Just wondering out there.. how many of you are still friends on good terms with exes out there? How would this be possible for you? Meaning, how did the relationship end, and yet you are able to maintain a friend relationship. Also, what are some no-no's that ruined a relationship and you can't be friends ? I'm wondering this because... My ex stupidly got drunk on his birthday ( We have a long distance relationship and I couldn't be there at the time). He ended up being pissed out drunk and he's a top. But he got butt-fucked on his birthday and just long story short, he kept it secret for a while until I dumped him and the beans spilled. I want to be friends, he's a good guy, messed up once, didn't tell me immediately because he knew I'd be gone in a heart beat. But I don't know if we can be friends or if I'm going to ever fully let go of what happened. The accident mess up, not so much the issue, the lying about it was the issue.. I kind of want to maintain contact, but I feel like, the scar is too deep. Gotta let it go.. But nothing's set in stone! Shared my story, what about yours?