Brother & friend with my GF

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I wonder what OP omitted in "to make a long story short," and I'm a little surprised to find that OP learned of the three-way from his gf. I think ShannonH was essentially correct -- the relationship with the girl is doomed (can there be any possible excuse?), the relationship with the buddy need not continue, and the relationship with the brother has to continue, though, perhaps distantly, until the brother can ask forgiveness for a monumental act of disrespect, and OP can and wants to respond out of family unity.
 

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It wasn't the OP's buddy. It was the brother's buddy -- some seem to be confused on that.

I would never be able to trust my brother again around a future girlfriend or wife and he would therefore instantly and permanenly be out of my life.

They didn't respect you -- be sure you respect yourself. Eliminate them all from your life. They treated you terribly.
 

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Forgive your brother, dump your girlfriend, and punch your brother's buddy in the face.

Agreed entirely with a little further qualification. I would forgive the brother only if:
1) it was entirely out of character for him.
2) he was genuinely sorry, and agreed to end the friendship with the buddy and never sees the girl again.
 

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That's what they say. But that's a saying that bad seeds in a family often use to get away with abusing the trust of their loved ones. Family is what family does. If the OP is telling a true story, that brother isn't family.
supposed to.
but a brother who would do that is no brother at all.
 

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When a poster's FIRST post is this improbable, I'm more than suspicious.



Think
first post in 5 months, is a little more credible, than a first post in a first hour ..
besides, take most LPSG talk with a grain of salt, no ones ever going to know if its a truth or not huh?
 

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This stuff happens. Even worse stuff happens. I've had.. although different just as intense and improbable but they took place nontheless. Scarring. That is unavoidable.

Unless they were beyond smashed and on crazy psychedelics.. there is no way you can do something like this without a good percentage of you being aware of the gross action you are participating in. I'm not saying threesomes are gross here. This particular one is though. No conscience. wtf..

• the friend fuck him
• the girlfriend vomit fuuuuuck her too
• the brother.... he's your brother right.. yes.. but.. problem is it was a threesome... stupid things can happen when two people spend an evening exchanging powerfully.. now a threesome.. Bleh do I even need to continue..? This one you need to figure out alone with your heart.

I'm so sorry man. Be strong, take what you can learn from this experience, clean up and move on.

The entire rest of your life awaits you! :) xox
 
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Dump the chick, she's trash
Forget the brother's buddy cause he is only peripheral excrement
Accept the fact that your brother is no friend of yours and remember that. Keep whatever family ties you see as necessary on the surface but write him off,
No excuse for this, wasted or not.
Wonder what would happen next time you aren't there?
 

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He is your brother not by choice. He should have been looking out for his brothers gf, protecting her.
No excuse. Say nothing . Never speak to any of them again.
They fckdd you over once and they will again if you keep them in your life.
Don't get mad or even. Just get on with healing. Move and say nothing.
If any one should ask why your not talking to them just tell the truth.
 

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Being drunk explains it, but doesn't justify or excuse it by any means. Keep a calm head and have some serious conversations with people, and if that doesn't work, a friend of mine is fond of saying... "Sometimes if feels good to take the trash out after a party"
 
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Your brother's buddy has no obligation to you… Forget him. Your girlfriend had an obligation to you but she was honest sorry… Ditch her anyway. Your brother had most obligation to you and he screwed you over the worst. Has he been honest with you?

In any case, it sounds like an episode of Jerry Springer