Butt Fucking

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  1. diamondmike

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    I could never understand why some women like it and some dont.

    I am not into causing a woman to have anykind of pain so if she says it hurts I would not do it.
    If the woman is not enjoying what I am doing to her when having sex than its no good for me either.
    Its like I only get pleasure by pleasing the woman.

    I had a doctor put a rubber glove on one time and stick his finger in my ass to check my prostate and it hurt like hell so I know if I was a woman butt fucking would be out of the question.
    But I have watched adult videos where a woman would have one dick in her ass and one in her pussy at the same time and looked like she loved it.

    Ladies,
    My question is if a guy wanted to butt fuck a woman is there anything he should do like only go so deep etc.?

    I only done it with a woman 1 time and its not something I would want to do everytime probably unless the woman asked but I would like to try it again someday.
     
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    My wife is the only woman that ever had me penetrate her analy. She told me it was out of the question the first time we had sex. I did not even ask about it. She just came out with it. Then after a couple of months she invited me to her ass. After we got it in she smiled at me and asked me, "does my little ass feel good on your big cock?" Hmmmm needless to say I obligue her when ever she asks. Still there is nothing better than the pussy to me.
     
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    I have always heard its like a woman has to break herself in for butt fucking.
    I mean I heard that maybe the first couple times the woman will hurt but after that she loves it.

    Another thing I have heard is black women go crazy over butt fucking.
    I am white and have never been with a black woman so I dont know if that is fact or fiction.
     
  4. B_crackoff

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    I've had quite a lot of anal (haha) experience with a wide variety of partners.

    Most women like a well manicured finger up their butt during sexplay, at some points. If she doesn't like this, you've got a mountain to climb.

    Quite a few women's veejays & A holes are closer together, so it's pretty easy to slide up the wrong hole anyway!

    Many women will try it out of curiosity, or even love.

    A lot of women are embarrassed about that area, but they become less sensitive if you treat them with a nice rimming. I've never met a woman who doesn't like their ass being licked! From there progress to a fingering their butt, then insertion, then rubbing your bell end teasingly against it, but not inserting.

    If you're a good considerate lover, most women will feel relaxed enough, & trust you enough to do anything, just don't force it.

    With you or her playing with her pussy, or using a small vibe, you can attune her to the immediacy of pleasurable sensations, rather than waiting for the pain barrier to break - most women are willing to put up with some discomfort for sometime - but don't go hammering away like in a pussy (not until they're used to it, or love it!).

    DP is a different issue. It is rather a lot, & I think that only works when mentally they are getting off on the sheer nastiness of it, combined with exotic fantasies in their heads - & a willingnss to be bow-legged for a couple of days! It's a huge turn on when you're the giver, let me tell you! They have to be completely submissive, & you totally dominant.

    I've only had sex with 5 black girls, & yes they all loved it, but I can't imagine that's representative! A lot of women love their ass being shaken about, & maybe because they normally have bigger voluptuous asses, the type that can drive a man insane, they have more sensation & pleasure.
     
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    She had anal sex with two other partners and tried it with a couple others. Her x was a little girthier than me but his head was smaller and he was not as long. The other guy she did it with was a boyfriend in between her x husband and I he had a small penis and it was easy. We went through a period where we did it almost everytime we had sex. We have sex 1 time a day sometimes two for over 3 years now. We almost always start out with a finger or two. We have since moved on to double penetration with a toy in her vagina and me in her anus. I learned a lot about anal sex from this website. I got good information from the people on here who have done everything from wild to mild and appreciate being able to go somewhere to talk to people openly and get unbiased information. I would have to say the secret to anal sex or any good sex for that matter is communication and being unselfish. Never push the issue. Sometime when we are having anal sex it starts to hurt her and I stop and we move on to something else. She never feels like she has to or that I will be dissapointed. My wife is awesome and I love her.
     
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    Lots of lube and TAKE YOUR TIME! If that means going painfully slow... go painfully slow. For me, it takes a minute to adjust every single time. I've been having anal sex almost as long as vaginal sex and still takes time for everything back there to settle around whatever is being inserted lol There are also still days where it just plain hurts. I can't even begin to tell you why, but sometimes it just doesn't work. That and please keep in mind that the skin there is paper thin and can tear very easily (hence the need for lots of lube) so be aware of your force and her reaction.
     
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    There are a lot of things I do for my guy that really do nothing for me. But none of them cause me any discomfort, and I love to blow his mind, so to speak. The butt thing? No way. Sorry, I just simply do not see how, number one it's possible or number two, well, just number two. Period. It's just not for me, never will be and you know, we're OK with that.
     
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    I have had anal sex several times but I only insert the head of my penis and after insertion I don't move for the next 10-15 seconds. It takes that long for the muscles to relax and accept the insertion. After that, just slight motion is enough.

    I too have seen the porn of pretty rough anal sex and I just don't understand how that can be pleasurable for the woman.
     
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    they are porn actresses in those videos. that is them acting.
     
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    brett is wise with his words-porn is mostly acting
     
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    We havent done it in ages, he can only fit the squishy head part in. He wants to blow his load just trying to get that part in and usually doesnt take long before i've got him cumming hard in my ass.
     
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    damn that got me all hot n bothered:wank:
     
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    Yeah it kinda turned me on too reading it.
     
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    dude, what feels good to you doesn't necessarily to somebody else. women can dislike anal sex, just as some men like blowjobs and others don't.
     
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    Everybody is different. You said if you were a woman you wouldn't get buttfucked. Some people just do not like certain things.

    Stop watching porn! They do call it ACTING for a reason, even if it is porn acting. :rolleyes:
     
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    I've had sex with many women in my lifetime, and the women I had anal sex with really enjoyed having anal sex, and they were very good at it. Clearly it was in their minds, and they were able to relax, go with the moment, and take my rather girthy penis without little or no discomfort. There are positions that work well with anal sex, but if you're large then rear-entry is not one of them. It's best to use a position which is naturally relaxing to the anus, and gives face-to-face contact so both of you can work together on penetration.

    I'm not into pain at all. In one case, my partner was on top cowgirl-style, and I saw on her face that it hurt her for a moment. But because she was on top she stopped, and only took more of me when she was ready to. This is why the right position is important. Once she had me inside she controlled things and we built up to fucking firmly, eventually changing to rear-entry, by which time she was totally relaxed and it was as easy as fucking her pussy.

    For the OP, I have had my prostate explored by a doctor, and unlike you it didn't hurt me at all. Indeed, it felt like nothing.

    So I think this might answer the OP. Some have more experience and / or are able to easily relax, so anal sex involves no pain and is no real bother.
     
  17. StraightCock4Her

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    HINT HINT FUCKING PRUDY WOMEN WHO DON'T LIKE ANAL.


    WHY DO YOU THINK HE MARRIED THE FIRST ONE WHO LET HIM STICK IT IN HER BUTT??


    It's not a hard concept. Men like women who like to try new things and aren't boring as fuck. Sex can get boring if you don't mix that shit up.
     
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    Just had anal about 3 hrs ago...it barely hurt because he went slow and we had KY. He said it feels worse than pussy so he wont ever be doing that again with anybody else.
     
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    At least you are willing to try new things. That bodes well for you. If you have the rest of your shit together and aren't ass ugly (haven't looked at pics) then maybe you will get a ring. :tongue: :biggrin1:
     
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    I prefer pussy too, but it was good to have had anal sex a few times (my wife isn't into the idea of anal at all, so it has been a while since those adventures). Good for you that you were able to make it work well for yourself.
     
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