This may not be the answer that you want to hear, however, I figured that you might appreciate it from the perspective of someone that once was in your boyfriends boots. Exotic stripping, dick dancing, schlong slinging call it what your want how did I get into it? Well after graduation I moved back to Houston. Worked for a bank for about 3 months, barely making ends meet and bored out of my fucking mind. A friend helped me get a job at the old La Bare as a barback; pay wasnt all that great but even working as a barback had it perks. Six months later I started waiting tables bare-chested. A year later, following a string of amateur nights, my entertainment career took off.
Dancing for the pleasure of women was great, however, having been to New Orleans several times for Southern Decadence, what I really wanted to do was dance off Bourbon St. Working primarily as an independent and sometimes under short contract, I stripped for nearly 11 years NOLA you name a gay bar and I probably took most of my clothes off (all in private dances) there, at one time or another. Miami, Key West and a number of other places in the Southeast and a few jaunts in the DC area.
During that period of time I was constantly in and out of countless relationships. Sometimes with chicks, other times with guys. None of them worked out for very long periods of time. The reasons? Deceit. Lack of commitment. Inability to truly love someone else. The reasons I kept dancing were: the money, especially my take of the private dances; and my real desire to have my bod and dick loved, admired, fondled and used anonymously in the absence of emotional commitment.
I was never honest with my various partners about some of the things that transpired in private dances. Or the real reasons that I didnt come home after the club had closed (which included getting it on with another dancer or client).
Im not saying that your bf is anything like I once was. I certainly hope not for your sake, but thought that you at least needed to know what you might be getting into. BTW, a couple of other things. I'd have long sit down discussions with most of the guys/chicks that I was involved with at the time too, but rarely was I ever completely honest. I'm also still in the closet
