I was going to put this issue in the Webcams / Cyber Connections area, but reading the posts put there I think that perhaps the issue is best put here.
I got a certain situational psychological ED problem on webcam, well I can get it up, eventually.
When the cam is off I can get a rock crushing bone-on reasonably quickly for a 43 year old guy, then since I am pre-fluffed I go through the psyching up and nervousness of going online and then....it's limp soft boiled overdone noodle time and it feels like I am stroking a noodle too, as in it may as well be a noodle and not my penis because it lacks sensation and takes a long time to fluff.
Then, if I have a moment of proper boner brain state, it kicks in and grows, and then gets rock hard.
Seems the more I try not to think about worrying about getting hard after worrying about performance the softer it stays. I tell myself, don't think about it, but thinking about not thinking about it is just as bad as thinking about it. Got a lot of anti-boner banter going on in my head. (GET OUT OF MY HEAD!)
And then, here comes the frosting on the cake, the webcam girls that I am counting on to get me hard are too concerned about getting tokens than turning guys on, then there are cams that end abruptly (technical issues?), so here i am clicking profiles trying to find a woman without clothes on or is at least showing some leg, ass and twat, instead of just extreme closeups of twat, I like twats, but I like the whole package too.
I am hoping in time I lose this camera shy cock syndrome, I want to feel at ease.
Maybe I should just get on with a soft-on, it hangs about 13mm (5+inches) and not worry about getting hard and just be the funny quirky humour type guy I am. And it's not because 99.9% of them watching me are gay men, I don't care, I want to turn people on if I can, exposing myself is like a dream come true, I just want to do it right and not worry. (too concerned about doing it right and be a performer)
Women are lucky this way because they don't have to get a hard-on to put on a good show.
I look at it this way I guess, the first time I drove a car I felt the same way and now I am comfortable with driving.
PS, it would be nice to make a couple bucks too
My ass and cock are free though.
Thanks for reading.
I got a certain situational psychological ED problem on webcam, well I can get it up, eventually.
When the cam is off I can get a rock crushing bone-on reasonably quickly for a 43 year old guy, then since I am pre-fluffed I go through the psyching up and nervousness of going online and then....it's limp soft boiled overdone noodle time and it feels like I am stroking a noodle too, as in it may as well be a noodle and not my penis because it lacks sensation and takes a long time to fluff.
Then, if I have a moment of proper boner brain state, it kicks in and grows, and then gets rock hard.
Seems the more I try not to think about worrying about getting hard after worrying about performance the softer it stays. I tell myself, don't think about it, but thinking about not thinking about it is just as bad as thinking about it. Got a lot of anti-boner banter going on in my head. (GET OUT OF MY HEAD!)
And then, here comes the frosting on the cake, the webcam girls that I am counting on to get me hard are too concerned about getting tokens than turning guys on, then there are cams that end abruptly (technical issues?), so here i am clicking profiles trying to find a woman without clothes on or is at least showing some leg, ass and twat, instead of just extreme closeups of twat, I like twats, but I like the whole package too.
I am hoping in time I lose this camera shy cock syndrome, I want to feel at ease.
Maybe I should just get on with a soft-on, it hangs about 13mm (5+inches) and not worry about getting hard and just be the funny quirky humour type guy I am. And it's not because 99.9% of them watching me are gay men, I don't care, I want to turn people on if I can, exposing myself is like a dream come true, I just want to do it right and not worry. (too concerned about doing it right and be a performer)
Women are lucky this way because they don't have to get a hard-on to put on a good show.
I look at it this way I guess, the first time I drove a car I felt the same way and now I am comfortable with driving.
PS, it would be nice to make a couple bucks too
My ass and cock are free though.
Thanks for reading.