B_Nicodemous
Experimental Member
Gay and straight guys can TOTALLY be friends and have intimate, non-sexual relationships. I have had the benifit of three such pairings.
The first was my best friend from high school, who was one of the first people i "offically" came out to. He was never one to be shy with long real hugs, nuzzles, comforting me when it would get to much (we are talking those OMG-my world just ended, crumple to the gound uncontrolable sobs. The kind where your eyes become faucets and your nose is dripping and you could care less. He was there when i borke up with my first real BF (drove that day, as soon as i told him, 3 hrs to be with me) and i was there when he had problems and heartbreak with various GF's. We fell out of touch for a bit, but that was around the whole college years groing aoart, moving farther away, life taking you down differnt roads phase. He is back in y life now and we picked up like no time had passed.
The next was my best friends then fiancee, who started out as a complete phobe and became my biggest advocate. Really sweet guy who was just insecure. He changed and when him and my friend broke up and she moved away we remained good friends. He set me up with guys (or tried to, god he had HORRIBLE taste in men for me
, but he TRIED! lol) and i him with girls (he would say my potential pairings were just as bad!) slept in the same bed if he crashed at my place where he quikly realized that the worse part of that idea was the fact that I will slowly but surley take over the bed and shove people out, and laugh at me when, all perplexed i asked what he was doing down on the ground when i woke up. We are friends to this day and i hope to see him and his fam this Thanksgiving.
The last guy has been my friend for 10 years. We share EVERYTHING. No subject is taboo. He doesn't put restictions on what i say. And I can get as graphic as i want. Then again so can he. :tongue:He kids me when people mistake us as a couple. Hell he'll play it up. He is comfy with who he is. He is, of all of them the closest to me. We greet each other with hugs, and a cheeck kiss when we feel like it. I was the best man at his first wedding (He wanted me to be it again this time around but there was no way i could make it to where it was being held, so i owe them a nice dinner when they get back (they want to take me to see David Sedaris cuz they feel bad that i couldn't make it to the wedding! lol) He and his wife want's me as Godfather of any potential kids. He has seen me at my worst and I his. My heart breaks when he hurts, and tears to pieces if he cries (it's rare cuz his whole family is stoic, so when he does it's something REALLY bad) He says it's the same for him. He calls when he is in a funk cuz he says I can always cheer him up; I do the same. There has never been any sexual tension. Don't get me worng, he's handsome, witty, my freakin soul mate on so many levels-except that one. Nada. Zip. He's tooooo much like me. That whole "he's like a brother" thing going on. I look forward to having him (and the other 2) in my life for what damn well better be a long ass time.:biggrin1:
The first was my best friend from high school, who was one of the first people i "offically" came out to. He was never one to be shy with long real hugs, nuzzles, comforting me when it would get to much (we are talking those OMG-my world just ended, crumple to the gound uncontrolable sobs. The kind where your eyes become faucets and your nose is dripping and you could care less. He was there when i borke up with my first real BF (drove that day, as soon as i told him, 3 hrs to be with me) and i was there when he had problems and heartbreak with various GF's. We fell out of touch for a bit, but that was around the whole college years groing aoart, moving farther away, life taking you down differnt roads phase. He is back in y life now and we picked up like no time had passed.
The next was my best friends then fiancee, who started out as a complete phobe and became my biggest advocate. Really sweet guy who was just insecure. He changed and when him and my friend broke up and she moved away we remained good friends. He set me up with guys (or tried to, god he had HORRIBLE taste in men for me
, but he TRIED! lol) and i him with girls (he would say my potential pairings were just as bad!) slept in the same bed if he crashed at my place where he quikly realized that the worse part of that idea was the fact that I will slowly but surley take over the bed and shove people out, and laugh at me when, all perplexed i asked what he was doing down on the ground when i woke up. We are friends to this day and i hope to see him and his fam this Thanksgiving.The last guy has been my friend for 10 years. We share EVERYTHING. No subject is taboo. He doesn't put restictions on what i say. And I can get as graphic as i want. Then again so can he. :tongue:He kids me when people mistake us as a couple. Hell he'll play it up. He is comfy with who he is. He is, of all of them the closest to me. We greet each other with hugs, and a cheeck kiss when we feel like it. I was the best man at his first wedding (He wanted me to be it again this time around but there was no way i could make it to where it was being held, so i owe them a nice dinner when they get back (they want to take me to see David Sedaris cuz they feel bad that i couldn't make it to the wedding! lol) He and his wife want's me as Godfather of any potential kids. He has seen me at my worst and I his. My heart breaks when he hurts, and tears to pieces if he cries (it's rare cuz his whole family is stoic, so when he does it's something REALLY bad) He says it's the same for him. He calls when he is in a funk cuz he says I can always cheer him up; I do the same. There has never been any sexual tension. Don't get me worng, he's handsome, witty, my freakin soul mate on so many levels-except that one. Nada. Zip. He's tooooo much like me. That whole "he's like a brother" thing going on. I look forward to having him (and the other 2) in my life for what damn well better be a long ass time.:biggrin1:
