I don't know much about loving relationships. My mom left me with my dad when I was a kid and my dad's never dated since. My dad's kindly neighbor had the same thing happen to him and he died a lonely old man. My present neighbor on one side just found out that all three of what he thought were his kids were fathered by other men (he kicked the wife out but is still raising the kids). And my other neighbor is another lonely young guy who, in desperation, tried a mail order bride and....that didn't work either as she was cheating on him with one of the guys that knocked up the other neighbors wife (with the second of the three kids).
I'm sorry to hear this, and it helps to explain why your perceptions have been so skewed. Most of the examples of women you have been close to have been two-faced and/or unreliable. I know all you can do at this point is take my (and others') word for it, but believe me, the majority of women (like the majority of men, I believe) are really basically decent people with at least some innate courtesy & kindness.
Except I'll need to run into one that pretty much cares nothing at all about girth. Because as you pointed out, if the statistics are correct, perhaps over 60% are bigger than me. And what are the chances of me running into that woman?
Once again, you are completely missing the point. Your penis is not
all you are, it is a
part of who you are, a component in a package. Saying that you absolutely must have a woman who "cares nothing at all about girth" doesn't make sense. You need to realize that what the woman will care the
most about is
you.
A while back a gal I liked mocked me for my volunteer work. She said only "losers" do that to compensate for being "losers." I now try to mostly hide that side of my life from any gal I'm interested in. Prior to that I had no idea my work with disabled animals and at the soup kitchen would be looked down on.
Ugh! Where do you find these people?
Please do not conceal your volunteer work from potential partners. It is part of who you are, and to the vast majority of people, it is an
impressive part.
But it's a common question with women really liking guys who have had lots of past female partners (or at least the girls around here do). What do I do when they inevitably ask? Lie?
Okay...you have a point here. No, I do not suggest you lie if asked. I think that, if asked, you need to tell the truth. But in all likelihood it won't matter to her that much.
If only I met women in real life who thought that. Here's some more pics that are better quality and you might begin to see my problems in that area:
pic pic pic ...
I have reviewed these pictures, and I still say you have a nice face and it is
not unpleasant to look at. You also happen to have very sensual lips, IMO. Oh, and the camping pic isn't bad -- you actually look kind of hot with that stubble. :wink:
In case you're wondering about the scars around my neck...
Maybe the pics just don't show in high enough resolution on the web, but even looking closely I cannot detect any scars on your neck. I believe you that they are there, but it's possible they're not as noticeable as you think.
When I was camping it was down on the coast and I took the following pics too.
pic pic pic Just thought you guys might want something beautiful to look at. One of my hobbies is hiking around and taking pictures of the wild as I come across it.
Beautiful photos! Another positive attribute you have to offer as a partner.
I don't think most women do that. But most guys may not be in my situation. Also, I have browsed this forum quite a bit and have seen that there are quite a few women on here that have dumped guys because they didn't "measure up" to what they exactly wanted.
You are on a large penis site, which attracts guys with large penises, gay guys who don't have a big penis themselves but like big penises,
and women who are interested in large penises! Is this a surprise?
For some reason I
completely do not understand, this site seems to also attract some straight guys with average or smaller-than-average sized penises. I'm not sure exactly
what you guys are looking for here, but if it's a representation of what most average women want,
you are in the wrong place!
Was the 3.5" girth guy before or after the 6" guy?
Before, but that had absolutely nothing to do with anything.
Bear with me while I tell some stories.
I chose not to pursue a relationship with one 3.5" guy mostly because he was a liar (about things totally un-dick-related) and because he said bad things about me behind my back to one of my friends.
Another noticeably smaller-than-average partner was a religious zealot and I just could not put up with his attitude.
Another noticeably smaller-than-average partner was one of the great loves of my life. I have written about him occasionally on this site before. Even though I am not a fan of small penises, he aroused a passion in me that few people ever have. He could intoxicate me with a kiss, a caress...a look.
How did that relationship end?
He dumped
me because I was too clingy, insecure and possessive!
And after he dumped me, even though I dated other guys, I continued to pine for him
for another two years and always entertained the hope that we would someday get back together. We did end up hooking up a couple of times for casual sex, which I really enjoyed, and was disappointed that it never developed into something more.
If he hadn't dumped me, or if he had been willing to take me back, it is possible we would still be together now, or would at least have been together for a very long time.
I have reconnected with this guy on facebook now and even though we are both happily married I still feel a pang every time I see a post from him.
And this is a guy with a significantly smaller-than-average dick!
And I
do ostensibly care about dick size, but not in
his case
because of who he is!
And before you jump to other conclusions, he is not exceptionally tall, or buffed, or even classically attractive.
He
is intelligent, kind, and goddamned funny, though. I have always gone weak in the knees for guys who could make me laugh.
But would the fact that I can't "stretch" them be overcome by those other things? At some point might not the girl in question want to know what being "stretched" feels like? And what if she has been "stretched" in the past? Won't she miss that?
Yes, the fact that you can't stretch them
would be overcome by those other things.
If she is curious to know what being stretched feels like, or if she is feeling nostalgic for it, that is what big dildos are for.
I know that might sound trite but it is the truth -- during my first marriage, I sometimes owned dildos that were bigger than my husband (with his full knowledge), and although I enjoyed them, I
always enjoyed him more! And no, they did
not make me loose or make sex with him any less pleasurable.
My first marriage ended due to incompatibility issues that had
nothing to do with the size of his penis. If we had been more compatible in other ways, if he had been intrinsically sexually Dominant and not submissive, if he had been a kinder person who understood me better, and if we hadn't built up years of resentment from being cruel to each other during arguments...well, we probably would never have split!
I would have remained satisfied with his cock for the rest of my life, even though it was not as large as some I thought or fantasized about, and even though it wasn't as big as some of my dildos, and even though it did
not stretch me!
Yes, but I'm not really worried about being compared to such "enormous cocks" I am worried about being compared to "normal" ones.
Stop it.
Having no experience with vaginas I would just assume whatever she has is "normal" and would then try and see if I could do something to try and help her "fill it out" better. If I couldn't figure out some way then I would have to ask her if she wants to stay and be unsatisfied or leave for greener pastures. Then, because I would think she is "normal" and would think other women would present me with same issue, what I would do next would probably be tragic and irreversible.
Oh, I see my analogy there probably did more harm than good.
I think you may be ignorant of something, and that is the fact that not all of a woman's vagina has to be "filled out" for her to enjoy sex!
What I say next may sound mean to my current husband, but it isn't anything I haven't said before and it isn't anything he doesn't already know:
I had more frequent and easier orgasms from my ex's penis than I do from my current husband's, even though my current husband is
significantly larger. Also, my current husband makes me sore
very quickly and it is
very annoying to both of us that we cannot have sex as often as we like because we have to wait for me to recover!
Big dicks sound fascinating but often women who actually encounter them IRL find them to be impractical in one or more ways.
I wouldn't trade my husband for anyone in the world -- he is the true love of my life, The One, my soul mate and my Dominant Master...but I do catch myself not infrequently wishing he had a
smaller dick!
(Sorry, AD, if anything I've said here embarrasses you but I hope you can forgive me because I am really trying to help this guy.)
I don't think anyone here is lying. If you say I probably won't have to worry about my girl cheating on me just because I'm below average in girth I'll take your word for it.
Yay! You are finally talking some sense!
But knowing that I am below average will haunt me the rest of my years in one way or another. I guess trying to figure out some way to make it haunt me in a non-debilitating way would be what I'd like to strive for.
And I wish
wholeheartedly that you are successful, and may someday even come to the point where are no longer haunted at all.
(((hugs)))