Bulge Confidence - What Do You Tell Yourself?

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Hello Men With Big Bulges Who Show Off,

When you put on those lycra tights and let it all hang out, what sorts of thoughts go through your head? I’m particularly interested in whether or not you feel any fear or shame about being big, and if so, how you overcome them. If no fear or shame pops up, what are your thoughts instead?

I didn’t always have a big bulge, so I’m still trying to psych myself up to show it off in public. I wrote some hypnosis scripts but they haven’t helped with the weird shame/fear that keeps coming up when I think of people seeing my bulge at the gym or in the grocery store or wherever.

Right now I have thoughts like “What if somebody’s kid sees it?” or “What if it disgusts someone?” or “Someone is going to humiliate me.”

I’m in no way saying my thoughts are rational. I’m trying to get some good key-phrases to use that will help me overcome my bulge shame and convert it into bulge pride. So men, what do you tell yourself before you show off?

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I wasn’t always this big.
 

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I don't wear tights or other emphasising clothing but don't hesitate to wear speedo type swimsuits in public, including where children are present.
I have never has any problems with any of these suits.
 

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Why would you be unsure being big?
I’m just hoping someone who isn’t unsure can tell me what words and thoughts go through their mind when they’re heading to the gym/pool/grocery store sporting a big bulge.

It’s hard to explain why I’m insecure because emotion, not logic makes me feel that way.

Instead of feeling proud, I feel embarrassed. I want the confidence to show off, but I feel fear.
 
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I often wear shorts/pants that show a clear vdl, some of my mesh shorts actually show my junk through the mesh. Most of my clothes are made of very thin material and when I walk around my junk bouncing around and pushing against the material is very obvious. That said, I'm not one of those guys who looks around to see if anyone is looking at me. I walk as if nothing at all is visible. I just like wearing clothes that make me feel totally comfortable. I also never wear underwear of any kind. If I find myself in a situation where what I am wearing is inappropriate, I casually bring my hands down to partially obscure things. I don't care if people look, but I am not out there hoping to catch glances in the least bit.
 

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I don't wear tights or other emphasising clothing but don't hesitate to wear speedo type swimsuits in public, including where children are present.
I have never has any problems with any of these suits.
I have just remembered that I have been wearing three of the swimsuits pictured in my previous post (the silver, red and blue ones) since 1985 and didn't realise that I had a significant and possibly embarrassing bulge until I got my first comment on it in 2010 when I posted this picture on Flickr.
 

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As a young man I was more self-conscience of my junk showing, now I’m definitely aware it is visible (I’m a dedicated crotch watcher myself) but not embarrassed by it in the slightest.
I had a good laugh recently after a family holiday gathering. My cousin sent me this picture she snapped sitting next to me at a dinner table. She said I should stop wearing flesh colored underwear. The embarrassing part to me was that because of the tight pants and family setting (my cock in its smallest state) I look like I have a camel toe, LOL. Well, that and the fact that they were brand new slacks and looked moth eaten in the crotch!
 

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I'm interested in what you said about hypnosis scripts. Tell me more. Go to a private conversation if you want.
I show off a bulge all the time. My thoughts are 3 fold...
I'm probably not going to offend anyone because if people aren't interested they generally don't notice.
I might get a glance or even a prolonged stare which is sexually exciting especially if it is from an attractive person. Depending on the environment, I might even have someone follow me into the bathroom.
It makes me feel powerful and masculine.
 

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I'm interested in what you said about hypnosis scripts. Tell me more. Go to a private conversation if you want.
I show off a bulge all the time. My thoughts are 3 fold...
I'm probably not going to offend anyone because if people aren't interested they generally don't notice.
I might get a glance or even a prolonged stare which is sexually exciting especially if it is from an attractive person. Depending on the environment, I might even have someone follow me into the bathroom.
It makes me feel powerful and masculine.
I’m happy to talk about hypnosis scripts. I am not a hypnotist, but I do write scripts for myself.

I dump a script into “Notes” on an iPad or my Mac and use the text-to-speech feature to put myself under and implant the suggestions. The relatively monotone voice on the Mac is perfect for inducing a mild state of hypnosis. If you add enough deepeners, you can really go under.

You can find free inductions and deepeners online (search free hypnosis scripts). You’ll get good results, but a couple of sites don’t really let you have anything.

The free hypnosis videos on YouTube are REALLY good for a lot of general self-help topics and for sleep, but they don’t work well for specific hang ups. Those have to be personalized or they miss the mark.

If you have personal questions about it, please feel free to start a private conversation.
 
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I'm 43 with 3 kids but I cannot stand wearing baggy jeans. I only wear light grey if showing off though!
That‘s a big bulge. Again, do you tell yourself anything to assuage any worries about someone seeing it and being offended or whatever?
 
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That‘s a big bulge. Again, do you tell yourself anything to assuage any worries about someone seeing it and being offended or whatever?
If anyone said anything, I'd call them out for body shaming.

Women wear revealing skin-tight clothes even in professional circles.

I used to concern myself when married...not anymore!

Should I?
 

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Awesome! Any particular words go through your mind when you step out the door packing heat?
Can’t wait to see people stealing a glimpse! It’s pretty fun to catch women or men gawking!!
 

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If anyone said anything, I'd call them out for body shaming.

Women wear revealing skin-tight clothes even in professional circles.

I used to concern myself when married...not anymore!

Should I?
No. You shouldn’t. I have a hang-up about it. I would hate if it were contagious! I like the idea it’s body shaming. I can incorporate that into my script.
 

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I'm interested in what you said about hypnosis scripts. Tell me more. Go to a private conversation if you want.
I show off a bulge all the time. My thoughts are 3 fold...
I'm probably not going to offend anyone because if people aren't interested they generally don't notice.
I might get a glance or even a prolonged stare which is sexually exciting especially if it is from an attractive person. Depending on the environment, I might even have someone follow me into the bathroom.
It makes me feel powerful and masculine.
YES! You took the words right out of my mouth!!! All of it---
 
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