can a doctor tell if i have frequent anal sex ??

[abu101]

hi guys,

i am a relatively young healthy active male, living in a relatively small town in Hawaii, and keeping secrets are near impossible.

even choosing doctors is difficult becuz either the doctor is buddies with people i know, or someone in his office knows me very well, or whatever.

privacy is close to impossible, and people being people, gossip is always gossip.

due to a recent bout with stomach burping / acid reflux (i think from too much coffee, i probably gotta lay off), my doc is playing it safe and going to give me a rectal exam, ie a camera waaaaaay up there !!!

i don't know if any of you have ever had one of these, and i'm sure it'll turn out fine, i am not at all squeamish about it.

my gay BF and i have moved beyond handjobs and i have been having pretty regular anal the past 6 months, he is not huge but definitely larger than most and i really enjoy our intense sex (sometimes very intense) and that includes lots of pounding. i am really learning to love it.


here's my question: when i go in for my routine rectal exam as explained above (which is totally unrelated), is my doctor going to be able to "recognize the signs" that i have been having anal sex ? is there anything obvious that he would be able to see with his trained camera and trained diagnostic eye ?


if anyone has medical training or experience with this situation, i would appreciate knowing. if it turns out that there *IS* obvious evidence to a doctor, then how long should i refrain to allow that evidence to dissolve.

i guess i could fly to the mainland for the procedure but that would seem odd and would raise more speculation



i am not paranoid, just being cautious. of course i understand the privacy of the doctor - patient relationship ,but i also live in a small town and people talk.......

 

[deleted300444]

First off, doctor patient confidentiality exist. So you should not need to worry.

Second, most likely answer to your question is yes.

Muscles weaken in both male and females who engage in anal sex.

Third, this was just on the evening news last week that HPV is on the rise in both females and males (regardless if are straight or gay). Im not an expert, however, the anal pap at detecting HPV "can, might", uncover dysplasia "if" a person has this. They emphasised even straight or by guys who enjoy some sort of butt stimulation are not immune.

Again, in short, the answer to your question.is yes, because doctors can determine so many things in todays world.
HPV vacinations are now recomended for females as well as males today.

 

[Betty_Cocker]

I am not a male, but a female that engages in anal sex.

Yes your doctor can tell... but even so... it's an everyday occurrence to them.
He probably will not even mention it to you unless he sees a medical problem and then will ask you about your sexual activiity. Be honest with him.

It really isn't a big deal to the doctor. And Prince is correct. Patient/doctor confidentiality is required. If you are uncomfortable talking about it, you might ask him to keep everything confidential. (just as a reminder.)

My doctor knows things about me that only she and my husband know. I am totally honest with her about my activities.

I have acid reflux and every 3 yrs have to have a colonoscopy procedure. It's no big deal at all...

 

[abu101]

thanks to you both for your replies.

the specialist (GastroEnterologist) is not someone i know particularly well, but he is very good friends with a very good friend of mine, and he is also obviously obligated to send a report to my primary doctor, who i also have many social connections with (unavoidable on a small island).

i am not saying that any doctor would intentionally violate privacy, however there are dozens of office staff with access to records, and many people handle them in the process of faxing, sending, receiving, etc. its no biggie if you live in NYC or London and you are anonymous. but if you live in a very small town or island where everyone knows everyone, and you are also well known yourself, its almost impossible to prevent leakage so to speak.

none of them need to know that i am having anal sex with my studly hung BF, (and LOVIN it, i might add) and i woudl prefer to keep it that way, since it is irrelvant to them (we are both relatively young and totally disease free and up until recently we always used condoms until we just realized we really don't have to since we are monagamous and no diseases and no 3rd parties, etc).


to the person that posted "YES your doctor can determine if you are having anal sex", would you be willing to elaborate more on "how" or what signs they use to assess this, and if possible how long one might opt to refrain from anal sex to avoid such scrutiny.

thanks and i hope this doesn't sound paranoid, just trying to maintain privacy in a difficult arena....


aloha all, abu

 

[Penis Aficionado]

I don't know much about frequently fucked buttholes, but I can tell you it's a really big deal for doctors to break confidentiality in the way you fear. First of all, it's a violation of a federal law called HIPA. Second, it leaves them open to lawsuits, and doctors hate lawsuits.

 

[abu101]

hi , thanks for your reply

yes i am aware of legal ramifications, but i am concerned more about the casual leaks that are inevitable, as dozens of people in the doctors office have access to your records, especially for filing, mailing, faxing to other doctors, etc

i live in a relatively small town on a small island (Hawaii, Big Island, but not so big.....) so gossip is everywhere, and thus looking to avoid scrutiny if at all possible

thanks for your suggestions , abu

 

[deleted300444]

Again, not an expert here....

I dont think there is a time of refraining that will change the doctors ability to know.

Once a cucumber is soaked in vinager and becomes a pickel it can never be a becomes a cucumber again.

So therefore, you are fucked! couldnt resist.

Tip: dont walk into the doctors office with a freshly pounded hole. Maybe refrain by a few days prior....but...but.... Dont put your life on hold for a doctors appointment.

Go fuck and be well!

 

[dong-in-khakis]

I'd say no, not unless your friend has a monster cock and just left you with a fresh rosebud, or you've been fisting or something..

 

[krs]

A doctor can tell when doing a rectal exam with his finger. Sphincter muscles are more relaxed in men (and women) who engage in anal sex.

 

[slippy_dicky]

I am not a male, but a female that engages in anal sex.

Yes your doctor can tell... but even so... it's an everyday occurrence to them.
..

Sorry, I'm no doctor, (I don't even play one on TV!) but I have to call BULLSHIT! here....the sphincter is just a muscle like any other in the body, and it stretches open and closed....that's pretty much it's only function. You take a shit probably every day right? So is your butthole loose and floppy from big fat turds passing thru? Hell no! It relaxes to let objects out (and in, in your case :smile and when that's done, it tightens back up in a short time. If anything, it should make you sphincter muscle stronger, as long as you don't cause damage to it, like tearing or hemorroids. Think of what weightlifting does to a muscle: you are actually damaging the muscle cells so that they repair themselves larger and stronger than before. That's all.

The idea that a doctor can look at a healthy rectum and declare "this guys gay!" strikes me as absurd. No effin way. I don't buy it. Like the other poster said, just don't show up freshly plowed, and you'll be fine.

 

[slippy_dicky]

A doctor can tell when doing a rectal exam with his finger. Sphincter muscles are more relaxed in men (and women) who engage in anal sex.

No way. I have taken craps fatter than many dicks and the doctor is not gonna say "whats going on here?? must be gay!" No way.

 

[abu101]

dear prince albert, thanks for the reply, what "evidence" would a doctor see in order to make that determination

Again, not an expert here....

I dont think there is a time of refraining that will change the doctors ability to know.

Once a cucumber is soaked in vinager and becomes a pickel it can never be a becomes a cucumber again.

So therefore, you are fucked! couldnt resist.

Tip: dont walk into the doctors office with a freshly pounded hole. Maybe refrain by a few days prior....but...but.... Dont put your life on hold for a doctors appointment.

Go fuck and be well!

 

[pumplover]

As a medical professional I can you yes a doctor can tell depending on how often and the pounding damage and how open the anus is anal walls will loosen but you can do kegals to restore some tightness that's one two all those who work in the office are held to the same standard if it leaks so to speak you can sue the whole practice you should stop sex at lest a week b4 and ease up on the pounding if you have any other questions I will be more then glad to answer them as best I can

 

[erratic]

i am not saying that any doctor would intentionally violate privacy, however there are dozens of office staff with access to records, and many people handle them in the process of faxing, sending, receiving, etc.

So, what exactly are you worried about being on the records? If you're not worried about the doctor violating your privacy, what are you worried about other staff reading? Are you worried that you will be outed? That it will say you've engaged in receptive anal sex? Because if you're out, people have already whispered to each other about you and buttsex. What is it the staff will be able to leak that you don't want people to hear?

Also, most of the record of your exam will likely be boring medical jargon and/or on the video of the colonoscopy. These aren't things that people are itching to read, if you know what I mean.

 

[molotovmuffin]

dear prince albert, thanks for the reply, what "evidence" would a doctor see in order to make that determination

There can be scaring of the anus and it can turn inside out (so to speak). It sort of puckers up like fat lips in some people who indulge in anal sex.

There are probably other visual signs as well.

 

[Betty_Cocker]

No way. I have taken craps fatter than many dicks and the doctor is not gonna say "whats going on here?? must be gay!" No way.

I think it is interesting that some men automatically assume because a man has had anal sex they are gay. And comparing fecal deposits to being pounded by a cock? Hmmm, interesting theory there. One is coming out of the anus, naturally, while the other is forcing inward. Yeah, I see the correlation there. :grinning-smiley-003

There are many straight men who enjoy being pegged by a female. This is not a gay activity in my book. But it is anal sex.

The doctor will make no assumptions on your sexual orientation.

And PenisA was correct in pointing out the HIPAA violations. This confidentialty law applies not only to the doctors but everyone in the office (including the front desk receptionist.) I've trained several staff on HIPAA law over the years. Violation of this law is a really big deal!!!

You really don't have anything to worry about, even in a small town, on a small island. Just get the tests and make sure you are healthy.
Thank you very much!

 

[Betty_Cocker]

Sorry, I'm no doctor, (I don't even play one on TV!) but I have to call BULLSHIT! here....the sphincter is just a muscle like any other in the body, and it stretches open and closed....that's pretty much it's only function. You take a shit probably every day right? So is your butthole loose and floppy from big fat turds passing thru? Hell no! It relaxes to let objects out (and in, in your case :smile and when that's done, it tightens back up in a short time. If anything, it should make you sphincter muscle stronger, as long as you don't cause damage to it, like tearing or hemorroids. Think of what weightlifting does to a muscle: you are actually damaging the muscle cells so that they repair themselves larger and stronger than before. That's all.

The idea that a doctor can look at a healthy rectum and declare "this guys gay!" strikes me as absurd. No effin way. I don't buy it. Like the other poster said, just don't show up freshly plowed, and you'll be fine.

Not sure about you, but show me a butthole and I can tell you if it is regularly pounded or not. Don't tell me you can't look at some of these on the site and tell they don't get regular anal sex. Sorry, fella, but I politely disagree with you on this point. And, don't even look at the orientation! It's a moot point.

Betty

 

[MisterSlave]

I had a prostate exam once, and my doctor said, "someone's been having fun". .I had a long play session the day previous. lol . . yeah . . depends. . . sometimes they can tell.

 

[Sounder]

Sorry, I'm no doctor, (I don't even play one on TV!) but I have to call BULLSHIT! here....the sphincter is just a muscle like any other in the body, and it stretches open and closed....that's pretty much it's only function. You take a shit probably every day right? So is your butthole loose and floppy from big fat turds passing thru? Hell no! It relaxes to let objects out (and in, in your case :smile and when that's done, it tightens back up in a short time. If anything, it should make you sphincter muscle stronger, as long as you don't cause damage to it, like tearing or hemorroids. Think of what weightlifting does to a muscle: you are actually damaging the muscle cells so that they repair themselves larger and stronger than before. That's all.

The idea that a doctor can look at a healthy rectum and declare "this guys gay!" strikes me as absurd. No effin way. I don't buy it. Like the other poster said, just don't show up freshly plowed, and you'll be fine.

WE HAVE A WINNER!!
When you go for a colonoscopy(I had 2 recently, and sex prior) the doc cant tell. First, you have to be prepped. The night before the procedure, you get this lovely concoction to drink. The Suprep basically gives you a rip-roaring case of the shits! If you had a buick parked up there, it would be ejected way before you see the doctor. So no worries about evidence. From what you say, i believe the colonoscopy is what youre getting. Otherwise, i still wouldnt worry about it

 

[abu101]

hi guys, and thanks again for these excellent replies

interestingly, the replies vary from

"there is no physical evidence that a doctor could see to conclude you are having anal sex"

to the other end of the spectrum

"there is plenty of evidence".


other than comparing our various professional resumes and/or zodiac signs, could someone explain the nature of this physical / medical evidence and why they are confident it exists and would lead a doctor to easily conclude from a routine colonscopy that his patient is actively engaged in routine anal sex


this is an interesting topic. i thought it would be a very simple answer when i initially posed the question, but now that the replies have been so contradictory AND so confidend, i am eager to know more.

thanks folks, aloha abu