Bromance

[223790]

i have several buddies who i am close with. we talk about everything from from a bad shit to what we want out of life.

after college we got closer and spent more time together and we do guy stuff. go play soccer in plano, or go mountain biking in rowlett. titty bars on 5 dollar tuesdays, too lol.

the more time i spend with them the more i feel like it's more than just a normal guy friendship. sometimes i think i'm faggin out and it's all in my head, but we have some much horseplay i dunno, it's almost like flirting. this usually happens after we have had some to drink and smoke so everythings hazy and red-eyed, but also sort of sort-of magical.. lol.

some buds have no problem takin off their clothes right in front of me as i proceed to make fun of their dick size. one time i was makin fun of my friends dick as he was roaming around his place drunk as fuck and he was like "you want this dick you faggit ass mutha fucka" and he gripped it in front of me. i was like, "w/e dude, if i wanted to see baby dicks i would go to the nursery ward" lol he said "shut yo simple ass up bitch, you MY BITCH! you want me to jack this shit off and show you a baby peen???"

with all that said i've never fooled around with any of my friends. we've been naked in front of each other, been on all levels of fucked-up with each other, we spend a lot of time together.

we all have our own places, but sometimes i can spend like a whole week with a bud and just continue on this perpetual state of hanging out. sometimes we pass out on the couch together, or some offer their beds instead of their shitty couches. ive woken up in the middle of the day after a mind-bender naked in bed with my buddies (guys and girls) knowing that nothing sexual happened.

all of this reminds me of my relationships with girls, sans the sex -- is the point of the story, i guess. i can be very infatuated with a girl i'm dating and spend all of my time with her the same way i do with my buddies. sometimes i do want a sexual component but fear it would fuck things up. the farthest sexually that i've gone with buddies is trade passwords for porn sites or send links to some nice tits lol

anyone else have a bromance?

Been there. Unfortunately it will all come to a crashing stop once your friends get married. :frown1:

 

[223790]

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[D_Martin van Burden]

I fell in with a good group of guys last year and we're all pretty close. One of them is married to a grad school colleague of mine, and the other two hold down decent jobs. We get together a few times a month to go out for drinks or dancing or having a meal. I'd say within the past few months we have all grown pretty close. We talk to each other about things that matter, say what's on our minds, and, yeah, we hug and say we love each other.

 

[Florida Boy]

From your photos you are excellent Bromance, and other material. Hang in there, see what happens. Marriage and knocking someone up can change all that, unfortunately.

 

[Rugbypup]

I've had one or two bromances now... they're great, I've always felt really good in them, for a short time anyway.

The trouble I've had is that after a while the relationship does develop to the point were you have to remind yourself it's not a committed romance and you must take a step back, else you end up living in each others pocket and bitching like an old married couple.

Folk look at you and start treating you like 'a couple'.

The bromance I've had do ultimately seem to have generated a degree of sexual tension and I guess that's where things get laughed off, discreetly mutually gratifying or things just fall apart. Depends weather you're gay or straight I guess.

All mine fell apart, I was either too young or too unable to cope with homosexuality for it to have gone any other way.

But I firmly believe bromances are natural and normal for men to form, be they straight or gay. They are a refining part of masculinity. It's more part of being male that whether you're straight or gay.

Enjoy it while you can.

 

[B_Hung Jon]

It's just close friendships. It's what people do when they care about each other. Just appreciate the love for the moment because it generally does change after they get married. I hate that part!

 

[B_Nick4444]

have had a few (great memories of scenes that went a bit farther than what the OP described), but am currently in between

it seems every time I have a change of school or job, I lose a set of friends, and get a new set (changed jobs about eleven months ago)

fortunately, I have some prospects in mind, but am tied down to a lot of studying and a job

hopefully, I'll have someone I get stupid with soon

 

[SR_Manny Manparts]

No bromances here. They do sound fun though, and it would be nice to have a bro to share everything with.

 

[beltboy]

i have several buddies who i am close with. we talk about everything from from a bad shit to what we want out of life.

after college we got closer and spent more time together and we do guy stuff. go play soccer in plano, or go mountain biking in rowlett. titty bars on 5 dollar tuesdays, too lol.

the more time i spend with them the more i feel like it's more than just a normal guy friendship. sometimes i think i'm faggin out and it's all in my head, but we have some much horseplay i dunno, it's almost like flirting. this usually happens after we have had some to drink and smoke so everythings hazy and red-eyed, but also sort of sort-of magical.. lol.

some buds have no problem takin off their clothes right in front of me as i proceed to make fun of their dick size. one time i was makin fun of my friends dick as he was roaming around his place drunk as fuck and he was like "you want this dick you faggit ass mutha fucka" and he gripped it in front of me. i was like, "w/e dude, if i wanted to see baby dicks i would go to the nursery ward" lol he said "shut yo simple ass up bitch, you MY BITCH! you want me to jack this shit off and show you a baby peen???"

with all that said i've never fooled around with any of my friends. we've been naked in front of each other, been on all levels of fucked-up with each other, we spend a lot of time together.

we all have our own places, but sometimes i can spend like a whole week with a bud and just continue on this perpetual state of hanging out. sometimes we pass out on the couch together, or some offer their beds instead of their shitty couches. ive woken up in the middle of the day after a mind-bender naked in bed with my buddies (guys and girls) knowing that nothing sexual happened.

all of this reminds me of my relationships with girls, sans the sex -- is the point of the story, i guess. i can be very infatuated with a girl i'm dating and spend all of my time with her the same way i do with my buddies. sometimes i do want a sexual component but fear it would fuck things up. the farthest sexually that i've gone with buddies is trade passwords for porn sites or send links to some nice tits lol

anyone else have a bromance?

Its clear that you want more than just the bromance....and that you are feeling that tension. I say, test the waters and see if any of the other guys would be willing to push the limits of the friendship. Guys do get off with other guys, and it a great bonding experience. Start with mutual jerk sessions, and keep it there for a while. Sorry, Im not a purist...many of my straight friends were situationally gay with me...lol

 

[D_Tim McGnaw]

I think the term Bromance stems from the fact that in some cultures (normally english speaking ones) men are not taught to think that men can share a perfectly natural love for one another without being in love so to speak. Women in these cultures on the other hand seem to be encouraged to view extremely intimate and close friendship as perfectly normal and frequently talk about how much they love their female friends (and male friends too sometimes) and how much they miss them when they're apart, they are not discouraged from finding deep emotional fulfillment from their friendships and being honest about that.

Men frequently are discouraged from this, and as a result when these kinds of friendships are formed they are unexpected or in some cases even unsettling and confusing, this has lead people to seek new terminology for a phenomenon which is as much a part of masculinity as it is femininity. Deep and intense love of one's close friends is normal, it's human, it's as old as being human I suspect.

 

[im8cut]

I think the term Bromance stems from the fact that in some cultures (normally english speaking ones) men are not taught to think that men can share a perfectly natural love for one another without being in love so to speak.

I think you may be right, but it only makes the experience more intense and fulfilling. American puritan values makes doing anything out of the norm. Our repression allows for unique expression, not to sound too corny.

I'm from Santo Domingo and things are a lot free-er there. Being an hour in any direction from a beach will make anyone happy. Guys are a lot more playful sorta, lots of times I'd just have to make fun of someone for having a small dick and peerpressure them into proving they weren't small. Lots of times when my group of friends and I were bored we'd just put in a porn and jerk off. All in the same room -- no problems.

In America however the atmosphere is different. I wouldn't even know how to broach my vacation fun to my buddies here. Sex is simply unacceptable. Which is fine, actually.

I've been to other countries where homosexuality does not even exist in any way like in the West. My buddies over there aren't any less fun than my American buds.

But in the end I do feel sappy about the American bromances. Last night my buddy was over and we were just smoking dro and talking about shit. We went swimming earlier in the afternoon and had some fun @ the pool and we were planning on playing some games @ his place. Sure enough his girlfriend (who i'm friends with) calls and says she's on her way. I know this means our time will be cut short so they can fuck. I'm the middle of our "high times" he starts talking about how horny he is and how he's been waiting to fuck her. In too much detail. I can't even think of her in a sexual way since she's kinda his property but I can appreciate how hot she is. And I'm sure I can appreciate her big tits on my face lol.

I thought about what some of yall said about marriage and babies.. So I guess I'll have to enjoy this while it lasts.

 

[Ocean1]

I Have 2 very close friends. I met them in 6th grade. We Love each other and arent afraid to say it. we talk about everything from girls, to movies to porn to car to life. They have been really supportive in my career and I wouldnt be where I am today without them. I love those guys to death. Since I live n LA now I visit them once a year or so. I just got back from a week with them actually. We hang out , Work out, chase chicks, play video games, whatever.

We are all straight but we arent afraid to talk about more " girly" things. My 1 bro was freaking out about his clothes before we went to a party or I was 100% infactuated with both the musical and movie Hairspray; they never made fun like some guys would've.
Also we will share beds overnite no prob. I swear somedays all 3 of us sit in bed and just cuddle and hug. not gay @ all. We just love eachother a lot! At first I kinda felt uncomfortable doing that but not anymore.
We say the greatest male bonding experiences are cuddling,lol, showering and gym. of course we dont do that with any friends. Just between us bros.!

During our teens we had many sexual adventures. We are all pretty hung and good looking guys so we get lots of chicks and stuff. When they come to LA i make sure to take them to some parties so they can c what Cali has to offer! We talk about getting blowjobs, banging chicks and what turns us on. is there any sexual tension... no. competition?... yea! especially between me and my Bro Drew.
I grew up w/ 4 sisters and no bros. I'm very fortunate to have such close friends and I love those guys to death. I LOVE THEM and we arent afraid to say it or show it.

 

[ck1x]

I'm starting one now with this guy I work with. You kinda just know that it's gonna be more than a traditional friendship, because it's just so easy to talk to him about anything. Me and this guy have known each other for just a few years, but we are so much alike and like the same things. I really do love and care for the guy as if he were my brother, but just not in a sexual way.(I don't think) lol... Which I think is what makes a bromance a different kind of relationship. I can see myself doing and being around this guy all of the time, but not so much in a sexual manner. Just enjoying his company!

 

[D_Chaumbrelayne_Copprehead]

I'm a middle-aged married guy now, but miss just hanging with buds you feel close to and can say or do anything with and they don't judge you.

So many relationships are about posturing and posing ... yuck. If you're a man, women don't really understand you (and vice versa). Just good to have someone who's fun and easy and totally accepts you.

 

[latinfreak]

its normal just dont get over infatuated with the guy if you start having feelings...i have a lot of "bromances" they see me as the wild party guy, espec if they are married but i never done anything sexual with them...i know if i give in and something happens it might be the point of no return, for me or them! That type of bonding is fun and healthy i think...anyone who hasnt experienced it should, regardless of age

 

[SR_Manny Manparts]

i think we can say that the relationships built here are bromances !

 

[Ocean1]

bump

 

[jockmaestro]

Bromances are great. The entire world would be better off if men could freely express their affection for other guys without it necessarily being sexual. Imagine a world where guys were supportive of other guys instead of being competitive with them, and where guys could be emotionally expressive. Wouldn't things improve?

 

[curiouscam]

I think sometimes we get in our heads that it's wrong to ever be close to another man without it somehow being gay or meaning you are weak. Women have amazing relationships with other women and they share all kinds of shit. I would just be grateful for the closeness and being able to be open and genuinely you around your friends. Call it a bromance or call it something else, just enjoy it for what it is.

 

[GTAFan84]

Bromances are great while they last. Just recently had a friend who started it and then our friendship just burned out. Enjoy it while it lasts :smile:. Hopefully you can be good enough friends that it all works out.