Brother-in-law dilemma

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  1. Opm_1

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    I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and have been attracted to his brother, Mario, since i first met him. I am 24 and Mario is 38 and I cant help but fantasize about him. He is more of a bear type that I have always fantasized about but have never experienced. He's always commenting on how great I look and whenever he drinks, he always likes to touch more than usual. He rubs my ears, or holds my hands when i hand him a beer or something. I know that if I ever made a move he would go along with it, but i feel really bad about thinking that. We have an upcoming vacation and think it would be the perfect opportunity to make my move and finally have sex with him. thoughts?
     
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    Have you talked with your BF about this? What are the rules of your relationship? Is your BIL gay/bi?
     
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    I think I saw this movie...
     
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    Been there! My advice... stay away from him!

    Keep all that as a fantasy on my experience me and my BF (now ex-bf) after a 10yr relationship split due a fantasy that we made real.

    Talk about that with your BF but in more polite way u can do that... after all the guy you are attracted to is his brother!

    Leo!
     
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    Acting on this fantasy will not go well no matter what.
     
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    please do not make a move on him trust me whats playing in your head is not real...not only have you been with your b/f 5 years but omg thats his brother
     
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    AMEN TO THAT!

    Leo
     
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    DON'T DO IT!

    Guys get touchy when they drink so that doesn't mean he wants sex! WARNING! Also, even if you have an open relationship with your BF, that does NOT mean open to siblings! You could totally repulse your boyfriend and this is pretty much a 99% guarantee of a break up. Just remember, blood relatives stick together and if anything ever came up between the two of you, you are the one who is out, not the brother!
     
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    u have any pictures to share of em?
     
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    Good grief, touching you whether he is drunk or not is really disrespectful of your relationship with the brother you are 'with'. Bring it to your present man's attention and get him to stop--- unless you want to switch brothers. If so, do the breakup completely and then let brother number two do as he likes.

    As it is you are enjoying and encouraging 'unfaithful' behavior, and that leads to hurt. You obviously are not sufficiently serious about brother number one to control your imagination. Get loose, then decide what you actually want.
     
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    Don't do it. Not much more I can say.
     
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    Didn't end well, did it? :cool:
     
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    I say go for it, but be courteous and videotape it so that you can show it to your boyfriend later.
     
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    Any chance they have a sister? :D
     
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    thank you for the advice. I have never told anyone about this and writing it down and seeing your responses gives me a better perspective on the situation. I am a victim to the human condition of wanting what I can't have and combined with my high sex drive sometimes leads me down dangerous paths. It's happened once before with a straight co worker of mine, but i stopped it right before it went too far. The BIL situation would end badly in so many ways, so it will have to just stay a fantasy.
     
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    That is not enough, opm... you need to quit letting the brother feel you up, if that is your choice. Play fair and get the both of them to play fair as well.

    Who knows? Your man may know all about what his brother is doing and be tickled to have a threesome. But you'll never know unless you discuss the situation openly.
     
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    Usually the hardest things to communicate, once done, transform the whole experience. Living honestly and openly is hard but the rewards are worth facing your fears.
     
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    Oh for fuck sake jump his bones,if boyfriend finds out,suggest threeway. If get dumped see if brothers interested, if not,is their father still around.hell you could get a good foursome going.
     
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    glad u decided not to do anything - it's possible that he's just one of those "touchy-feely" guys & you read his actions wrong...
     
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