Can a man be "tricked" into having sex with another man?

[chrisrobin]

Labels are labels but they cover a lot of ground, and in-between there are very grey areas. Yes we'd all like to think we could trick a straight guy into having sex if we really got hot for him but that would only happen if he wasn't 100% straight. A lot of guys grow up a little confused and follow family pressures and contain any sexual deviancy - straying from the path to see if the grass is better on the other side.
Mind you that was probably more common a few years back - the internet and social networking has been responsible for breaking down taboos and having more things out in the open.
Growing up was growing up and growing out of things the natural progression of the early wank circles soon became less and less till I was a circle of one. That didn't stop in later years a casual meeting turning into a mutual masturbation session- his sexual exploration and curiosity stopped with wanks.
Then there are the guys who really do like the grass both sides, who, in public show a more heterosexual side and yet are up for being seduced, you could say tricked, into having sex with another guy. In this case it's in all probability the gay guy who is being tricked!

 

[buddy4you]

I was young when a friend ask me to sleepover. I was young and we were in a shed. He got naked with his huge cock I had seen in gym class a lot. Mine was much smaller. We sucked alot. Then he penetrated me. It was uncomfortable. We did that for several years. After high school, it ended. Wonder where he is now?

 

[Top_of_men]

As a 100% straight man (yes, we absolutely, positively exist!) having sexual contact with a man in any form is the farthest thing from my mind. not once did I ever consider sex with a man, not even for a second. I could go decades if I had to, by myself,

i agree on that. I always said the same thing but from a gay man prospective, having a sexual contact with a woman in any form is the farthest thing from my mind. not once did I ever consider sex with a woman, not even for a second. No matter how horny I am. I could go decades if I had to, by myself.
Because Women dont thrill me sexually. I dont think I can get hard with a woman.
also, as a gay man, and many here will agree with me, if I’m not attracted to the man I’m with I can’t have sex with them.
I read a lot of, I’m not attracted to guys but to the dick, well, my friend that dick is attached to a man
Amazing how we trick our minds to think we were TRICKED to do something when we want it but live in denial

 

[Ficklex88]

I'm really not getting the thought process here. Arousal doesn't equal attraction, nor does it equal consent. Some people get hard at the literal concept of sex, without any genders involved, so why wouldn't they be able to have sex with someone they're not attracted to? It's not like every closeted guy, who had sex with a girl in high school, is suddenly bi all of a sudden. The majority of people aren't repulsed by things they're not attracted to.

 

[AlexanderTX19]

Ive Ben in a few situations where random men would gawk at my bulge & lick their lips

I take it as a form of flirting tbh

A few would flirt aggressively

 

[lapdog2001]

I'm really not getting the thought process here. Arousal doesn't equal attraction, nor does it equal consent. Some people get hard at the literal concept of sex, without any genders involved, so why wouldn't they be able to have sex with someone they're not attracted to? It's not like every closeted guy, who had sex with a girl in high school, is suddenly bi all of a sudden. The majority of people aren't repulsed by things they're not attracted to.

I think that fits into a different scale of sexuality. You've got the "traditional"
Heterosexual <====== (Very Wide ranges of Bisexuality) =======> Homosexual

.... but also ...

Asexual <==========================================> Omnisexual

Throw hypersexuality into the mix as well.

 

[Acratopotes]

Consent was mentioned earlier in the thread and, to me, it is one of the few absolutes in sexual behaviour that whatever happens should be consensual. But even that has a complexity. As I understand it, some women have come forward and said that some men in their work lives are sexual predators. What has usually happened is that the man, who has been in position of influence over the woman's career, has come on to her and she has reluctantly agreed to have sex with him because she was keen to progress her career and knew that wouldn't happen if she refused. While in that situation she may have technically consented, I still find the behaviour of the man abhorrent.

So back to the original question there may be reasons of power and influence why a man might agree to sex with another man. But, in the absence of that, I think we have to assume that a man who has sex with another man is a man who is sufficiently turned on by the idea to be up for it. Being drunk or high isn't going to temporarily change his orientation.

My impression, from reading here and elsewhere, is that being "not completely straight" is more common than we have previously acknowledged and I include myself in that category. Most guys to which that applies will lead a straight lifestyle and therefore to a gay guy who had persuaded one of these men to have sex with him, it will seem like he has converted a straight guy but no conversion is involved. He will probably also discover that despite the "conversion" the man concerned has no interest in becoming his boyfriend.

But then I think we all have a tendency to assume other people are the same as us.

 

[cityboy66]

A lot of men go through life identifying as straight when they actually crave the dick. Label them however you want. But they identify as straight, have relationships and marry women and the world sees them as straight. But they still either fantasize or hook up with other men on the side. It happens all the time. Ever been in a YMCA steam room? lol So debating straight vs bi vs gay it silly. Some men are sexually turned on by men and how they identify publicly doesn't always match.

 

[deleted817718]

Oh of course. Dozens of men have “tricked” me into letting them stick there dicks I to me. I fall for it every time without fail. It’s only afterwards am I thinking “hey, that man I got naked for, performed oral sex on, libricated my ass hole and prepared myself for anal sex, then guided his penis inside me and enjoyed him penetrating me, tricked me into having sex.”

 

[karaokeman]

I used to seduce so-called "straight" men before (worked with lots of men) and it worked most of the time, but like I have to emphasise this is still quite rare. I'm a very small, tiny, thin, twink, I look very young, and a complete sissy in private, and some straight guys don't mind it cause they can just "pretend" I'm a chick. If I was a trans person I would pass really well. That's really how it goes most of the time (the other half stay friendly but clearly have zero interest). I would say it worked half of the time. I only ever had full on sex with one of them because I felt comfortable (and he still ravaged me completely), but the rest said they wanted to violently ravage me and that's when I realised I could get seriously hurt. Moved on from that and learned a lot of lessons.

 

[AllDixNeedLuv69]

no way possible--the man deep inside his mind wants to do it and sooner or later he will do it---i tell guys that are straight --whatever we do it stays between us that no one needed to know who sucked his dick or who fucked who---so once they know you wont tell anyone then they will let you suck their cock all you want and fuck your ass as if theres no tomorrow

 

[KiteAway]

In reality, I don't think a man can be tricked into having sex with a male (excluding drug/alcohol use).

If there's no inclination/curiosity, the man's maturity/profanities will tell the male why not!

 

[KiteAway]

Some men are sexually turned on by men and how they identify publicly doesn't always match.

True.

 

[Intellectualmeat]

This is a fantasy of some gay men to turn a straight man. Its no different than fantasies guys have of turning a lesbian or women who believe they can turn a gay man. All of these are fantasy completely separated from reality.

 

[notthatguy]

Not a chance.

 

[Acratopotes]

This is a fantasy of some gay men to turn a straight man. Its no different than fantasies guys have of turning a lesbian or women who believe they can turn a gay man. All of these are fantasy completely separated from reality.

Except, of course, that because people are not necessarily 100% straight or 100% gay, it is possible for someone to end up having sex with someone else whose public identity would seem to make that impossible.

So that lesbian woman that a man persudes to have sex with him is really bisexual, though probably leaning more to other women and therefore chooses to describe herself as lesbian, and still has enough attraction to men to enjoy that sex, or at least think she would when agreeing to do it.