can a friendship between two straight guys get so intimate that its almost sexual?

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    like some friends do threesomes with a woman, or they see each other hard, or jerk off together. Is that just a simple friendship or some sort of place between a bf and a friend? is that what a bromance is?
     
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    lol keep dreaming
     
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    A best friend and i pulled off a couple threesomes before with females. We have seen each other hard, cum, etc. Then, the next day its back to normal being friends.
     
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    Best friends can share a girl, that's cool. So naturally you will see your mate hard and cumming- but your not having sex with each other, your having sex with a woman. Jerking off probably crosses a line, but that is simply my opinion (for others, just search this forum, it has been discussed at length).

    Regarding a "bromance" that is really a newish term for the best of mates, guys who are really close like brothers. Guys who can talk about anything without judgement and can totally be themselves, vulnerable or not.
     
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    There are lots of threads on this topic. Just search using "bromance" as a key word. IMO, relationships between guys can become so intimate that they can become almost sexual. I posted about this already in those threads
     
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    I have a few close friends (male), both hetero and homosexual.

    These relationships have gotten nowhere near sexual.
     
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    No I can not see any way i will have sex with a man. men do not turn me on at all.
    sorry
     
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    I think two guys that are really close and intimate can have a playful sexuality just as long as it doesnt go to far.

    like slapping your friend on the ass
    laying your head down on his lap
    teasing him about his boner and maybe grabbing it
    giving him a hug
    maybe a playfull kiss on the cheek
    jerking together (which to me is a bit borderline)
    playfull dancing together

    All of these things signify an intimate relationship thats almost sexual but it doesnt cross that line in to sex
     
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    I have a friendship similar to this, we slap each other on the ass a lot, hug, tease each other about our cocks, shower while the other is in the bathroom shaving or whatever, seen each other naked a fair bit. A very comfortable friendship with pretty much no secrets.

    We 'joke' about suckin each other etc a lot, eg: 'I'm goin through a bit of a dry spell, why dont you blow me'. Other references like that make me wonder if there isnt a bit of sexual tension buried way under there somewhere.

    On the other hand, we are both keen to put a chick on the spit one day, so who knows eh?
     
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    that is me and my best mate in one
     
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    I have a couple of friends that I'm very close to and at times our relationships have involved activities that are 'almost sexual'. I'm gay, but not "out of the closet" and I'm really quite sure the friends I'm talking about know it.

    Anyway, recently one of the friends I've had for over 20 years has been spending several days a week at my house. He's not working and he's basically not involved with his girlfriend anymore. When he's here, he sleeps on a mat on the floor next to my bed. We're VERY open and have discussed practically everything together. Now, I've never seen him naked and I ALWAYS respect his privacy when he's visiting. Back to the subject; he's kissed me in public in front of all his neighbors, he knows I sleep naked (though I don't if he's in my room; I'll wear boxers). Last time he was here I told him I had 'morning wood' for at least 2 hours while he was laying there sleeping in my room, He told me if it had been him; he'd go ahead and 'beat it off'.

    I used to play box and go to the gym all the time with one friend of mine. He's seen me naked LOTS of times; but he's very shy about anyone seeing his private parts and usually changes behind a partiton or something. When we boxed, I'd almost always strip down to my 'boxer shorts'. He'd usually strip to his short pants (probably wasn't wearing underwear anyway). One day when we were playing around at someone's house, I stripped down as usual. To my surprise he stipped down to some tight bikini shorts one of his girlfriends bought him. They didn't hide much, and when we took a break, he stuck his hands down his bikini and scratched himself right next to me.
     
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    Almost sexual? What does that mean? Is that like almost pregnant?
     
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    This is an interesting topic with some interesting "good" responses. Keep going people.
     
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    Huge difference between almost pregnant and almost sexual. Guess I've had more than my share of experiences with both, more of one than the other. For me one is more wishful thinking than the other and less action than the other...'go figure'.
     
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    That's sad.
     
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    To be honest, this guy was jack-off material for years...so I'm no angel. I don't think he knows to this day that I felt so strongly for him.

    I have other friends that I have felt close to as well, including non-sexual gay friends. I just highlighted this one example. In one sense I thrive with intimate nonsexual relationships; on the other hand they can sometimes kill me.

    It is, and isn't sad. I'm happy that he has a family because that was important to him. His kids are his world and they make him happy. From that perspective, I am a distraction. But I understand your point.
     
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    Yeah, it is. And it says something although I can't say what.

    PS. Some of my friendships with my straight male friends are almost electrically charged although we both know--and don't want--it to happen. That's what makes it fun in its way. It's like moths to a flame. We both like dancing around it but no one gets burned. No harm, no foul.
     
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    My best friend and i in college were super close. Had a threesome with a girl with him, and since we shared a room one year, saw each other naked plenty of times both soft and hard. We talked about everything and it was never weird.
     
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    My best, closest guy friend and I would jack off together literally hundreds of times throughout junior high, high school, college, and a little after that. He was straight as an arrow and very athletic - on the high school track and swim team, muscular and with amazingly huge thick feet. It became a very regular thing for us to end up bare-assed naked and jerking off to porn together, really some of the happiest experiences of my younger life. We never touched each other, but otherwise had no secrets - always naked around each other and openly staring at the other jacking it, sharing all of our stories of our sexploits with girls and our raunchiest porno fantasies. It was amazingly intimate. My dick was a lot bigger than his and it really interested him, but he'd gotten vastly more action than I ever did and so always had better dirty stories to tell. We did this from about age 13 to 26 so we got to see each other grow up while doing it.

    The furthest it ever went was a few times we'd talk to each other as though one of us was a hot girl in our class - think of it as phone sex but with the other person in the room and only pretending to be a girl, i.e. "(in soft girly voice) Oh did you like that tight shirt I was wearing at school today? Did it show off my big tits? Do you like my big tits" "Oh yeah, Sarah (or other girl's name), I want to suck your big tits, I'm jerking off right now thinking of them, I wish I could fuck you so hard..." "Oh yeah, (my friend's name), my pussy's so wet for you, I want you in my pussy, you're so hot and I'm imagining you fucking me right now..." or, "(hot girl's name), I'm so horny for you, you give me the biggest hardons," "I know, (my name), I can't believe how big your dick is, I'm sure it'd make me feel so good, can you jerk it like I'm giving you a handjob? it's soooo biiig..."

    So under the context of pretending to be girls, we each spent a fair amount of time talking about how hot we each were, what great dicks we had, and how much we wanted to suck and fuck each other.

    Yes.

    And yes, we never physically acted on it, which I regret for its stupidity. At 16 I'm sure beyond a doubt it would have been fine - I think we were each just too chickenshit to push things further.

    But I believe I've discovered the cure for Alzheimer's, because I'm certain I will never, ever, ever, ever forget the sight of this 16-year-old straight jock, naked on my parents floor, eyes bulging even more than his dick as he stared at me also jerking off, while girly-voicedly calling me a big-dicked stud and begging me for the hardest fuck I could give.

    Once when we were in our early 20s he asked me if I'd fuck his then-girlfriend (now his wife) while he watched. Of course, he didn't say it as straight-out obvious as that, it was all roundabout, and we were both drunk, so I didn't really figure out what he was saying until after I'd lost the opportunity.
     
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