Hi everyone. This is my first thread ever but it's about something important to me. I'm not sure if this the right sub-forum for this. I am an older virgin. I've spent many years (hell pretty much my whole life after the seventh grade) never asking out girls/ladies due to my conviction that I was repulsive to look at. I took the fact that women were not throwing themselves at me as evidence that it was true. But once upon a time I met a girl in college that I did take a chance on. But she turned out to have certain.....requirements that I didn't meet. But I felt like I was surely average. I was pretty devastated by that rejection since me and her were so good together; we had so many common interests (movies, music and outdoor activities, we even volunteered at the same animal shelter and soup kitchen) and I didn't want to make things worse so I didn't check on weather I was actually average. When I did I found that....length wise I'm not alright but not awful at 5.6-5.85 inches depending on how things are going. But then I checked average circumference and saw that it was 4.75-4.9 inches. I was only a tad over 4.5 inches circumference. Long story short the whole thing ended up with me becoming so suicidal over that realization that I was briefly institutionalized. Many months of therapy got me back on track and eventually back in college. Okay so flash forward to today. I've spent the last ten months working my butt off to get in good physical shape and am determined to enter the dating scene (though with time constraints now that I've got work and new volunteer work at the hospital). Especially since I've had some attractive gals (now taken) confess they actually thought I was cute all along. But my problem remains. What can I do about this? Assuming I get a gal into a position where she's even willing to have sex with me how do I break this news to her? Should I alert her well in advance? Assure her that I'm going to be trying to bring a lot more to the table (I mean if she wants toys involved...sure. If she wants an hour of oral stimulation of her vagina and clit...sure. Want it to last awhile...sure I've been doing those exercises to increase stamina) and just hope she won't care if I do all that extra stuff? Should I not mention it at all and still do all the extra stuff and hope she never brings up my issue. Should I perhaps be prepared to let her go out and "do it" with other guys that have more normal genitalia every now and then so she'll be satiated (I really wouldn't want to do that)? I'm considering all that because I'm pretty sure there really aren't any reliable methods of actual enlargement. Especially for girth.