Can’t Cum From Blow Jobs.

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If some guy is going down on me, I frequently do not come while getting the blow job. I do get hard and I do like it but overall I feel like I need more than just a warm mouth on my cock. It does make me feel better when they play with my balls play with my teaint, play with my ass a little but more, then I am more likely to come. Also if I have some stimulation by playing with their dick with their balls or their ass I may be able to come. But just a guy sucking my dick generally doesn’t get me off.. Sometimes I feel that the blow job giver needs to be a little bit more rough with my dick, like use more teeth, Slapped their face with my dick. Something like that. Do you others have the same reaction to a blow job? Or do you have any remedies for me to be able to cum while getting sucked.
 
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If it's done well I can cum from it. (I've also had a few condom blow jobs and find it impossible to cum from them.)

Also depends on if the goal is to cum from them, or if it's just part of foreplay. And the last time you came. If it's been a day or more it's easier than if you just jacked off earlier.

You just might need more physical or visual stimulation. Everybody's different and might even have certain fetishes that they need fulfilled to cum.
 

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If I haven't cum in a few days, I can cum quickly (within 30 seconds) from a bj. Otherwise, maybe 5-10 minutes of sucking before I shoot. I can always cum from a blow job, even a pretty bad bj. I prefer gentle, wet pressure. I don't like rough stuff, but I love having my scrotum and balls, taint and asshole gently stimulated while I'm being blown. I've only been blown when I was wearing a condom once, and I had no problem cumming then, either. It just took a bit longer than usual.
 
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For me personally, indoctrination as to what is or is not "respectful" in dealing with women in general, or within the confines if a relationship is why I still have trouble to this day in coming from bjs. A lot of kink shaming and social backlash to things common in Porn have put oral pleasure, specifically a woman orally pleasuring a man, within a problematic realm(even if anecdotally lots of women have no issue with it.)
 
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as a gay man, yes i do have 'trouble' cumming from a bj, its not something i worry about though. As @NY2NY said if its part of the foreplay then I don't particularly want to cum anyway, saving it for my boyfriend's ass. I love the feel of being given a bj, it can 'get me off' just very rarely make me cum. Its always been a bit like that from my 20s although i think as i've got older it takes more and a really good bj-er to do it now - maybe i've just got used to receiving them and so doesn't have the same impact - not something i give much thought to, though I know it makes my current bf frustrated that he can suck on me for hours and i rarely cum from that. I can make my bf cum from giving him a bj though.
 
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Straight male here but I understand where you’re coming from. I would say it’s more rare that I come from a blow job.
Like some others have said it’s easier for me to come from a blow job if I haven’t come in several days and my head is sensitive in that day when I’m getting one.

Most the time a blow job is something that I simply use as forePlay but not a finisher.
 

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For me personally, indoctrination as to what is or is not "respectful" in dealing with women in general, or within the confines if a relationship is why I still have trouble to this day in coming from bjs. A lot of kink shaming and social backlash to things common in Porn have put oral pleasure, specifically a woman orally pleasuring a man, within a problematic realm(even if anecdotally lots of women have no issue with it.)
I know right as if giving a blowjob is a bad thing it's so fucked up
 

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I almost never cum from blowjobs. It feels good, but it's really not the type of movement / sensation / pressure I need to finish. On the rare occasions when I can get there, it's because of focusing on the excitement and thrill of what's going on... the visual of my dick inside the girl's pretty face and the thought of how she'll feel when I unload my balls in her mouth, how both of us are just counting down until she has to swallow my spermload. In contrast, when I get handjobs they actually get me off and I don't need to "think dirty" in order to finish.
 

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Yep I think it’s the giver and not you. I’ve had blowjobs from men and women and with men, never have I had the feeling to cum. It’s only been with the woman I’m with now that I can blow my load ALWAYS!! An amazing blowjob every time. Guys when they blow me don’t have the same feeling. But I keep trying. I’m usually blowing guys more than vice Versa now.
 

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For me personally, indoctrination as to what is or is not "respectful" in dealing with women in general, or within the confines if a relationship is why I still have trouble to this day in coming from bjs. A lot of kink shaming and social backlash to things common in Porn have put oral pleasure, specifically a woman orally pleasuring a man, within a problematic realm(even if anecdotally lots of women have no issue with it.)
Yeah, same here. I've been "conditioned" by my wife of 43 years to NOT cum while she's performing oral on me. I think I came in her mouth early in our marriage. She moaned about it and made quite a scene and claimed to feel nauseous instantly. So, at most, she'll allow precum in her mouth but insists that I pull out without really cumming. Thus, conditioned.

As such, she can suck me for 20 minutes and I don't cum.
 
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It’s a common thing. I really need time to cum with a bj. It’s not oI don’t like it, I fucking love having my dick sucked. But I really need time.
i'm the same way, I don't know if it's age or anxiety issues but it takes me some time before I can cum. We got to be at it a while.

I love sucking cock and getting good head too but my last hookup wasn't very good at it and there was a time crunch and I just told him I was tired and had a good time other than not being able to cum. :D But really he didn't match his pictures that well and like I said wasn't too good at it and I just wanted to be done. :laughing:

I however am a snake charmer and always get the guy to cum when I suck cock (including the guy from that hookup, he came) but I make love to the dick. :kissing_heart:

Sometimes I feel that the blow job giver needs to be a little bit more rough with my dick, like use more teeth, Slapped their face with my dick. Something like that.
I think every guy is different when it comes to likes and dislikes with BJs, they are all unique. So yeah that's something to communicate more, what you want from them. I was wit an uncut guy who didn't want his foreskin retracted at all so like I had to be careful I wasn't too hard jerking him while sucking so I could keep him covered :p
 
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Back in the day in my late teens early 20's I had a girlfriend who gave THE BEST head. And she loved doing it. She would coax my cum out of my cock any chance I gave her. No problem cumming. I got sucked by a dude aswell and came no problems. Then for 20 odd years I was married and didn't get sucked. Not once. I'm now with a different woman and she's happy to suck it but she can't make me cum. It feels great but it would take a long time and I doubt she could keep her mouth open that wide for that long.

I had assumed it was probably some age related loss of sensitivity and just put up with it. I wish I had a large number of suckers to "compare" and see if it's the giver or not, but I'll have to work on that
 

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While I've written previously that my wife has "conditioned" me to NOT cum in her mouth, I'm fairly certain that I could do so if she'd alter her technique. My wife's most usual method, and one that I enjoy, is to lay her head on my stomach and lie comfortably on her side while sucking me. In this position, my cock is somewhat sideways in her mouth so her tongue never spends much time licking the underside of my cock which is very pleasurable to me. I'm sure that if my wife kneeled or sat in front of me while I stood and sucked my cock while using her tongue on the underside, I'd cum pretty easily.

I do enjoy kneeling beside my wife while she's lying in bed and having her suck me. Again, my cock is sideways in her mouth so I don't get maximum pleasure from it. But she does allow me to "fuck" her mouth by sliding my cock in-and-out an inch or so. I KNOW I could cum like this but never do.

As I said, I'm "conditioned".