Can a gay man and a straight man have an intimate non sexual relationship?

[luvmycock]

sure

 

[invisibleman]

Is it possible to be so close with each other that there is nothing personal you would be afraid to talk with him about?

Yeah. I have had some real honest and respectful (NON SEXUAL) relationships with straight guys.

 

[catman]

dare I ask where bisexuals fit into this 'thread'?

 

[heathandjake]

My two best (straight) friends are married and have kids. One I've known for about 25 years while the other I've known for eleven years now. The one who I've known the longest is fully aware of my sexuality and has even helped me with a bad relationship. I've seen him in a towel straight out of the shower but nothing more. My other friend and I have skirted the issue of my sexuality and mostly joke around with it. I've seen him in his underwear a few times but that's about it. I must admit early on in our relationships I was quite attracted to both but eventually learned to accept them as best friends and nothing more.
Recently, I've acquired the friendship of another straight male through work who is also married and has kids. This one is younger and enjoys sharing more risque jokes with me. One example, the other day I asked him if he had any lunch plans and he asked me if I wanted to have lunch with him or if I wanted to have him for lunch. Yes, I'm going to keep my feelings in check and just enjoy our friendship.

 

[helgaleena]

Hey rickrd, OP, what exactly is your definition of 'intimate'? Just having someone be your closest friend, or what I mean by 'intimate', which is getting huggy and sleeping in the same bed?

 

[B_Hung Jon]

dare I ask where bisexuals fit into this 'thread'?

I guess we don't, Catman...

 

[seeafox]

I s'pose some people jsut cant fathom that it aint all about sex with gay/bi guys.

My best mate of 30 something years is straight. Sure we played around when we were kids. We even experimented with each other a few times in our teens - suck, fuck. We have shared a prostitute, watched porn together.

But first and foremsot we are best mates. We have been there when relationships ahve broken up, kids born, kids marriages. When my last relationship broke up and I was down bordering on needing to hurt myself- he flew in (we live in differnet cities; actually at opposite ends of the country) and spent three weeks with me - oincluding sharing my bed.

I am grateful for my best mate and glad he is straight. We dont desire each other - sex is not an agenda item. My son (he is straight-ish) has a best gay mate; sex isnt something either them care about.

Friednships are friendships.

So yes of course we can have friends of the oposite sex or another orientation. Bascially it comes down to attitudes. If you are straight and can only think of a woman as sexual, or gay and can only think of a man as sexual then the is your problem. what about allowing your friends to be people first.

 

[D_wibbles]

yes id say 100% my best friend is gay and im strate so yes . i think some people can if not most . im cool with a lot of people gay or other. i see no wall some do creed color and what you do with the one you love, not a thing i see as a wall .

 

[Corius]

I find it hard to believe that the OP is so unaware of real life that he is still wondering if it could happen. Of course it happens. Most of us were groomed to think of ourselves as "regular guys" but we also found that "regular guys" can sometimes bond so deeply that sex happens; and we think of it as "doing what comes naturally" and may continue on that path for years before we finally fit into the pattern which our society sets for us.

I have always wanted and needed the companionship of men. Two friends, both married with children as I also am, appear to the world as typical married husbands and fathers. Each of them has had the hots for me as I have had the hots for him for many years. I, and each of them too, am pleased and complimented to know that I am sexually attractive to each of them as they are to me. We have not ever stepped over the line, but I think we would still be friends if that should happen.

I am always aware of those animal urges which find me "stirred" when I am in the presence of a sexually attractive person; and, I am grateful that that most powerful sexual organ, my brain, keeps me on the straight and narrow path.

Let's face it: some of us are more easily stirred than others. I have straight friends with whom I will my brain to look past their fantastic sexual attractiveness.

Our societies have not worked these things out fully, but things are certainly better than they were seventy years ago when I was at the beginning of my very happy journey into the fullness of my sexuality. The persons who shared that journey with me were a diverse lot, but people of normal intelligence and good witll can bridge those differencea.

 

[D_Shermie Shtoinkle]

of course...

 

[thetramp]

NEVER, gays always try to get into the pants of all straight guys, same with women, and i am not so sure straight friends wouldn't hit on me either, and that really makes me uncomfortable because as a straight man i obviously constantly wonder and worry about sexual encounters with other men. Best is just to never trust anyone and never share anything of your self.


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[matt1018]

totally stupid question. Of course you can. I'm gay and have more straight guy friends then gay, including my best friends.

 

[AdaramC]

definitely.

 

[lgtrmusr]

Yes. The sexual orientation of my friends is not an issue regarding the friendships, and this is true of intimate, but non-sexual, relationships as well. Lovers -- a different issue.

 

[avg_joe]

You can have a non-sexual intimate relationship with a rock if you wanted to. No one is prohibiting it.

I think OP's question is an insult to the gay people. If you read between the lines, you can interpret that gays are the ones who initiate the intimate sexual relationships with the straight dudes, which means gays are promiscuous.

 

[Beaker44]

So then you could ask if a girl and a hetrosexual man can have a non sexual relationship and the answer is still the same - Most definetly. Friendship does not always lead to sex.

 

[Smaccoms]

Is it possible to be so close with each other that there is nothing personal you would be afraid to talk with him about?

Is this a serious question? I mean what?

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

This is why I don't have a TV and don't read the news. I like to think for myself.

Well, I hope you at least read books. Not everything you would like to know, certainly only a small fraction of what you can know, can come from your personal observations and experiences and mental creativity.

 

[CUBE]

A straight guy and gay guy friendship can be amazing. They kind of have each other's back and each would never steal the others love. I have had several straight buddies who actually seem kind of starved for the closeness of another man. I have to check myself because I know it is a different need then what I need but I value the trust they have in me very much.

 

[Harold81]

My best friend of 20 years is 100% straight and it has worked fine. I've been there for him when his life has gone into chaos and vice versa. We have never seen each other naked nor have we ever expressed any desire for one another. We are just best friends.

So I am living proof that a gay guy and a straight guy can have a lasting intimate non-sexual functioning relationship.