Came Out to Wife

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_Daniel Kaka, Nov 18, 2011.

  1. D_Daniel Kaka

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    27 y/o, married here. I had a discussion with my wife today and I came out to her as bisexual. Really doesn't change anything between us, I just thought it was something she needed to know. She's never been "anti gay" or anything like that, so that wasn't really my fear. I was just afraid she would think I thought less of her, which I don't. I thought I share this sexuality defining day with all you people.
     
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    Good on you CS, well done.
     
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    Thanks for sharing. But how do feel? You have courage bro.
     
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    Wow....that was awfully brave. I'm in awe, really! :smile:
     
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    I feel fine. Sort of a relief. I approached in a very nonchalant manner, which made it easier for the words to come out.
     
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    Congratulations bud. I'm currently counselling two different friends in healthy marriages with multiple children about how to deal with their orientation.

    Both value the relationships, one has come out, and is still struggling to figure out what to do. The other has no plans to come out at all, fulfills a few physical urges when out of town on business, and feels very guilty about his "problem", and wishes it would just go away.

    The kids were surprisingly supportive - I think that they still see a dad, and it is what it is.

    My position has always been to do what feels most comfortable for you - but I firmly believe that openness leads to less stress, and if it is correct for the marriage to end then so be it.

    Physically, if you're sexually active outside of the marriage, you have a responsibility for her health, or at least in letting her know that she needs to be concerned about it, the same way you would in a non-exclusive gay relationship, and there are plenty of threads here that discuss how these work.

    Congratulations - and good luck getting a modern family to work.
     
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    AWESOME - knowing who we R is the best gift of all!
     
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    Good for you Center....I don't know you but feel very proud of you.
     
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    Ok, now that all the serious stuff has been ssid, doesnt Center, the poster of this thread have a nice hairy hole?
     
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    Congrats center. That took a lot of strength! Very respectable.
     
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    breave person lets talk
     
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    Why the need to come out? Is this something you want to act on?
     
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    How is your wife doing? Did she say anything?
     
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    You are indeed a fortunate man, a very understanding wife. Some women would have told you to leave, immediately.
     
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    congratulations on taking the step to be open and honest with your wife, No need of hiding your sexuality from her.

    It appears you and she are both very secure in your relationship with one another. That is always comforting to know that no matter what, she will be your main squeeze and you will be hers. If you two can work on this together, I would think it would really open you both up to a great appreciation of each other. Always talk, always be honest. Never fear the truth.
     
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    Great to hear all is well! I wish I had your courage!
     
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    Wow. It's good that you can trust her with that news. Did she suspect anything beforehand? How's she taking it?
     
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    Honesty is the best policy! Took courage I'm sure, but good job...
     
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    Update the thread in six months................
     
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    Your wife should be honored to have a guy like you who is open and honest about everything. She gets to share a wonderful life of honesty.
     
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