Great thread
@LaFemme. Here's my experience: I have witnessed two very similar episodes of elderly abuse. Both at the same grocery store, 30 years apart. Both by women. Against elder women. Who were using their shopping carts pretty much as walkers, if you will. Yes, they were slow to move. But they were also pretty oblivious to what was going on; they were just trying to still shop for themselves and hold on to some semblance of independence. I get that; I witnessed it firsthand: I had parents and grandparents.
I intervened without any thought both times. I tried the calm approach. I used my inside voice. Got cussed at loudly both times: Fuck you, mind your fucking business. Um, nope, not an acceptable response.
I can modulate my voice; it projects quite well. They got loud-talked. Never skipped a beat or gave either the opportunity for any comeback. What the hell can you say when I, and others, saw you almost knock down these ladies? C'mon now, as I told them both, I am a lot of things, but I am not blind. I saw what you did. And it is not acceptable what you did or to lie about it when confronted. It was not pretty.
I must have embarrassed the both of them with my tirades. Both abusers slunk out of the store, without their purchases, while I continued my verbal annihilation of them both. The entire time they were perp walking. I didn't give a fuck. At all. They both heard how they were such horrible hateful human beings, and that I hoped, IF they were so fortunate to get to that age, they would not meet people like them. And lots of other stuff. I was shaking with rage.
Funny the reaction I got from the bystanders. It surprised me that those nearby were so nonreactive. Thank you for getting involved, they said. My reaction back: Why didn't you speak up? Because we didn't want to get involved. WTF? It took all my self-control each time not to go off again, this time on my fellow shoppers.
So yeah, LaFemme, I'm all about this thread. While I don't go looking for trouble (I'm normally very conflict averse), I'm gonna go off when I see this kinda shit. I hate it!