SweetLovesVick
Experimental Member
I agree with everything said above it is great information for you and you should take it to heart. I think you need to go to Barnes and Noble and get some confidence building books. Your penis size is not the problem your confidence is so low and you need to build it back up. You sound from your posts like a wonderful person. And who says you have to date a girl from your small town? After getting a divorce I went on line met and dated a man from San Diego I am in Upstate NY. Now he lives here and we are married with two toddlers under 6yrs. So your girl is out there. Problem is your too worried about "size" instead of looking for her in every place you can think of including the internet. My husband and I never discussed size ever before we had sex. I think guys talk about size here but I doubt when they are trying to find a lover and dating they do not bring it up in conversation until after having sex. And you are not required to tell anyone your a virgin either when dating. Cheer up you have a great personality and someone out there will love you for that, most men have no personality so you beat all them out hands down!I'm going to chime in here too. You are normal. I've had smaller than what you have described and had mind-blowing sex. It is not your penis that's the problem - it's your shattered self-confidence. It's a shame, because you sound like a great guy - someone caring and giving. What your first lover said was about her - it had nothing to do with you. Sometimes, when you hear something so devastating from someone you think loves you, you believe it. You believe it because the one person who knows you better than anyone else says it. Again, it was about her insecurities or need to hurt or to feel powerful or whatever mean little reason she had. But holding onto that to what she said only hurts you and that's giving someone who is no longer in your life too much power.
As a woman - if a man was to "warn" me about how inadequate he was, I would run in the other direction. The woman who is going to be good to you is going to be a confident, secure woman who will be attracted to a confident secure man. Even if you don't feel that way yet, act like it. "Fake it til you make it". Eventually it will become true. Good luck!
(ESO: How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of Extended Sexual Orgasm by Dr. Alan P. Brauer and Donna J. Brauer)
I purchased this book above for my brother and found out my husband read it also.
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