Can a man change his Sexual Orientation?

[houtx48]

sure you can have you not been listen to the religious nutzzzz of America? how silly of you to ask.

 

[Countryguy63]

Guys, It is just a simple question... Just answer it..

It's not a simple question, or you wouldn't have asked it!

The answer is NO. You can only change how you accept, view, and act upon it.

Anybody seriously think that if you could actually change it (no longer attracted to whichever, No fantasies, etc.), that the countless number of people who have committed suicide because of it, wouldn't have changed it??

Believe me, I've prayed, told myself over and over, denied, and hated myself for years. Once I realized that's who I am, I could finally stop trying to change it, and start figuring out what it meant and how I was going to handle it.

Explain your actions however you want to, but who you are didn't change, just your views, interests and beliefs

 

[mitchymo]

NO! Industrialise said it best...simple as!

A man can discover his 'true' sexuality but cannot change it anymore than you can think your eyes a different colour

 

[MarkLondon]

No. A man can't consciously change is orientation. But it may change naturally over time. Either way (gay-straight or straight-gay, or all the bi permutations in between).

 

[pornographicpoet]

Hmm....I think it is possible to change your percentages. I know if you asked me when i was 18 I'd say more like 50/50....I had a huge desire for a former best friend who was male...while I liked a lot more girls than I liked guys - I liked him more than the girls.

Now I almost exclusively pursue women as a man hasn't really caught my fancy in a few years.

I think sexuality can change over time...I mean to some degree, in some situations, but not all.

 

[B_ccc888]

Sexual orientation is just like YIN AND YANG................

There are no 100 % straight or gay MEN or WOMEN

There is always some curiosity inside us about same sex experience. Some gays can get turned on sometime by hot agressive sexy girls.

If naked hot girl is sleeping next to a gay guy and sexually attacking and molesting him, jerking and sucking him off and teasing him

this gay guy can cum for sure........

Any "100 %" gay guys here have this kind of experience, you tried once with a female then you could fuck her and cum.

 

[alwayshornyatl]

No. You cannot change. You can either accept or not. Did you choose to be left-handed or did you choose to be right-handed? Of course you didn't. Did you choose what is your favorite color? Of course you didn't. Did you choose whether or not you like peas? Of course you didn't.

So too, with your sexual orientation.

When you're young you can get it up and perform for almost any reason. When you're surrounded by people telling you gay people aren't normal, you assume you're normal. You belive those "feelings" will go away when you have a "normal" regular sex life.

As you get older you acknowledge who you are. I'm gay and love being gay. I wouldn't ever change, given the opportunity. And, yes, I've been married to a woman, a woman who I loved, and in some ways, still do.

If I watch straight porn, do I ever feel like I'd love to shove my dick into juicy pussy, yes, sometimes I do. But I suspect that's because of what pussy feels like, not because I find women sexually attractive.

If you're gay, acknowledge it, accept it, and "welcome to the bright sunshine of freedom."

 

[midlifebear]

As for me the answer is a vehement "NO!" I didn't like tuna fish casserole when I was a child and I still don't like it at age 59. But I defer to the wise Kotchanski who probably knows a Hell of a lot more about fluid mechanics than I do. :smile:

 

[Jay1074]

No offense to the original poster but this is such a bullshit question! Sexual orientation is affected by so many factors that are completely independent of conscious thought. Individual physiology and environmental factors can greatly influence a person's sexual orientation. No matter how passionately you may try to stop being straight or gay, there may be a biological or genetic reason that compells you to be emotionally or physically attracted to a particular sex or both. You cannot control this by free will alone. To suggest so is ridiculous and ignorant; not to mention that that person could be in some serious denial.

I've tried to force myself to stop being attracted to men and all it did was drive me nuts and make me feel horrible. Fuck the idiots that claim this is a choice... it's not! If it were that easy, I'd be married with kids by now... not trying to hook up, fuck, and/or marry with this one hot guy in my office. The world has come such a long way in accepting GLBT persons but there is still alot of biggotry out there. Why would anyone CHOOSE to live one of these life styles by simply deciding one day to change their orientation if it meant experiencing that biggotry and/or persecution for it? That's always been my stance on the question of choice.

What I can control is my outward expression of my sexuality but it requires so much effort and conscious awareness that it becomes exhausting. I choose to make my sexuality known whenever I deem it necesary to do so based upon circumstantial occasion, other than that it's no one's business who I am sexually attracted to. I am comfortable being bi with a slight lean in the gay side of the sexual spectrum. That's my orientation and I cannot change it just because someone might not like who I am or because society or my heritage/culture expect me to live a certain way. The answer to this asinine question is, NO... end of discussion.

 

[SEXXXX]

It just means that your Kinsey scale is sliding left and right, and there is such person as BISEXUAL

 

[J_hayes]

I'd say it's your sexuality and you can do what you want with it. It is generally acceptable for a woman to experiment with lesbianism and declare herself perfectly straight later on, why can't a man do the same?

 

[Jay1074]

I'd say it's your sexuality and you can do what you want with it. It is generally acceptable for a woman to experiment with lesbianism and declare herself perfectly straight later on, why can't a man do the same?

The problem is experimentation ends after the first time. If you continue to "experiment" well... that's just afraid of admitting to yourself what your orientation really is.

 

[jackingoff10]

You're still young. Don't push it! You'll figure out who you are in no time!

 

[J_hayes]

The problem is experimentation ends after the first time. If you continue to "experiment" well... that's just afraid of admitting to yourself what your orientation really is.

good point!

 

[karldergrosse]

No, absolutely not. One can be confused and uncertain for a while, but he cannot will a change in orientation (that's why it's called "orientation," and not "preference" or "choice"), no matter where he fits on the Kinsey scale. He can be in denial, he can choose not to follow up on his orientation, he can force himself to live another type of sexuality. But change it? No way.

 

[ninerr]

I believe it's possible to change your orientation, just like you could any other major behavior.

That said, I don't think anyone should have to be anything less than what they want to be.

 

[Fredro]

I've stewed on this all day. I'd like to know why the OP asked this question. He lists himself as 100% straight now. He admits he was attracted to men at an earlier stage in his life. Now he says he is only attracted to women.

I'd like to know if he wants to know if all gay men should change and be straight if it is possible. Does he view a gay man as being less than he could ultimately be if he doesn't want to change to straight instead of gay? - It was possible for the OP, why not possible for all?

OR

He changed his orientation one time. Is he afraid he will change back to being gay someday?

OR

Is the OP bitter about closeting himself in a straight cocoon for whatever reasons? Does he feel gays should do the same to gain acceptance in their communities?

I still think the OP is fooling himself if he admits to being 100% gay 4 years ago and then all of a sudden WHAM! He's 100% straight. It don't work that way. I'd be interested in knowing if living in a middle eastern country with less than tolerant views of homosexuality has had anything to do with this supposed change. Was his family and all the people he interacts with on a day to day basis aware of his gay side? Would they be less than accepting of his orientation if they had known of his gay interests and gay activities? Did his orientation all of a sudden "change" because his coming of age mean that "playtime" was over and he had to become a man as a man is viewed in his society?

100% gay to 100% straight in the blink of an eye? Not hardly. Bisexual with leanings toward heterosexual? That's probably more like it. In denial? In my opinion, oh yes, most definitely.

Really, why did the OP ask this question?

To the OP - No need for posturing. You can be yourself here.

 

[B_Hamadim]

I've stewed on this all day. I'd like to know why the OP asked this question. He lists himself as 100% straight now. He admits he was attracted to men at an earlier stage in his life. Now he says he is only attracted to women.

Do not go to the extremes, You are creeping me :frown1:

 

[Fredro]

I am only stating what you have already stated in earlier posts on page 1.

Sort of like you said in an earlier posts - Simple questions - any answers?

Come on - You CAN open up here. No one is judging you.

 

[B_Hamadim]

I don't have to open, I am not afraid, I can switch back to %100 Straight and vice versa