Butt plug during sex

[fhasenleiser]

I am a vers guy in a relationship with a gay man who identifies as bottom. He has no experience topping and feels quite insecure to try it out with me. While I’m fine with topping, I would also like to switch things up a bit. While my partner figures out whether and how we can try that, I’ve thought of sliding in a butt plug while I’m fucking him. My question is: would you recommend this to be a part of the foreplay or is it ok if I just have the butt plug in from the get go? I am also very insecure about asking to me estimulated anally, let alone asking someone to enter my butt with either a plug, a finger or a cock. I think I’d feel a bit ashamed so I’m thinking about some options.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

 

[chrisrobin]

I am a vers guy in a relationship with a gay man who identifies as bottom. He has no experience topping and feels quite insecure to try it out with me. While I’m fine with topping, I would also like to switch things up a bit. While my partner figures out whether and how we can try that, I’ve thought of sliding in a butt plug while I’m fucking him. My question is: would you recommend this to be a part of the foreplay or is it ok if I just have the butt plug in from the get go? I am also very insecure about asking to me estimulated anally, let alone asking someone to enter my butt with either a plug, a finger or a cock. I think I’d feel a bit ashamed so I’m thinking about some options.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

Mate, topping a guy with a butt plug in is awesome and you should try it. If you "fuck" is up to it get him to plug you in foreplay; otherwise go to work from the start plugged.
As a versatile guy I love a plug, and love to be un plugged before being fucked then plugged after to keep the cum in..

 

[AnnaEazora]

I’m a woman, but I’ve coached plenty of guys through this! That ‘shame’ is just a lack of the right gear.

Since your partner is shy, use a vibrating silicone plug during foreplay. It’s a great 'bridge'—it does the work for you, so he doesn't feel pressured to be dominant, and you get the stimulation you crave without having to 'ask' for much.

Stick to medical-grade silicone; it’s safer and smoother. I’ve put a 'Beginner & Girth-Friendly' list on my profile to make it easy. Check it out—pleasure is nothing to be ashamed of!

 

[TonyThickness]

I've topped with a glass plug in to prime myself for flip fucking. I wear it from the get go with Vaseline which my vers loves on his cock, he just pulls it out and pounds til he shoots