Burning During Anal Sex

[Kontakt69]

Hi, Guys. My question is more for bottoms. And sorry for bad English.
I’ve been trying to practice anal sex for about 5 years and still can’t do it normally. I had partners with normal and small dicks and tried to relax myself for a long time after preparings (massage, enema). Always the same problem - burning inside, even with a large amount of lubricant. I regularly visit the doctor for prevention, I am healthy - no hemorrhoids, no fissures, no other diseases. I did a RRS and even colonoscopy several times - I'm healthy. But I still can’t do normal anal sex. I tried butt plugs and sticks (good quality, medical silicone, expensive ones), I can normally take a diameter of 3 cm without burning and pain. But more diameter is pain and burning. I tried to increase the size gradually, still the same.
Maybe someone have the same problem? Maybe it's an allergy to the lubricant? although I tried a lot of different ones. Or maybe some of you knows good cure or treatment before and after Anal sex?
I would really appreciate for any advice.
When I see in porn how guys accept huge dicks or even fists, for me it's like a fantastic movie! I don’t understand how this is possible. But i realy wanna do anal sex,like a bottom and my boyfriend want it.

 

[5307911]

I would take a look at the lube first to see if your body is having a reaction to that. Do you get the pain and burning using lube even with smaller objects? Are you only using silicone based lube?

If you are doing preparation, including relaxing and gradual loosening up of the sphincter, and still getting pain after hitting a size threshold..maybe you are just not built to put larger things in there. Just because your mind is saying yes, doesn't mean the body has to follow along.

 

[Kontakt69]

I would take a look at the lube first to see if your body is having a reaction to that. Do you get the pain and burning using lube even with smaller objects? Are you only using silicone based lube?

If you are doing preparation, including relaxing and gradual loosening up of the sphincter, and still getting pain after hitting a size threshold..maybe you are just not built to put larger things in there. Just because your mind is saying yes, doesn't mean the body has to follow along.

Thanx for answer! I'm always using waterbase lube (Durex, Contex Wave). If I'm using small ojects (diameter 3 cm or less), Everything is ok. I feel resistance on the internal sphincter, but when I get inside - everything is fine, there is no pain or burning. I tried a fwe times silicon based lube - it was more uncomfortable? more burning, so now im using only waterbase.

 

[Brodie888]

My questions would be:

1. Tell me how much lube you are normally using and do you use more during sex and if so how often.

2. Are you using condoms. If so, what type.

3. How long before you get the pain and how long does it last.

4. Do you jump directly to over 3cm diameter or is there a progression in your foreplay.

 

[henry777]

If you feel pain it's because you're not using enough lube and not prepared enough. More foreplay.

 

[5307911]

Thanx for answer! I'm always using waterbase lube (Durex, Contex Wave). If I'm using small ojects (diameter 3 cm or less), Everything is ok. I feel resistance on the internal sphincter, but when I get inside - everything is fine, there is no pain or burning. I tried a fwe times silicon based lube - it was more uncomfortable? more burning, so now im using only waterbase.

So maybe it is just a size issue. If smaller objects, with lube, aren't causing the pain and burning, then I would discount any allergies.

As @Brodie888 mentioned, when you go to a larger size, are you doing it gradually with slightly larger toys? That would give the muscles time to adjust, rather than pushing something through before they've stretched. If you are doing all that, it is still possible that there is a physiological source out of your control, and you may have to settle for smaller toys and less girthy penises.

At the end of the day, you don't need to have a fist and forearm up your ass to receive satisfying anal stimulation. Even a finger rubbing the prostate can give the best results.

 

[Kontakt69]

My questions would be:

1. Tell me how much lube you are normally using and do you use more during sex and if so how often.

2. Are you using condoms. If so, what type.

3. How long before you get the pain and how long does it last.

4. Do you jump directly to over 3cm diameter or is there a progression in your foreplay.

Hi, man! Thanx for answer.
1. Im using really a lotof lube, never dry.
2. Actualy with small toys I'm not using condoms, because it's medical selicone, just lube and i don't feel any burning or pain. But with a little bit bigger toy i'm using condom (Contex classic) and lube. And I feel strong burning. In this case I'm using condom because toy have a rough surface and condom makes it smoth. Maybe burning because of condom, but allergies to natural latex are rare and I haven’t noticed anything like this before.
3. I begin to feel a burning as soon as I try to insert a bigger toy and this continues until I remove it. After extraction, after a couple of minutes, burning stops.
4. Actualy even 3 cm its a progress for me.I started from 1,5 cm. But 3 cm its continues really long time, years.

 

[Kontakt69]

So maybe it is just a size issue. If smaller objects, with lube, aren't causing the pain and burning, then I would discount any allergies.

At the end of the day, you don't need to have a fist and forearm up your ass to receive satisfying anal stimulation. Even a finger rubbing the prostate can give the best results.

I don't wanna do fisting, but I really wanna do anal sex as a bottom at least with normal size dick (4-4,5 cm)

 

[Brodie888]

Hi, man! Thanx for answer.
1. Im using really a lotof lube, never dry.
2. Actualy with small toys I'm not using condoms, because it's medical selicone, just lube and i don't feel any burning or pain. But with a little bit bigger toy i'm using condom (Contex classic) and lube. And I feel strong burning. In this case I'm using condom because toy have a rough surface and condom makes it smoth. Maybe burning because of condom, but allergies to natural latex are rare and I haven’t noticed anything like this before.
3. I begin to feel a burning as soon as I try to insert a bigger toy and this continues until I remove it. After extraction, after a couple of minutes, burning stops.
4. Actualy even 3 cm its a progress for me.I started from 1,5 cm. But 3 cm its continues really long time, years.

Try using a small toy with a condom. That will rule in or out an allergy to the condoms you are using. It may not be the latex, it could be another additive that brand uses.

I'm not sure you understand what we mean by progression. Eg during a session, you might start with one finger, then after a minute you use 2 fingers, then after a minute use 3 fingers, then a small dildo, then a thicker dildo.

Progression isn't using a finger today then using 3 fingers tomorrow.

 

[Kontakt69]

Try using a small toy with a condom. That will rule in or out an allergy to the condoms you are using. It may not be the latex, it could be another additive that brand uses.

I'm not sure you understand what we mean by progression. Eg during a session, you might start with one finger, then after a minute you use 2 fingers, then after a minute use 3 fingers, then a small dildo, then a thicker dildo.

Progression isn't using a finger today then using 3 fingers tomorrow.

Yes, Man, I will try small toy with condom. Good idea.
And about progress. Of course I understand it correctly

 

[Brodie888]

Yes, Man, I will try small toy with condom. Good idea.
And about progress. Of course I understand it correctly

Let us know how this goes, it has nothing to do with girth so if it's not an allergy then it has to be something else.

 

[bravesoldier]

Hi, Guys. My question is more for bottoms. And sorry for bad English.
I’ve been trying to practice anal sex for about 5 years and still can’t do it normally. I had partners with normal and small dicks and tried to relax myself for a long time after preparings (massage, enema). Always the same problem - burning inside, even with a large amount of lubricant. I regularly visit the doctor for prevention, I am healthy - no hemorrhoids, no fissures, no other diseases. I did a RRS and even colonoscopy several times - I'm healthy. But I still can’t do normal anal sex. I tried butt plugs and sticks (good quality, medical silicone, expensive ones), I can normally take a diameter of 3 cm without burning and pain. But more diameter is pain and burning. I tried to increase the size gradually, still the same.
Maybe someone have the same problem? Maybe it's an allergy to the lubricant? although I tried a lot of different ones. Or maybe some of you knows good cure or treatment before and after Anal sex?
I would really appreciate for any advice.
When I see in porn how guys accept huge dicks or even fists, for me it's like a fantastic movie! I don’t understand how this is possible. But i realy wanna do anal sex,like a bottom and my boyfriend want it.

My experience- you can lube the anal canal fine but it's the anal sphincter muscle that you breach to get in that doesn't always stay lubed and that is what burns. Poppers does wonders by dilating this tight muscle. Put bead after bead of lube on the hole and get your partner to slowly push that in over and over. Going in will push the lube right past the sphincter but eventually you get it wet enough. Nothing worse than burning pain during anal.

The reason it hurts so is because the anal sphincter is so incredibly tight. Again, poppers will dilate the sphincter and you'll take a great sigh of relief.

I've heard some say they can't use poppers for different reasons though.

 

[Kontakt69]

Let us know how this goes, it has nothing to do with girth so if it's not an allergy then it has to be something else.

Hi, Man. I did some experement First I tried a small toy with a lubricant without a condom, everything was fine, no any burning, just just a little bit normal preasure in the beggining. Then I used a condom with a small toy, I did not feel a strong burning, but penetration has become more difficult. it seems like lube doesn't work good with condom and dries or absorbs quickly. I used water-based lubricant Contex and classic Contex condom. I decided, just in case, next week I would do an allergen test, it's cheap and easy.

 

[Kontakt69]

My experience- you can lube the anal canal fine but it's the anal sphincter muscle that you breach to get in that doesn't always stay lubed and that is what burns. Poppers does wonders by dilating this tight muscle. Put bead after bead of lube on the hole and get your partner to slowly push that in over and over. Going in will push the lube right past the sphincter but eventually you get it wet enough. Nothing worse than burning pain during anal.

The reason it hurts so is because the anal sphincter is so incredibly tight. Again, poppers will dilate the sphincter and you'll take a great sigh of relief.

I've heard some say they can't use poppers for different reasons though.

Yes, Man. It can be... My internal anal sphincter is really strong. I tried to find a way to relax anal sphincter safely. As you said Poppers is the most effective and poppular way. But i cant use it. Its hits heart. My blood preasure is always high, even coffee is fordiden So I dont wanna risk.
I know another effective way to relax anal sphincter! It is Nitroglycerin Ointment. Its one of the really effective cure for anal fissures. The main action is the relaxation of anal sphincter. But it has one side effect is a strong headache. Ive tried to use it, but headache comes immediately. And all dissire to play with ass is gone.

Actually I hope to hind anather effective way to relax anal sphincter.. Maybe some Ointments or something. It can be really differet in different countries. Maybe somebody can give good advice.

Thanl You for answer!

 

[Brodie888]

Hi, Man. I did some experement First I tried a small toy with a lubricant without a condom, everything was fine, no any burning, just just a little bit normal preasure in the beggining. Then I used a condom with a small toy, I did not feel a strong burning, but penetration has become more difficult. it seems like lube doesn't work good with condom and dries or absorbs quickly. I used water-based lubricant Contex and classic Contex condom. I decided, just in case, next week I would do an allergen test, it's cheap and easy.

Try the small toy again with the condom and pay attention to how much lube you need to use and how often to achieve the right level of friction.

Then get a condom on a slightly bigger toy and apply the lube at the same rate. If that's fine then go up a size again.

Try that and report back.

If it was an allergy then you would have had the burning with the small toy already.

 

[bravesoldier]

Yes, Man. It can be... My internal anal sphincter is really strong. I tried to find a way to relax anal sphincter safely. As you said Poppers is the most effective and poppular way. But i cant use it. Its hits heart. My blood preasure is always high, even coffee is fordiden So I dont wanna risk.
I know another effective way to relax anal sphincter! It is Nitroglycerin Ointment. Its one of the really effective cure for anal fissures. The main action is the relaxation of anal sphincter. But it has one side effect is a strong headache. Ive tried to use it, but headache comes immediately. And all dissire to play with ass is gone.

Actually I hope to hind anather effective way to relax anal sphincter.. Maybe some Ointments or something. It can be really differet in different countries. Maybe somebody can give good advice.

Thanl You for answer!

Inflatable butt plug.. Stretch toys. Practice slowly, lube up and slowly stretch.

 

[TheHorrorPapi]

Sometimes with certain lubes I’ll get a slight sting sensation 10/10 don’t recommend

 

[Genuinkguy]

some lubs transforms into a glueish material.

 

[Kontakt69]

Try the small toy again with the condom and pay attention to how much lube you need to use and how often to achieve the right level of friction.

Then get a condom on a slightly bigger toy and apply the lube at the same rate. If that's fine then go up a size again.

Try that and report back.

If it was an allergy then you would have had the burning with the small toy already.

Hi, Man. I tried. Small toys (~3 cm diameter) with comdom an a lot of lube its ok - I dont feel any burning, but when after small i'm trying bigger (~3,8 cm diameter) its hurts and burning, really slowly and with a lot of lube i can put it inside, but it hurts.
So i guess its not allergy, its really tight anal sphincter. I wish i can find some dilator kit, like this al the picture - really smooth, without "dickhead" and small step in diameter (until 4,5-5 cm). In Internet a lot of this kits with dilators (anal, vigina), but it's all until 3,5 cm, not bigger. Really so strange.. you can buy rubber hand for fisting, but you cant find any dilator kit even 4 cm diameter.

 

[Kontakt69]

Inflatable butt plug.. Stretch toys. Practice slowly, lube up and slowly stretch.

Hi, Man. It's good advice, but i have kind of phobia about Inflatable butt plugs. I had one, really good from TitanMen. I tried to inflate it in my hands (just for check) and it exploded. So now I can't use Inflatable toys. I can’t relax, it seems that it can explode inside.