"Breaking in" a girl

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Does anyone else ever experience this? Hurting your girl a lot the first month or so but her gradually getting used to it? It's gotten better but she is still really sore after sex, will this ever completely go away? She says its from hitting her cervix but that seems unavoidable at times. Is it more for girth than length that they are able to adjust to? Just wondering if anyone has any experience on this.
 

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Been there, done that. My wife told me it took "a couple of months" to adjust to my size before she really began to relax and enjoy herself. After that, she very quickly became a fan.

Better days are ahead, my man.
 

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I wouldn't phrase it like that, but "honeymoon cystitis" is a very real and well documented phenomenon. It can happen with a new partner where UTIs are more common until they've adjusted. This isn't a size thing per se, but more of an overall fit - the way two people go together, especially in motion, is always different. Was with one woman who had 4 UTIs in the first 6 months. Really sucked.
 

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I wouldn't phrase it like that, but "honeymoon cystitis" is a very real and well documented phenomenon. It can happen with a new partner where UTIs are more common until they've adjusted. This isn't a size thing per se, but more of an overall fit - the way two people go together, especially in motion, is always different. Was with one woman who had 4 UTIs in the first 6 months. Really sucked.

UTIs aren't necessarily something that goes away with time. To this day, we have to be vigilant about that.

I've found only one or two references myself, but my wife says she's seen penis girth listed as a contributing cause, and I've seen other women on lpsg swear the same. Supposedly, the farther the vagina is stretched open, the more the urethra gets tugged on & pulled around during thrusting, which helps the nasties find their way in.
 

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Been there far too many times. My ex who I date for a year never got used to it much. After every round I'd have to give her about 2 hours to recover because her pussy would swell up. Even with the women I fucked after her Never adjusted. A few months ago I hooked up with some girl and the sex she sat up and pinched her toes. When I asked her why she was doing that she said her insides felt like they were on fire. She couldnt have her periods for 2 months after that. She took 3 pregnancy tests and all came back negative. Im still wondering if maybe I bruised her.
 

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Happened more than a few times. The key to remember is it does get better with time and to be gentle and cognizant of her struggle. Ramming home won't score you any points later though you might think how awesome it was to hear her scream (not that I've done, just saying...).

After repeated exposure it SHOULD be less difficult for her to take. Even still, if you're "long", you will still continue to have issues with deep penetration so be mindful of that when thrusting too deep. That problem is never going away.

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..she very quickly became a fan.

Better days are ahead, my man.

In my personal experience, I agree with that..there was just a length adaptation issue, in my case was a 9x6.. because it was hitting cervix, it is painful..and because I like deep thrusts, have it inside to the tilt..all of the suddenly I could not have the same sex style with a big cock that I was used having with a smaller one.

Now..the attitude and personality of my guy than was not about "breaking me" but really tenderness and patience, he was the one saying:.. "you are going to hurt yourself..take it easy..take it slow babe"..and I was the one shhh him..who was wanting to do my thing the way I always enjoyed doing it.,

For the reason of my favorite style of having sex, deep hard tilted thrusts etc I would stick safely with a bellow 9 length..and adventure with above 6 girths..



Best wishes..let her lead the way! :cool:
 

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You have certainly received excellent advice.

Take it easy and take it slow, which may sound as the same. That stated, let her be in control and you will be able to perform to the satisfaction of you both.

Enjoy the status you have, but do not overpower her.
 

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In my personal experience, I agree with that..there was just a length adaptation issue, in my case was a 9x6.. because it was hitting cervix, it is painful..and because I like deep thrusts, have it inside to the tilt..all of the suddenly I could not have the same sex style with a big cock that I was used having with a smaller one.

For the reason of my favorite style of having sex, deep hard tilted thrusts etc I would stick safely with a bellow 9 length..and adventure with above 6 girths..

Yes, as simbablk said, being too long doesn't go away. I don't know how much it would help for 9-incher, but positioning becomes important with a length issue.

In that regard to the OP, the more parallel you keep your bodies, the shorter your cock will functionally be, and the less deep penetration will be without you feeling like you're holding back. When in missionary, lie over her more flatly instead of raising up on your arms or getting up on your knees. When doing doggy style, either lean forward over her or have her lean her torso back towards you. I find rear entry with her on her stomach is especially wonderful. Her butt adds a "bumper," which limits penetration, but at the same time, you're thrusting through her thighs and cheeks, so you're still getting full-length sensation on your cock.
 

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Its a position issue for the most part..and try to focus on stirring the pot instead of ramming it home.
 

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In my experience, the pain from a poke directly against the cervix never goes away for women, but hitting it is as much a matter of aim and angle as of length, perhaps even moreso. That's because the deepest part a woman's vagina isn't her cervix, rather it's her posterior fornix (see illustration: Female genital organs). A lot of what happens between new couples where the guy has a long cock is that there's initially a learning experience for both partners where they find out what goes where to make the girl feel good, not bad--a few degrees difference in angle can make all the difference in the world. That said, there is a limit to how much a girl can stretch, and absolute vaginal depths do vary quite a bit. Some women can comfortably take an 8-9 inch cock right away, maybe wanting even more, others with shorter vaginas will never stretch enough to handle a really long one comfortably after she's tented, no matter how many months are spent "getting used to you." However, luckily for those of us blessed/cursed with significantly longer cocks, many girls will stretch enough over time to be able to comfortably take a very big cock deep in the pocket of her anterior vaginal fornix--just don't jam directly into her cervix shooting for that pocket. At least that's I've found in my continuing scientific study of the phenomenon.

One more bit of advice: your title for this thread was great as far a being an attention getter, but my guess is that more than a few female members of this forum might wince from you possibly inferring a simile between women and horses. ;^)
 

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Keep practicing, start off real slow at first, and find out what positions are comfortable (lots of communication). I had one gf in my late teens that ran to the bathroom after each time we had sex and she finally told me that it felt like her stomach was getting beat to death and that caused her to throw up.
 

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Talking about positions and what we find wonderful and delish..the thing that I really loved about a 9 length was the rear positions..I have to say memories of it still giving me goose bumps ..the sensation of a long cock, doing long strokes in rear position. But i prefer to receive those thrusts in a way I can respond..I need to have my foot in the ground or maybe on top of sofa arms, having an angle going on, whatever but in steady balance..because I have a tendency to thrust back.. being flat in my tummy I could not respond back to him the way I tend to, I like to be free in movement and men bodies can become to heavy and suffocating on me..well..each person has their on preferences going on for sure.

When receiving cock thrusting inside I want to thrust back..sometimes it feels to me like a competition, I get energized and just react by the "thrustee" pumping. "Yeah.. who is going to cum first? I beat is you!" I am only competitive in those intimate situations and with the man I trust, to play hard. Yep.





Yes, as simbablk said, being too long doesn't go away. I don't know how much it would help for 9-incher, but positioning becomes important with a length issue.

I find rear entry with her on her stomach is especially wonderful. Her butt adds a "bumper," which limits penetration, but at the same time, you're thrusting through her thighs and cheeks, so you're still getting full-length sensation on your cock.
 

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Talking about positions and what we find wonderful and delish..the thing that I really loved about a 9 length was the rear positions..I have to say memories of it still giving me goose bumps ..the sensation of a long cock, doing long strokes in rear position. But i prefer to receive those thrusts in a way I can respond..I need to have my foot in the ground or maybe on top of sofa arms, having an angle going on, whatever but in steady balance..because I have a tendency to thrust back.. being flat in my tummy I could not respond back to him the way I tend to, I like to be free in movement and men bodies can become to heavy and suffocating on me..well..each person has their on preferences going on for sure.

When receiving cock thrusting inside I want to thrust back..sometimes it feels to me like a competition, I get energized and just react by the "thrustee" pumping. "Yeah.. who is going to cum first? I beat is you!" I am only competitive in those intimate situations and with the man I trust, to play hard. Yep.

sounds pretty hot
 

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UTIs are unfortunate, but there are some things she can do that can help prevent them. First, you should both be physically clean when you make love, preferably showering with an anti-bacterial soap immediately beforehand, and make love among clean sheets. You can make the showering part of the foreplay. This will lessen the chance of both dirt and microbial little beings being in the vicinity of her vagina. Immediately after sex, she should pee. Any sweat or sexual fluid that may have gotten into her urethra can be pissed right away. And, the old wive's tale is true, cranberry juice consumption helps maintain urethral health for both men and women. Drink a little with regularity. And not the sweetened "cocktail" stuff, but real, tart cranberry juice. I drink it with seltzer and make a spritzer out of it.
 

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I remember sex at first with me ex. I had to "break her in" as the thread puts it. I'm onl 6" long but I'm just over 6.5" thick, so length really isn't an issue for me, but girth is because I basically stretch the pussy out. :biggrin:

The first time we fucked, it hurt her, I remember her make painful noises, she was quite tight when we started together. It took a couple weeks for her to get used to fucking me. She liked to be on top because then she could control the speed and depth. When I would fuck her in a position where I was in control, she'd sometimes grab the sheets, pillow, or my hair/arms/shoulders while I screwed her. When I'd cum inside you, my cock would pulse and I'd feel her grip on me tighten. It took awhile for her to get used to it, but by the end of our relationship, she would just go at it with gusto.
 

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Does anyone else ever experience this? Hurting your girl a lot the first month or so but her gradually getting used to it? It's gotten better but she is still really sore after sex, will this ever completely go away? She says its from hitting her cervix but that seems unavoidable at times. Is it more for girth than length that they are able to adjust to? Just wondering if anyone has any experience on this.
Girth shouldn't be an issue if you use plenty of lube and she is aroused.

If you're hitting things that she finds painful, go for a shallower stroke or change positions.

If you do the above and she's still sore, have her talk to her gyno.