeah, right. I've heard other women say something different, so I laugh whenever I read a woman say this." Yup, cuz we share a hive mind and all have the exact same opinions. :rolleyes:

Or try, "You know what I love best? Fucking sluts. Hey, you sound slutty." I just love guys who like to degrade the women that they want to have sex with, but it's even better if you pick one of us to degrade specifically.

Or make a thread where you ask women to provide their personal opinion because you're pretending to be genuinely curious, then attack every single one who gives you the answer that you don't like.

Generally, if it's something that would make a woman walk away from you if you said it to her IRL, it's bound to also backfire online.

I've got my guns ready! I'm double fisting! :biggrin1:

:eek:

[Realizes he's in way over his head]

"Bartender!"
 

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You're perfect. :smile:

TGIF!

Me? Look at you! :kiss:

If all the men on LPSG were like you, I could retire my guns forever, and then we could just have orgies all the time! Men who complain about the anger around here don't realize that no one wants to fuck a douchebag. If guys want us to be sexier with them, then they should act a little bit more fuckable. You, you always behave fuckably. You are super-fuckable! :smile:

You should have a cape.
 
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Me? Look at you! :kiss:

If all the men on LPSG were like you, I could retire my guns forever, and then we could just have orgies all the time! Men who complain about the anger around here don't realize that no one wants to fuck a douchebag. If guys want us to be sexier with them, then they should act a little bit more fuckable. You, you always behave fuckably. You are super-fuckable! :smile:

You should have a cape.

1. [Hatches convoluted plot whereby TheBF engages in interdimensional travel for the good of all humankind and "someone" by necessity must service petite....]

2. Right back at ya', mon Cheri.

3. (Psst, your check is in the mail)

4. [Forwards the quoted post to all the ex-girlfriends. :biggrin:]

5. Thanks for the overpraise, sweet lady. I'm having a Greyhound tonight in your honor. :smile:

6. Remember this the next time I misbehave!
 

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Me? Look at you! :kiss:

If all the men on LPSG were like you, I could retire my guns forever, and then we could just have orgies all the time! Men who complain about the anger around here don't realize that no one wants to fuck a douchebag. If guys want us to be sexier with them, then they should act a little bit more fuckable. You, you always behave fuckably. You are super-fuckable! :smile:

You should have a cape.

Petite, do you realise what you've started? He will turn into an unbearable bore now. I guarantee that he has already commissioned the cape, had personal stationery printed and is designing a range of "Cum with Captain Fuckable" underwear.

Just between you and I.....I agree, he does have a extraordinarily high fuckability score.