Boyfriend Too Big - Suggestions Please

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wvalady1968: MG, that was very well done!

And Welcome to the forum. You'll add a lot!

Allie

 

[benderten2001]

moroccansgirl,

I think you've done more good here in your first post than many have done with their hundreds!
(me included!)

It really helps for our women to speak up and help each other and ....us men as well.

What you conveyed here is both reassuring and illustrates the validity of what many guys have always been told....be patient with the woman. Take your time.

This has obviously worked for you and your husband.

By sharing this, you've shed light on a common problem (accomodating size) and it's terrific you told your story so very, very well.

Welcome to this board!

 

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Red_Beauty: I try to stress the "take your time" motto, but sometimes my boyfriend is eager. What I mean is, he shows eagerness in his touching. I feel like his hands are sanding me instead of caressing. I’ve asked him to be gentler, but it slips his mind sometimes. He’s one of the horniest boys I’ve ever known. He can take his time with penetration, but the caressing foreplay needs some work. When he makes an effort, it's so much nicer. He understands and cares about this, but he needs to think with the right head to accomplish this.
Another thing is, we can get the penetration done after a bit of foreplay. However, it hurts when he moves a lot.....and he likes to move A LOT. We've added lube, but that doesn't make it much better. It must be muscular. I've tried to relax, but it always ends up hurting. :-/
Reading Moroccansgirl's post makes me feel like we can accomplish this. We'll just need to try a few more things.

 

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junior15074: I agree with Moraccansgirl. I am almost 8 inches erect with a 6 1/2 circumference. When my girlfriend and I first had sex, I thought she was going to have a heart attach when she saw me. We had to take it slow and easy. Over time her vagina "adapte" to my size and we now have enjoyable sex. However even today, I need to do alot of foreplay to get her in the mood. It lubricates her vagina making entry easier. Like Moraccansgirl, my girlfriend swears I get bigger when super horny or when I am cumming. She says I hit the very back of her vagina and a lot of times it makes her cum. Having a large head (6 3/4 circumference) helps. I suggest taking it slow and easy, learn to foreplay with each other and see what happens. Good luck.

 

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Evolon: taking time does account for quite a bit... when my wife and i first got together, there were a few positions that we could not do, simply because of the discomfort that they brought... but since, we have lengthened foreplay, ditched the condoms, added lubrticant, and i take things slower now... we havent had that problem for quite some time... it makes for some quite "pornerrific" nights, for sure... ;D

 

[neverbiteorgag]

ruscular: Im 8.5 in girth, not bragging, but just letting you know that if a 8.5 boy can get thru it, your man 6.5 is a cake walk. It took about 3 month for me to be able to make love to a girl untill she enjoyed it without pain and after that we were doing it 3 times a day. But i use alot of olive oil and just got inside of her and slept with me inside as long as possible. She was pretty lubricated from inside but even so, the extra olive oil made penatration less painful. Depend how much you love this person. You will be walking kind of funny for awhile. It will take some time for your opening return to old size, if you end this relationship.

Man 8.5 thick? you'd put her in the hospital, she already hurts with 6.5.

 

[neverbiteorgag]

Red_Beauty: I've been with my boyfriend for a year and 3 months, but we have problems. My boyfriend is 7" long and 6.5" girth. The length is no problem, but the girth kills me. I've been with large guys before, and they always caused pain, too. However, when I'm with a smaller guy, I'm fine. I can have sex all I want. I asked my gyn about this, and she stated that I'm relatively small down there. We've tried lubricants and long foreplay, but nothing seems to work for me. This has started to become a psychological problem, too. I no longer have the desire to have sex with him at all due to the pain that happens occurs. I love him very much, so I've stayed with him longer than I can sexually tolerate. I'm not sure what to do anymore. I love him, but I don't love his penis. Any suggestions?

Get in a hot shower, let him finger you, make your juices start running, then just push it against you, nibbling your exogenous zones,talking to you,how much he wants to be in you, let him keep pulling your butt cheeks apart and squeezing them like Charmin, now he should try to get just the head in, same thing, have some music that will get your pukse racing
He can continue telling you what he's going to do when he gets in you,tell him to go in from the rear,
Keep it up it may take 45 minutes or more, but he will get in and you will want him,too.
Hint: no pain,no gain,
It may hurt a little even after all his efforts but once he's in , you'll forget about all that when he makes you want to holler, you won't want him to pull out!

 

[libralover4u2]

It takes time and patience to expand a vagina! And, it has to be done a little bit at a time. My wife was post menopausal when we first got together, had not had sex for 27 years, and her vagina had shrunk so much I could only get the tip of one finger in her. So, that night I gave her the first orgasm she ever had from oral, and she loved it. For the past two years we have worked twice a week stretching her vagina, first with my finger, then graduated dildos, and now with small softer type cock sized dildos. Last week she started to be able to take, and enjoy, a 1-1/8' diameter dildo. We have several more to go before she can take my 1-1/2" diameter cock, but we are close. It is about 5 inches in circumference.

The key is every time have him give you an orgasm from oral and/or dildo. That relaxes the pelvic muscles and helps them stretch without pain.

Good luck!

 

[il2tx]

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