can i get too hard?

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  1. D_Cliebert_Chodechoker

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    HEy
    im new to the board and this is my first post and its a question for the ladies. Im 19 yrs old and an uncut 7.75 long 6 around. ok thats outta the way.

    When i have sex which isnt often i get told that my dick gets to hard and that when i pump fast bc i do when i wanna make a woman cum that it hurts but they tell me to keep going.

    I got scared a week ago tho bc i made this girl i work with danielle bleed, and it was on my dick when i pulled out, but she enjoyed it i guess bc she never said stop. She was kind of "out of it" when we were done tho i almost felt bad about having sex w her.

    Basically im in love with danielle but she wont have sex n e more bc she said it hurt her. What can i do to stop this and i dont really wanna stop pumping fast bc if i dont pump fast i my as well be playing baseball bc i dont get any sensation ,or not enough to make me wanna cum. Thank you for the replies in advance.
     
  2. Knight

    Knight New Member

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    Sounds like she isn't wet enough. I mean we all get hard. Try lube. Or get her really turned out.
     
  3. jonb

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    Try lube. Or try getting her turned on more. Foreplay's nice for sex with a big one because you do more precum and she has her own juices which are a lot more after a lot of foreplay.
     
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    Welcome.

    You have received a number of suggestions related to improving the sex act, but not addressing a "too hard dick" or "fast pumping". Ignoring the dry vagina, she could be suffering a bladder infection.

    Yes, you can still cause pain by misusing your penis.

    Do not engage in intercourse if you are hurting your woman.
    Request she seek medical help.
    She could be suffering from endometriosis, vaginal tumors or venereal diseases. Most cases of persistent vaginal discomfort are due to a reflex called vaginismus.

    http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5049a_qa.html

    Getting back to misuse - you are using your penis properly, and most vaginas are built to handle a wide range of sizes and techniques - so keep pumping !
    However, if you hurt her; you are misusing it.

    This can cause problems for you both beyond the short-term, physical.

    Try slowing down.
    Yes.
    It may take longer but you should both be able to get there.

    Regarding the "too hard" - I don't believe this, in itself - is a problem.
    Ladies ?

    We have heard of older women who had became used to infrequent sex with their older husband. When he was introduced to "VIAGRA" things changes. No only did the husband become interested in more frequent sex, he was now equipped with a much bigger and harder penis than the women had become used to - which created problems. This doesn't fit your case.
     
  5. summertime01

    summertime01 New Member

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    There have been times when SO is harder & seemed larger than other times & was more painful upon entry. SO knows to warn me as we are warming up that it is harder so we work more at loosening me up & most definitley slower strokes in the beginning of a session.
     
  6. marteaux

    marteaux New Member

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    I don't believe one can be 'too hard' ... at least, you'd be hard to convince my wife. She loves a 'rock hard cock' ...
     
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