Just broke up with my partner of three years. There were good times (trips to the beach, shopping sprees, sitting at the airport overpass) and there were awful times (put a gun to my head, pulling knives on me, a 6 month affair). I don't feel like a victim because I CHOSE to stay with him, and don't have a single regret. Anywho, we've been living together for several years, and would sporadically become that break-up/make-up couple. The one that breaks up for about a day then gets back together. This time it's a bit more permanent. I've moved back in with my parents while I'm searching for a new place with a friend, and I think the simple fact that we're no longer living together makes it easier to say "This time it's fo' real". We've texted back and forth a bit but I genuinely feel free from the situation, I want to be a friend to him cuz I still love him but I'm not IN love with him anymore. I dunno, it just feels weird knowing that it's definitely over, although there is a liberation that was never there in our occassional "This time I mean it, we're really breaking up!" incidents. I don't have any intentions of gettin' back with him, but anybody (gay or straight, male or female) ever been in one of those situations where you break up Monday and you're back together Tuesday, breakup in June and you're back together in July? I'm sure sometimes it ends up working out, but it's needless to say that it's probably better to exit when one of you starts using "I'm gonna leave you" as leverage. Can we say "codependency"?