Thank you everyone! I've really appreciated all your stories. It's been illuminating and romantic, two things I love in a thread. :smile:
I asked TheBF if he would appreciate flowers and he said yes! Again, I'm surprised. My gifts have always been things like clothing, like a suit, or accessories like a watch, a belt, a tie, or shoes, or I might buy him a bottle of nice scotch. I've never considered flowers before!
Petite, it just occurred to me...maybe the card was somehow dropped along the way. Maybe the sender is waiting for him instead. That would be so sad if that's the case here.
Now to get to sending em to a man. I sent flowers to a man as an apology. We worked for the same company and when he got them all the girls fell over themselves asking who sent them. I had the florist write a simple phrase on the card, "You're the best." He told me that all the time. I knew when they were delivered so I gave it about 3 hours before I mosied on over and checked them out. They were beautiful! Damn, why didn't I get those for myself?! We looked at each other, I looked at the flowers, back at him, winked and he knew... He came out of his work area and right there in the middle of everyone gave me the biggest longest closest hug ever! Men do appreciate flowers.
That's a fun story!
I think if the card got lost, she probably knows by now that it didn't arrive since he wrote about it on Facebook. I hope there's more to the story and it doesn't just end there. I love a good romantic story. :smile:
Well, you ARE reading between the lines... and your inter-linear reading skills are second to none! :smile:
Of course they are! :tongue:
So many of you just assumed it was a female sending him the flowers. It might be anonymous because the sender is the big burly guy down the hall who has a unibrow.
I doubt a gay guy sent them, but I hope I find out!
For all the gender neutrality that seems fashionable around here, the fact remains that a man is not going to sit there gushing over a bunch of flowers that way a woman will. Moreover, the things will likely go straight into a garbage can because no man is going to want to explain to his friends that he's been made the dame in a relationship, and flowers will alert everyone to that.
I wasn't suggesting gender neutrality, that's why I was asking. I believe in equality, not gender neutrality, if that isn't your own personal preference. There's a big difference. A guy who bought me a box of cigars or tickets to a sporting event wouldn't know me very well. I would actually suspect that it was a gift for himself.
This guy didn't throw them away and hide the fact that he had gotten flowers. He proudly announced he had gotten flowers to his 400 friends on Facebook so everyone would know, and the response has been interesting. There is lots of curiosity and some teasing about who could be interested in him. No one has teased him about his masculinity.
Honestly, it hadn't occurred to me that a man might feel emasculated by flowers, since I interpret being sent flowers as a woman saying, "I want to have sex with this man," and that makes him pretty darn masculine in my eyes.
I respect that you feel differently, though, and that you would prefer a different gift. It's all a matter of personal preference and I'm sure that women buying you gifts probably know that you would prefer to receive something more traditionally masculine.