Ok here it goes.... I've been dying to ask this question since I joined this group. (basically the reason I did) I'm a little embarrassed, but I have to know something and you guys seem to have answers for everything! This I need answered. (I'll try to be brief) My husband and I have always had a great sex life. Never an issue with his size or anything. He's a big guy, I'm petite....we've managed to work through all the "won't fit" issues we had in the start of our relationship, and hardly had a problem since. Until about 2 years ago. And now it's not the same, and I think it has everything to do with this. We were on vacation for about 5 days (sort of 'rekindling' our relationship so to speak) and from the moment we arrived at the house we had sex. In the pool. The poolhouse. The 2-person shower (that was cool btw) and then finally in the master bedroom. I remember starting to feel pretty soar and swollen, but I didn't say a word because this was like a dream for me...That, and the fact that I've never denied my husband sex - ever! Well...he wakes me up on the last morning there, fingers me a little to get me all wet and excited, and then rolls me over and enters me from behind.... He was so hard, and he's in me deep.... But as he's thrusting, he pulls out and on the way back in I feel his dick like bend in half! Like it snapped! (this is so embarrassing ) He immediately stopped. Whatever that was that happened freaked us both out and all I could ask was if he was ok? All he said was that he thought maybe he 'over did it'. We packed up, came home, and sex has never been the same since. Now we have sex maybe once a month, and nothing fun and crazy like it used to be....This worries me. What happened? Is he afraid that will happen again? Did something break? Could he be blaming me in some way?.... I sorta need to know how to fix this.
hahaha(not laughing at ur husband, just an old memory)..... im sorry... YES! maybe he's lost his nerve in the sack for fear of reopening the wound? i know that when it breaks it swells up and becomes harder to get and maintain erections because of improper blood flow. my heathen micro-penis brother broke his jackin it after an ugly whore touched it, later he married the whore. he spent the next month showing it to me everyday, he was too embarrased to go to a doctor. i used my common sense and told him that to just let it heal itself. since u say it was two years ago the tissue is probably hardened. does he have a bend? is it bad? if so, he might need surgery or physical therapy to get it back to normal. -condolences(to ur husband).
:love: Thats hottt! :jumping38: :151: You say that you presently have sex "maybe once a month"... Do you see or feel anything different about his penis?... If so what's the difference?
I brusied a vein once by squeezing the penis really hard (too hard) when I came (I heard it made the orgasm better). It was really painful to get an erection and/or masturbate for two weeks! Mine has bent in half sometimes too, when I'm not hard or turned on enough. It's never been painful or caused any damage. Maybe he isn't physically damaged and its some other reason. Also, even if it were physical I would expect it to heal after a month.
I've read in many places that it's very dangerous to have sex when youre not ~100% erect (this can be the case if have sex in a row) as you can get Peyronie's which is a disease in which a plaque develops along the shaft of the penis causing a (sometimes painful) curve or bend. BE CAREFUL!
It is possible to "break" one's penis. Read here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penile_fracture For more info: http://www.emedicine.com/med/topic3415.htm Two common complications are painful erections and erectile dysfunctions. It's been a while, but you should encourage him to see a doctor.
He definitely needs to see a doctor. Ten or so years ago my wife and I were going at it doggy-style, she thrust back and I heard and felt a *POP*, I was in agony and couldn't continue. Turned out I "sprained" my dick and got a case of Epididymitis, an inflammation of the small tube that connects to the testicles. I had to take antibiotics. Took a couple of months to fully recover.
Wow - Thank you! This has been bothering me for a long time. You guys are the greatest! To answer many of the questions I've read... No, he won't go to the doctor. (he's seriously anal about it) No, there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with his penis for a very long time now....believe me, I'm very conscious about it, and I'm down there every chance I get! I've had him in my hands, and my mouth...he's still beautiful! And it's not that the sex has changed with him....it's more the 'desire to have it'! He's always been the 'aggressor'...'the initiator'...takes me when he wants me, for as long as he wants me, (that kind of thing) and I loved every minute of it. (...I 'take' him sometimes too) But since this happened I feel as though his 'Mojo' flew out the window or something, its almost like an insecurity issue.... I think....not sure.... But as time goes by, I feel more of me becoming insecure and I can't let that happen! I've never been insecure about anything, and sex is huge for me!! I want to fix him... And I do appreciate the help!
having worked in an ER for several years I know this is in fact possible and not even that uncommon. The people with "fractured penis" written on their triage papers were always very embarrassed about what had happened but we usually got in about one a week. Of course there is not actually any bone in there to break but the tendons and ligaments can rupture or become damaged.
I understand that whatever it was that happened must've been painful for him. I also understand that I should kick his ass for not seeing a doctor! But Damage?? Do you mean like - permanant damage?? Is it possible he still feels something's wrong, but isn't saying anything? If he doesn't tell me there's something wrong, I don't know how to help him...but he's not talkin', and I see nothing wrong...! I'm not sure what to think.
Maybe he's stressed or depressed about something. Or you've been together a long time and things need spicing up. Ask him
My penis didn't rupture but came close to it. I can tell you the pain is excrutiating! Besides the physical component are potential psychological issues. I became quite depressed after my "accident". Each case is different I'm sure and each man may respond in a unique manner but consider the possibility that he is afraid that it will happen again or concerned that it happened once for that matter.
We had sex yesterday morning, and afterwards, a really long talk about what happened so long ago. Seems he was in alot of pain, but he says it was for about 3 months. "Like he tore something"....thats what he said. And it freaked him out big-time. "No more multiple times"...he says. I guess I can understand that....
No, a penis is indestructable. That's why they cut them off of war prisoners to build space shuttles.
just so ya know the penis fracture is considered a surgical emergency.....kinda like appendicitis. Will it kill you if you dont see the doctor? probably not. But you do risk some serious damage with scar tissue being a minor complication all the way up to compartment syndrome which can cut off blood supply, kill the nerves and possibly even result in such little blood flow that parts of the penis need to be amputated. His best bet would be to go see a urologist. If you need a referral then see your GP but he really should see a specialist
I may have to scare him with some of this information, in order to get him to the doctor. But so be it! It's not worth being pigheaded when it comes to something like this. And I do appreciate the advice.... When we were together just the other morning, I made sure to spend alot of time down there playing with him, and there was one thing I noticed, that I've never noticed before. As I felt him get really hard, my lip felt like it passed over a small bump or something. It was like a tiny bump on one of his veins. But then right before he came I felt it get bigger. And after he came, it dissappeared. Everything else was completely normal. He even stayed hard long enough to satisfy me. (that didn't take very long) He say's he doesn't need to see a doctor...but he will. Anyway, thanks again!
