Can anyone have a really good sex with someone you do not love at all?

[the_reverend]

i've had really good sex with people i had no emotional connection to...i've had great sex with friends who i loved but wasn't in love with...and i've had mind blowingly bordering on religious experience sex with girls i was head over heels for. so there's a sliding scale at work here.

 

[Incocknito]

Some people are born sexy.

Some people are born good at sex.

Lucky people are born with both those traits. Not sayin' any names

But to answer the question the best sex I had was with someone I didn't love and probably was barely even attracted to. But she had massive tits and loved to fuck in any position I could think of.

There was no apprehension or lack of enthusiasm, timidness or fear as I have experienced with other partners.

Which made for some awesome sex.

 

[B_Lightkeeper]

Yes. Just try me! :wink:

 

[deleted3782]

For me, impossible. I am not able to separate sex from emotion. I have very little motivation to have sex with a perfect stranger. My head would put an end to the whole process by asking "who the fuck is this person and why are you fucking around with them???"

Edit: Oh wait, this thread is only for people who have really good sex, right? My bad!

 

[L_Lynn]

I've had great sex with people I don't love, but whom I like and respect. I couldn't do it if I really disliked the person. I also had great sex with someone I liked, but wasn't physically attracted to. Surprised myself that I not only went there, but that I enjoyed it as well!

 

[invisibleman]

... and I mean really fucking good sex with someone who you really say 'NOTHING'.

I found it to be impossible. All my top 10 love-making ever of my life always come from my intimate partners.

In other words, I am sure to love the person that I have had great sex with.

How about your experiences?

My heart is connected to my cock unfortunately. I don't fuck around with malintent and malevolence in mind.

I want the real deal. I have had it before. I can have love again.

I wouldn't mind being in a polyamorous situation though. I don't have that much faith in monogamy. Men haven't been devoted much so I want backup men.

 

[hunkydory]

I actually find it easier to have really good sex with a stranger or someone I know casually - the more I know them the less i can sexualize them. Still waiting for the love/give me a seizure in bed sex combination.

 

[saphire]

Neh - for me to have good sex with someone, I've got to be in love. And, it just gets better and better as that love grows -

yes I very much agree

 

[metas]

I think you have something to say just like me.
I like it man.

For me, impossible. I am not able to separate sex from emotion. I have very little motivation to have sex with a perfect stranger. My head would put an end to the whole process by asking "who the fuck is this person and why are you fucking around with them???"

Edit: Oh wait, this thread is only for people who have really good sex, right? My bad!

 

[metas]

Well, how about your EX?

I actually have been approched and offered from my EX for just sex only. Well, my ex is history for me now even though we used to have really good sex, but I don't thinkI can do it anymore with my ex.

 

[AlphaSpartan]

I've had decent sex with a woman I only knew for a week. You just have to communicate... and she didn't know how to which is why I say only 'decent'.

 

[petite]

Okay, I had this one night stand that was unbelievably good when I was probably 20 or 21 (and he was average size). He recently sent me a message on Facebook (he's in the middle of a divorce), so I know it was really good for him, too! I wanted to have sex with him again, but he acted like an ass one night and I didn't talk to him for a decade. He apologized profusely in his Facebook message and told me how much he regretted it. I regretted it, too!

So, no. Good sex doesn't depend on love. But really great sex won't keep a guy from acting like an ass so you won't have an opportunity to do it again a second time.

 

[B_Nick4444]

some of my greatest sex experiences were with with persons whose name I did not know

 

[D_Farmoure Dickthanyew]

Not with complete strangers. But I don't have to be in love for it to be great. A big ass pile of lust works just fine.

 

[the_reverend]

Well, how about your EX?

I actually have been approched and offered from my EX for just sex only. Well, my ex is history for me now even though we used to have really good sex, but I don't thinkI can do it anymore with my ex.

this has happened to me a lot in the past. especially just shortly after the break up...and it's still amazing, and sometimes gets us thinking we should get back together. and then we'll spend enough time around each other to remember why, even if the sex is incredible and we love each other, we shouldn't be around each other that much. lol!

 

[buzzrider7]

Reading this thread reminds me of this gem:

What is making love?
It's what my girlfriend does while I fuck her.

That said, I'd say I'm 50-50 in terms of hot casual sex vs. sex in a relationship (though it's usually pretty early on). Make-up sex can be pretty damn hot, tho.

 

[midlifebear]

some of my greatest sex experiences were with with persons whose name I did not know

Let's try that sentence again, shall we? "Some of my greatest sex experiences were with persons whose names I did not know."

I suppose being gang fucked in McAlister Park on a hot and humid Friday night/early Saturday morning might be entertaining, but if you're passed out drunk in your own vomit how can you be so certain? :biggrin1:

 

[earllogjam]

Yes, there seems to be a theme here. I've had amazing sex with people I never loved.

 

[D_Gunther Snotpole]

I've had amazing sex with peeps whose names I wasn't quite sure about.
Hint: Wm. Harrison was prexident.

 

[MalakingTiti]

Yes