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I was going to put this issue in the Webcams / Cyber Connections area, but reading the posts put there I think that perhaps the issue is best put here.
I got a certain situational psychological ED problem on webcam, well I can get it up, eventually.

When the cam is off I can get a rock crushing bone-on reasonably quickly for a 43 year old guy, then since I am pre-fluffed I go through the psyching up and nervousness of going online and then....it's limp soft boiled overdone noodle time and it feels like I am stroking a noodle too, as in it may as well be a noodle and not my penis because it lacks sensation and takes a long time to fluff.
Then, if I have a moment of proper boner brain state, it kicks in and grows, and then gets rock hard.
Seems the more I try not to think about worrying about getting hard after worrying about performance the softer it stays. I tell myself, don't think about it, but thinking about not thinking about it is just as bad as thinking about it. Got a lot of anti-boner banter going on in my head. (GET OUT OF MY HEAD!)
And then, here comes the frosting on the cake, the webcam girls that I am counting on to get me hard are too concerned about getting tokens than turning guys on, then there are cams that end abruptly (technical issues?), so here i am clicking profiles trying to find a woman without clothes on or is at least showing some leg, ass and twat, instead of just extreme closeups of twat, I like twats, but I like the whole package too.

I am hoping in time I lose this camera shy cock syndrome, I want to feel at ease.
Maybe I should just get on with a soft-on, it hangs about 13mm (5+inches) and not worry about getting hard and just be the funny quirky humour type guy I am. And it's not because 99.9% of them watching me are gay men, I don't care, I want to turn people on if I can, exposing myself is like a dream come true, I just want to do it right and not worry. (too concerned about doing it right and be a performer)
Women are lucky this way because they don't have to get a hard-on to put on a good show.

I look at it this way I guess, the first time I drove a car I felt the same way and now I am comfortable with driving.

PS, it would be nice to make a couple bucks too ;)
My ass and cock are free though.

Thanks for reading.
 

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I have yet to cam, but I must admit that I am beginning to believe that I'd like to, and, like you, that "exposing myself is like a dream come true." I do know that if I were to cam, I would experience the problems you're having, but I don't think I'd let it bother me.
 

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I think it is like driving for the first time, full of anxiety at first, then after a while it's not a big deal.
The problem with the penis is that when one has anxiety, the blood is going to your muscles (fight or flight) and not in your cock.
When in fight or flight mode the cock serves no purpose evolutionarily speaking.

I'll get used to it, in time.
 

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You don't have to get hard to look good on cam.

A confident, naked guy showing off his body to whoever wants to see it is far more of a turn on to a lot of people than a close up of a hard cock will ever be.

If you enjoy showing what you have, do that. Relax and do what you like best. Once you get into your groove the blood will go where it needs to, when it needs to.
 

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Thanks man!
I'll keep that in mind.

A confident, naked guy showing off his body to whoever wants to see it is far more of a turn on to a lot of people than a close up of a hard cock will ever be.
Same goes with a pussy, for me anyways, I like legs, butts, personality and holes too.
But show me a pussy close up and little else and I'm gone in 3 minutes.

I want to see the whole package the pussy belongs to.
 
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Is this "camera shy" or simply that your setup is such you are not in the correct posistion to get hard easily ?

In my case, being in front of computer, hands on keyboard/mouse, looking at screen and then having to bend/turn in such a way that the cam below desk has a good view of my equipment is not comfortable.

So it isn't the fact that I am in front of camera, but rather that I am physically not comfortable in my setup.
 

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So it isn't the fact that I am in front of camera, but rather that I am physically not comfortable in my setup.
You make a very good point.
Been having it in my mind lately that I would probably get more views and feel more comfy laying on my back or side and get off the chair.
(and not be concerned about getting hard)
 

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'....A confident, naked guy showing off his body to whoever wants to see it is far more of a turn on to a lot of people than a close up of a hard cock will ever be.'

I'm with Cybearia. And isn't that why most of us are here - whatever our sexual preference?

I'd go a little further though. To me, a soft hanging cock is incredibly attractive and utterly masculine. A hard cock tends to indicate sex, whereas a softer one is just about man..... And hey: you don't have to be hard - or big - to be a real man. That's more about being able to stand proud, even if you're 'in repose'.

This is a particular fondness of mine, and others may not agree. They don't have to. What has beed great for me here is the level of acceptance and general commonality I've found - even when opinions differ.

I would also add that if you have 5ish soft, then you've much to be thankful for.... And that many of us would be more than happy to reassure you of that!
 

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Thanks everyone, doing a lot better, feel a lot less anxious.
Took some advice, went on with the attitude that i just didn't care if I got hard or not yesterday, and I didn't, just showed my ass, people liked my cock anyway, and my ass.

Second time later on at night I got nice and hard and put on a great show.

I am of the belief that my morning coffee really kills my erection strength as it causes some anxiety combined with camera anxiety.
Coffee certainly doesn't help.

May go on again later, if my dick can handle it. (bit overworked!)
 

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You don't have to get hard to look good on cam.

A confident, naked guy showing off his body to whoever wants to see it is far more of a turn on to a lot of people than a close up of a hard cock will ever be.

If you enjoy showing what you have, do that. Relax and do what you like best. Once you get into your groove the blood will go where it needs to, when it needs to.

totally agree, a fit guy soft is bigger turn on for me, than just a hard cock on cam
 

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Now that I am getting over this hump, I got to get my numbers up.
I seem to have a few hangers on, I mean people who stay and watch me for awhile.
I have some audience retention, just not enough of them.

I assume in time and exposure the numbers do go up if you are worth watching at all.

Something I don't get is that there are some guys who are getting a hundred views and I am sure I put on a just as good or better show than them and I get between 0 and 4 viewers at this time after being on for more than an hour.

I'll Keep pluggin' at 'er I suppose.