Bringing up the lady-bits

[554279]

No, I think in general women are much more critical of themselves than men.

I have met women that are very self conscious of the size of their labia or stretch marks and frankly most guys don't put high marks on it and for some of us its a turn on

 

[Dport]

Say nothing. It'll make me be over the top complimentary about to try to make you less self conscious... That whole situation should just be avoided.

 

[Dport]

Every one that says "all vaginas are beautiful" are full of shit. They're not all beautiful. Some look beat to shit and we all know it.

The good news is that it doesn't matter what it looks like. I'll stop sleeping with a woman over some pretty stupid reasons. But never because of what her pussy looks like. And I've seen some roast beef looking motherfuckers.

 

[185248]

There have been a few questions that get frequently asked to both the men and women here on our delightful penis forum... but one I feel hasn't really been asked of the men that us ladies have gotten more than a couple times.

Men with insecurities about their 'lack' of length have asked if there's a good way/time to bring it up to a woman before she sees it. I'd like to know from the gentlemen here, if a woman is insecure about the look/size of her vagina, should she put some kind of 'disclaimer' on it before she allows you to lay your eyes on her delightful bits?

Actually, my love was worried her vagina was large. Because she had given birth to 5 boys. Apparently, well I surmise it had come up in conversation with previous partners. She said she has a deep vagina.

No worries.

No, I have not measured her feminine apparatus. Perhaps there should be a sister thread on "Men Measuring Vaginas" ? But I know I hit it...The End.

mmmmmm... feminine apparitti..

 

[Notaes]

They are all beautiful! As long As I can feel it with my tongue, fingers and my cock I am happy. Of course seeing it is an added bonus!

 

[Beedie Tijii]

How I feel about it, from my perspective, is that I'd rather know that someone I'm intimate with has something they are perhaps feeling insecure about, whether it's a body issue or something else. But bringing something like that up immediately before sex probably isn't the ideal timing; it's more for pillow talk afterward. There's only such a thing as "too much information" if the timing is wrong.

 

[Mike hung]

There have been a few questions that get frequently asked to both the men and women here on our delightful penis forum... but one I feel hasn't really been asked of the men that us ladies have gotten more than a couple times.

Men with insecurities about their 'lack' of length have asked if there's a good way/time to bring it up to a woman before she sees it. I'd like to know from the gentlemen here, if a woman is insecure about the look/size of her vagina, should she put some kind of 'disclaimer' on it before she allows you to lay your eyes on her delightful bits?

Absolutely not, all vaginas are different there is no aspects of any vagina that has ever turned me off. Small, tight, big, lose, pretty, messy, big clit, small clit, hooded or not and not forgetting different sizes of labia, they're all fantastic in my eyes! Any man that has an issue with certain types of vagina hasn't reached manhood yet.
The only vaginal issue that may bother me is bad hygiene.
Don't worry, all kitty's are beautiful

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Don't worry, all kitty's are beautiful

I'm not worried. I only ask because I was curious to see how men feel about a prefacing disclaimer coming from a woman. Check out the threads we get in Ask A Woman about this kind of thing, and see our responses. Pretty different from what I'm getting here.

I thought it was just interesting.

 

[soren10]

I'm not worried. I only ask because I was curious to see how men feel about a prefacing disclaimer coming from a woman. Check out the threads we get in Ask A Woman about this kind of thing, and see our responses. Pretty different from what I'm getting here.

I thought it was just interesting.

What is that you get from this thread.? I mean what is the difference you notice in our responces here and yours ( women ) there.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

What is that you get from this thread.? I mean what is the difference you notice in our responces here and yours ( women ) there.

Well... obviously. Or I wouldn't have said that

Well, have a read. What do you notice?

 

[soren10]

Well I see that we have no problem with how it looks and we don't really care. This is what I get so far

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Well I see that we have no problem with how it looks and we don't really care. This is what I get so far

Most of the answers I see from the ladies here (myself included) are along the lines of not caring how big or what it looks like, they still seem to be uninterested in hearing anything about it before he pulls it out.

The fellas don't seem to be as put off by the idea of a lady mentioning her bits before he sees them.

Keep in mind, this isn't a question about if you're comfortable with vaginas that don't look a certain way, it's only about the potential of her bringing it up before you see it.

 

[soren10]

Most of the answers I see from the ladies here are along the lines of not caring how big or what it looks like, they still seem to be uninterested in hearing anything about it before he pulls it out.

The fellas don't seem to be as put off by the idea of a lady mentioning her bits before he sees them.

Keep in mind, this isn't a question about if you're comfortable with vaginas that don't look a certain way, it's only about the potential of her bringing it up before you see it.

I see your point. But there is a but in this situation, there are many kinds of pants that kinda reveal what we got ( bulge ) , women only have to check said bulge for a second or 2 and form an opinion about what we got , without asking. So there is that. Same goes for women and " camel toes ". But in most cases women don't have to ask and we don't have to tell, our " tools " are kinda visible. This helps size queens alot I reckon.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I see your point. But there is a but in this situation, there are many kinds of pants that kinda reveal what we got ( bulge ) do women only have to check said bulge for a second or 2 and form an opinion about what we got , without asking. So there is that. Same goes for women and " camel toes ". But in most cases women don't have to ask and we don't have to tell, our " tools " are kinda visible. This helps size queens alot I reckon.

Not really. My guy is well endowed, and you can't always just see the outline of his dick in his pants.

That and I'm not usually looking at crotch. When I check a guy out, I'm looking at the whole person. Not picking apart his 'parts'.

Also, you can't tell actually what my vag looks like no matter how much toe you may have a glance at.

 

[twoton]

I've never known a woman to be insecure about her lady bits. I didn't even know such an insecurity existed.

I can't imagine it being a problem in any case.

 

[soren10]

Not really. My guy is well endowed, and you can't always just see the outline of his dick in his pants.

That and I'm not usually looking at crotch. When I check a guy out, I'm looking at the whole person. Not picking apart his 'parts'.

Also, you can't tell actually what my vag looks like no matter how much toe you may have a glance at.

Sure but people are visual at first. We tend to perform a " full system scan ", when we look at someone we may not focus on certain body parts but we for sure check them. When a human sees another human , asses what he or she is up against, so to speak. Also there are some preferences regarding looks, it's a " lie " not to admit that most people wish the guy or girl they date to be the complete package. Like a guy wishing the girl he checks out at the club to have legit big books and not a push up bra, much the same way women wish the charming and good looking guy they meet to have the kind of " equipment " they prefer. It's not a deal breaker but it'll be nice if that happened, is all I'm saying.

 

[deleted992152]

There's no need to disclaim anything, as we're all unique.
Can't think of anything more off-putting than a matter of fact preamble regarding her "bits" - of course if she feels the need to talk about them DURING proceedings then that's very different (and something I'd enthusiastically encourage ;-))

 

[dongalong]

There have been a few questions that get frequently asked to both the men and women here on our delightful penis forum... but one I feel hasn't really been asked of the men that us ladies have gotten more than a couple times.

Men with insecurities about their 'lack' of length have asked if there's a good way/time to bring it up to a woman before she sees it. I'd like to know from the gentlemen here, if a woman is insecure about the look/size of her vagina, should she put some kind of 'disclaimer' on it before she allows you to lay your eyes on her delightful bits?

No. If there is an issue or incompatibility, that can be resolved later, with kegels, different positions, etc. There's always a solution!

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Every one that says "all vaginas are beautiful" are full of shit. They're not all beautiful. Some look beat to shit and we all know it.

The good news is that it doesn't matter what it looks like. I'll stop sleeping with a woman over some pretty stupid reasons. But never because of what her pussy looks like. And I've seen some roast beef looking motherfuckers.

Damn, I don't know how I missed this one..

Brutally honest.

 

[Dport]

Not even brutally honest really. Just common knowledge.

It's one thing if a woman is feeling blue and fishing for a compliment, I'll oblige. We all have those moments.

But this thing, where most people just pour on the sickly sweet compliments, doesn't help anyone. It's predictable and boring.

This "Every woman is beautiful!! All men are handsome!!" shit is no different than telling a suicidal person "Everyone is happy and so are you!!"

Acknowledge the ugliness, the depression, the unfairness of it all, then figure out a way forward.... Or whatever and what not.