can guys be raped by women?

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  1. D_Fluoridia Bidet

    D_Fluoridia Bidet New Member

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    I had this discussion with my friend when she asked me if men can be raped by women? I know guys can rape guys but I don't know if a woman is capable of doing it. I am thinking a guy would like it rather than turn away from it. I don't know so is it possible?
     
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    It's kind of grey area as rape is only rape is the law says it's rape and unfortunately ladybumming isn't really as straightforward as having a man rape a woman/man. I know that it's recognised in Britain that a woman can rape a man and has been a law for about 5-10 years now I think, I don't know about America or elsewhere though because the laws differ.
     
  3. dolfette

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    of course they can!

    every guy knows that sometimes your wang refuses to listen to your brain, that it gets hard despite you willing it to go down.

    if a woman is touching it right, could you stay soft?

    and just because YOU might like it, doesn't mean every guy would.

    there's social conditioning that means lots of guys just can't fight back against a woman.

    rape, no matter what the gender, is a distressing experience.
     
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    Well it would be difficult because guys are generally stronger than women. The women would need to be significantly stronger than the man or have a couple friends with her to help. And then she probably wouldn't be able to get him hard if he really didn't want to do it. So then it wouldn't necessarily be rape I don't think. It would be more like forced sexual acts but not actually rape. I think if the guy is hard then it isn't really rape because that would mean he is consenting. Unless the girl planned it out and like slipped viagra in his drink or something.
     
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    Rape doesn't have to always involve being physically overpowering. It can also involve using mental coercion, blackmail, and drugs&alcohol for the rapist to get what they need.

    We tend too often to define rape by the overdramatic chase and conquer scenes that movies are famous for.
     
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    With drugs and alcohol I think it would be difficult to rape a guy because he might not get it up if he is really messed up. Or he will be willing because he is messed up but that is still him giving consent meaning it is not rape. As far as blackmail goes I probably would consider that rape but I don't thing it goes along with the definition of rape. Isn't rape supposed to be forcing someone into having sex without their consent. Well if you blackmail a person into having sex with you they are giving consent even though they don't want to.

     
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    Yes. It's based on non-consent.

    I presume you mean penis in a female orifice. It would also be rape if he was penetrated.

    It could be done in a number of ways. Weapons may or may not be necessary.

    Sleeping men have been mounted by women. By the point they wake up it's non-consenting sex. If that changes it may become consensual.

    Deeply drugged men can not give legal consent. Hospitals and institutions for the care of mentally or physically impaired men have cases where abusive employees / caregivers have been known to masturbate and rape the residents.

    I'm sure there are other examples.

    The man is generally ridiculed if he complains, so I imagine it just doesn't get reported much. It's seen as getting "lucky". Boys get protection up to a certain age, then once past the age of consent it's a grey area for most.

    Not that it happens much, I would presume.
     
  8. D_Yorick Yankwilly

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    Yes, it can and does happen.

    Your body does not always do what you would expect it to do in certain situations, and definitely someone can be in capacitated physically that would not impair the act itself. It sounds impossible, on the surface, and unlikely given the general perception of women, social mores, and the like, but can and does happen more regularly than poeple would realize, further complicated by the self image issues by men caught as victims in such an act.

    Feel free to do more research, but this is something I can speak with some authority on.
     
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    The short answer is yes, a man can be raped by a woman.
    They suffer the same emotional upheaval and devastation after such an ordeal as a woman.

    Rape has nothing to do with sex, love or intimacy. If a man says no, it actually does mean no. Just like when a woman says it.

    What is the Legal Definition of Rape?

    Answer: The Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network has some helpful links and information on their site: http://www.rainn.org

    One page is dedicated to definitions of rape and sexual assault: http://www.rainn.org/statistics/definitions.html

    It's also advised: "To determine the statute in your state, contact your local prosecutor, district attorney or state attorney general's office. You can also read more about the laws in your state."

    RAINN's Page on State Laws on Statutes of Limitations: http://www.rainn.org/what-should-i-do/state-laws.html

    Cornell University's Legal Information Institutehas a good list of links to state criminal/ penal codes: http://www.law.cornell.edu/topics/state_statutes2.html#criminal_code





     
  10. B_excalibur_07

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    Yes a man can be raped by a woman...../I belive in Italy 4 women raped a man and the court deemed that although he had an erection at the time it was a built in response to a situation. Basicly he did not want to have sex and he said NO............ CUM on girls I wont say NO!!!!!!
     
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    ... :eek: Oh my God, how ignorant can people be?!
    An erection is an oft-uncontrollable influx of blood into the pudendal artery brought about by sub-conscious primal arousal. Never got an erection in school or at work? What you're saying is that if you were at work and got a random bone-on then anyone would be perfectly within their rights to hold you down and ride you like a rocking horse because having an erection means you're "giving your consent"? :mad: Sorry, but somehow that doesn't quite sit right with me!
     
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    yeah, and if he was wearing tight pants he was asking for it :rolleyes:
     
  13. dolfette

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    it's pretty common for women to get wet during a rape.
    stimulate the body and it usually responds.

    i s'pose some morons would say that = consent too.
     
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    I'm surprised by that. I thought that in law aq woman couldn't rape a man. However it's always been possible for women to be found guilty of sexual assault by touching a guy's genitals for eample without his permission or when that kind of attention is clearly unwanted by the recipient.
     
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    No it's on the books. It's kind of glossed over like that one about eating mince pies in the house of commons being high treason and that one where you can legally kill a scotsman from a certain window in York or something with a bow and arrow without being prosecuted for murder.
    This one's kinda new, remember that big old hoo-hah about it in the news a few years back where that guy was gang raped by three minging fat girls in an alley behind a club after they date-raped him? That's why!
     
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    If I had sombody trying to rape me I would not be aroused. When something shocking and horrible is happening to you is it normal to be aroused by that? That is a pretty ignorant statement you made yourself. Having an erection doesn't mean anyone can come ride you. But if somebody did and you sustained an erection I think it is pretty clear it didn't bother you too much. How could you possibly have an erection when something that bad and traumitising is happening to you. Thats like saying if a woman gets raped she can get wet but it doesn't mean she liked it.
     
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    It's pretty common for women not to get wet from what I have heard. That's why it hurts them so much. The brain is what controls the body so I think if what is going on is really that bad your brain is not going to be sending signals to get ready for sex. More than likely your brain is going to focus on pumping you with adrenaline in hopes of fighting the person off or running away. I have been turned off by someone and when they tried to stimulate me nothing happened. That is not nearly as bad as being raped either. If stress can cause you not to get it up then how come being raped won't do the same even though it is a lot more horrible than stress. It doesn't make you a moron to think logically. I'm not saying it is impossible but something about it doesn't seem right. I'm sure there are a lot of intelligent people out there that would agree with me.​
     
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    It happens but is sometimes hidden behind euphemisms. A newspaper headline about a male suspect held by police being "sodomized" with a police baton means he was raped while in custody, and if the perpetrators happened to be policewomen, there you go.
     
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    That would have nothing to do with it at all. Not sure how that relates to what I said to begin with.
     
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    It's not that simple. Like I said, an erection is a sub-conscious primal reaction, like how you can't just get a hard-on just by thinking "become hard". The body reacts to the fact that it's having sex whether you want it to or not. I can't blame you for thinking that because I used to think exactly the same thing.
    Note "used to".
    It took me a long time to get over it and it left me pretty fucked up because everybody I tried to tell said almost exactly the same thing as you are now so you'll excuse me if I'm not singing along to the sound of music now I'm hearing about how it was my fault and that I could've just "stopped being hard" for the five hundredth time!
    I didn't mean to insult you, it's just a kind of iffy subject for me. Sorry.
     
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