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In another thread, someone commented about how some straight guys have sex with men but won't call themselves gay or bisexual. The poster commented that you almost never hear of a gay guy who has sex with women on the side. So I've been trying to think why so many straight men have sex with guys but don't become gay/bisexual or identify as gay/bisexual. Obviously many don't because of societal or religious pressure or because they don't want to disrupt their family life. However, it seems like something else might be going on. What if sex with men, for some straight guys, is really like a fetish--doing something sexually new and taboo that creates a sexual thrill? Straight guys know women, they spend all their time focused on women, but being with another guy is for them, something completely new and "adventurous". Whereas, for most gay guys, they've had that experience with women or grown up with struggling against heterosexual conformity, so once they get to the gay side and accept, there is nothing really exciting about going back to liking women. There is no real taboo against that unless it is among their own gay friends.
I know in my own life I like doing adventurous things or trying out new stuff. I live by the theory, try everything once and if you like it, try it again. One time I ate like a vegan for 2 weeks just to see if I could do it, but I wouldn't ever call myself a vegan because I love meat.
So I've started to wonder, if this is what is going on with some straight guys? It's not about gay identity, but it's the fetish of cock and "man sex" that is isolated to wanting that thrill.
Can gay sex be a fetish? How do straight guys who have sex with men understand their behavior?
I know in my own life I like doing adventurous things or trying out new stuff. I live by the theory, try everything once and if you like it, try it again. One time I ate like a vegan for 2 weeks just to see if I could do it, but I wouldn't ever call myself a vegan because I love meat.
So I've started to wonder, if this is what is going on with some straight guys? It's not about gay identity, but it's the fetish of cock and "man sex" that is isolated to wanting that thrill.
Can gay sex be a fetish? How do straight guys who have sex with men understand their behavior?