Calling all Gay men that had sex with women !

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Labels aren't confining...but they are defining.


I will use myself as an example within the context of labels. I am a man. I am bla
ck. I am American. I am gay. I like having conversations with women...I am not attracted to women enough to have sex with them (No offense to women...but this is me.). I am not bisexual. I am not afraid of vagina.

I am someone's son...brother...uncle...nephew...cousin. I am a composer. A guitar player...rhythm guitarist/textural guitarist to be exact. I can play piano...and drums.


These are a few of my "labels". I have many more. I have no problem with them at all.



 

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What is wrong with labels? You should be able to say who you are. Ambiguity leads to misunderstanding and possibly misrepresentation.

Nothing at all wrong with labels. If you want one, have one...but you don't NEED them. Unless at some point you need to be "put away" like a book or a file folder, the only "label" (if you can call it that) considered necessary is your name.

PS. Your profile says you are 44. I'm pushing 40 myself and I have developed a pretty finely tuned sense of self, as I'm sure you have. But, to expect someone roughly half your age to have all the "ins and outs" of their sexuality thoroughly navigated is asking a bit much...
 

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Nothing at all wrong with labels. If you want one, have one...but you don't NEED them. Unless at some point you need to be "put away" like a book or a file folder, the only "label" (if you can call it that) considered necessary is your name.

PS. Your profile says you are 44. I'm pushing 40 myself and I have developed a pretty finely tuned sense of self, as I'm sure you have. But, to expect someone roughly half your age to have all the "ins and outs" of their sexuality thoroughly navigated is asking a bit much...


InDNile...since you put it that way...maybe you are right. He is young. When I was younger, I thought that I was straight but I just didn't know I was really gay...until it was pointed out to me. And things made a lot of sense. I was happy afterwards...some people weren't as happy as I was. I could get on with better things. At least I was no longer wondering why I didn't get feelings for women like some of my fellow male friends had. I had sexual feelings for men and they were deep like the Mississippi river and I didn't even recognize them as such.


About labels...I am happy with my labels. I have many. I don't lose sleep over them. I accept them and move on. I don't waste sleep over whether someone has a difficult time with my labels either. We know that Confused Guy likes women. And maybe he likes men in whatever degree...he doesn't have to have a label.
Maybe, Confused Guy is one of the sexual "Questioning" because he doesn't know where aligns with. Who knows...


 
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I had a girlfriend for 4 years in my early 20s and I honestly think the sex was awesome

This completely bugs me.
As a gay man, EVERYTIME I hear stories about a guy having girlfriends for years and years but actually knowing he was gay during all of it is crazy to me. Having natural and regular sex with a woman (Especially wanting it. ASKING FOR IT !) is impossible in my mind if you're you're gay.
But then again, i've never tried anything with a girl, so i'm not going to judge too hard, but, still, I don't get it.
 
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So aside from the whole labeling issue:

Who you have a relationship with does not define who you are sexually. Relationship wise? Pure 90% gay. Sex wise? 70% Gay 30% Straight. Why? I prefer relationships with men. Easier to deal with. See a hardon? Time to give a blowjob. No hardon? Make him a sandwich. LOL. Old adage, but partially true. The most drama I ever dealt with was with women. And there was NOTHING wrong with the sex.

I love sex with women. I LOVE sex with men. It tends to be more raw. There are things I enjoy about sex with women men can never compare to. They're self lubing. They are feminine. Their breasts are awesome. Did I ever tell you the taste of pussy is amazing!? God I could do that for hours. One GF always wondered if she was ever going to get fucked every time because I ate her out so much. Not that she complained! :rolleyes:

Sex with men though, more primal in my mind, and I enjoy it more. Was it hard to have sex with women? NO! Was it hard to have sex with men?? NO...in fact I got harder FASTER with men, and came a LOT faster. *shrug*

But thats just me!
 

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So aside from the whole labeling issue:

Who you have a relationship with does not define who you are sexually. Relationship wise? Pure 90% gay. Sex wise? 70% Gay 30% Straight. Why? I prefer relationships with men. Easier to deal with. See a hardon? Time to give a blowjob. No hardon? Make him a sandwich. LOL. Old adage, but partially true. The most drama I ever dealt with was with women. And there was NOTHING wrong with the sex.

I love sex with women. I LOVE sex with men. It tends to be more raw. There are things I enjoy about sex with women men can never compare to. They're self lubing. They are feminine. Their breasts are awesome. Did I ever tell you the taste of pussy is amazing!? God I could do that for hours. One GF always wondered if she was ever going to get fucked every time because I ate her out so much. Not that she complained! :rolleyes:

Sex with men though, more primal in my mind, and I enjoy it more. Was it hard to have sex with women? NO! Was it hard to have sex with men?? NO...in fact I got harder FASTER with men, and came a LOT faster. *shrug*

But thats just me!

agreed. for me.. relationship wise, i'm 95% straight. sexually though, i'm about 60% straight. that could change however after more experience with men.
 
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Guess what? I'm gay...and...pussy...really...did...turn..me on :) felt good, felt nice and I still fuck with girls, but I'm gay :)

Good sex is good sex :)
Im gay n I have loved eating pussy when i tried it in my 30s. Id still love to eat some more pussy again
 

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Im gay n I have loved eating pussy when i tried it in my 30s. Id still love to eat some more pussy again

The few times I did a mmf 3some, the only thing I have tried was fucking the woman. I never tried to eat pussy, but I've thought about it before and I think I wouldn't mind it. But as always, I have never looked at a woman and thought I would want to have sex with her. But each time I did the mmf 3some, it was with a m/f couple that sought out me. I only went through with it because the male of the m/f couple was hot and I was only interested in doing something sexual with him. Her pussy was just another hole to me and I had no other contact with it.
 
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The few times I did a mmf 3some, the only thing I have tried was fucking the woman. I never tried to eat pussy, but I've thought about it before and I think I wouldn't mind it. But as always, I have never looked at a woman and thought I would want to have sex with her. But each time I did the mmf 3some, it was with a m/f couple that sought out me. I only went through with it because the male of the m/f couple was hot and I was only interested in doing something sexual with him. Her pussy was just another hole to me and I had no other contact with it.
I enjoyed pleasing them without truly having experience with women n loved how I was told not to stop eating her pussy mmmm
 
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