c-section question

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  1. D_Paddy Gonia

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    Have any of you ladies had a c-section? My other half had one and our sex life has changed. I completely expected it to and im not bitching about it. I understand that there is going to be pain from the nerves regenerating and its going to last a while, but when did the pain from yours go away? Did you have drastic changes in your sex life as well? When were you able to return to super kinky behavior?
     
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    Not a lady AZ69italian but my partner has had two c-sections. Recovery time varies but don't expect any real action for 6-8 weeks. Also bear in mind there's lots of other things going on to dampen your partner's sex drive not least the wonderful little bundle of joy that recently came into your lives - happy parenting!
     
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    I've had two c-sections and was grateful for them as both my babies were huge! I had no problems with sex in regards to the c-sections themselves. The only resulting pain I had from abdominal scar tissue was whenever I did push-ups. This was corrected during the second c-section. But every human body heals differently as do an individual's tolerance to pain/discomfort.

    Women experience all sorts of issues post-partum: hormonal changes, physical changes, emotioanl changes, breast-feeding issues, sleep deprivation, etc. There are MANY reasons why a woman may not feel like her super sexy self for months. I do not think that is useful to give you an exact time frame for fear of you comparing your wife to other women. She deserves the time to heal and adjust on her own time schedule. Be patient.

     
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    i have had 3 c sections. Yes they dampened my sex life 4 a while, but not just because of that. Dealing with a new baby and being tired and the breast feeding etc... Remember the hormones are all out of whack too. Not to mention that I didn't feel very sexy for awhile.
    Every woman is different so it is hard to say. I must say that it seemed form talking to other women that women who had natural births, tend to get back into sex faster and easier.
     
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    The biggest issue is the tenderness around her scar and in that area in general. It has already been 6 months and i'm still not allowed to wonder down south...with tongue or fingers. We have been back to having sex for a while but there is no foreplay involved, i hope its because of the sensitivity of the area. I know each woman is different, but how long did it take you until ur scar and the surrounding area wasn't tender anymore?
     
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    You are not being specific enough. "Wander down south?" Are you talking about her vagina? The vagina is far away from any c-section scar. The one big blessing of having a c-section is the vagina is not affected at all by the birthing process via c-section.

    Is she just very tender all over the abdominal area in general? That would be abnormal six months later. Has she seen her ob/gyn and spoken to him/her about it?
     
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    See your OB/GYN, Please!
     
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    This could very well be a problem going on in her abdomen, or scar tissue adhesions. I had a complicated c-section that made for a lot of extra stitching. My c-section scar puckers a little bit from the pulling of the incision from the inside. I do have some pain at the scar area with certain sudden movements- like when i lean over the wrong way, cough too hard or get pounded during sex at the wrong angle. Its not excruciating, just crampy or sharp for a second.

    I was allowed to have sex 2 weeks after my c-section, but we waited a lot longer than that. I gave him orgasms other ways until i felt comfortable having sex. Given that i was so sore at first i was scared. Also, i had no feeling in my bladder for months and couldnt tell when i had to pee because the nerves were temporarily severed during the surgery.

    If she wont go see her doctor about it- i would begin to wonder if she just isnt interested in sex. I was terrified, my husband had to wait a few months for penetration.
     
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    My wife has had 2 c-sections. Her scar was way sensitive for a solid year after the first. She's rebounded really quickly with the last one. Every woman is different but I would expect any surgical scar of that magnitude and specific location would take a long time to heal.

    As for sex.... Yeeaaaah. For us sex dried up real quick and only now 3.5 years and a second baby are things heating up again. I should also say "heating up" is a bit of an over statment!
     
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    i had complication free, natural labours and still wasn't up to sex for a bloody long time.
    i felt tired, my body looked weird & different, i oozed milk, my hormones were all over the place, i was anxious it might hurt and i was totally freaking out that i could get pregnant again.

    having a painful scar on top of that must be hellish.
     
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    Damn, you are going to get all the prego fetish guys all excited with that vivid description. :wink: (im not one of them)
     
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    Cesearian is more likely lead to post-natal depression, which could explain part of the problem. Indeed, the post-natal depression stats are extremely high: more than three-quarters of women so inflicted had a cesearian
     
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    I had a caesarean 7 years ago and still feel sensitive in the area but it hasn't hindered my sex life at all. I would definitely recommend she see a doctor unless the problem is more of a self consiousness issue, have you asked her about this? Generally speaking, recovery is alot quicker after c-section than vaginal birth (i've had both) and sex is easier after c-section as there is no soreness underneath which is what causes most women to go off sex after child birth.
    Your best bet is to talk to her about it, if she's willing to have sex with you then it's odd that she doesn't want foreplay, that's the best bit lol so it may be that she isn't wanting sex at all and is just going through the motions to keep you happy!
     
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    or she might be really self conscious about her belly and scar and stretchmarks, so prefer to keep him above the waist.
     
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    Thanks for all your responses...very useful. She has seen her OB and everything checked out ok. As far as penetration goes, we do have sex, i'll be it not anywhere near as intense as it was before. I don't think she's depressed..her overall attitude is the same as before and she doesn't neglect the kids at all, shes a great mom but it just kinda dissapoints me that the only foreplay we manage to have is always super fast, no build up...i guess you could call it a quicky of sorts. Its really frustrating...i hate to sound selfish because when i try to talk to her thats what she accuses me of, only thinking of myself and ignoring her feelings.
     
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