Thank you for your testimony. I am struggling with this as well. During hookups, I don’t get hard at all. When I am alone or watching porn I always get hard! How can I gradually quit porn? Did you follow specific steps? I really need to quit porn
You just have to absolutely end your relationship with it. Just cut it off, violently, stop watching completely ASAP. Do you have like MFC or Chaturbate accounts, or PornHub or any accounts on any of these sites. Delete ASAP!! What do you have to lose? I used to cherish all the porn I tabbed and also downloaded. Just the thought of something bad happening to one of my accounts, omgggg would've been the end to me. But then when I realized sex with my wife and just being with my own cock alone, appreciating it sincerely, was just a computer shut down away, I deleted all my cam site accounts, my xHamster, pornhub, you name it. Deleted.
Then it got weird. I got pretty depressed for a few days. Like my dopamine was on "fuck you" mode. A few days later I was in the old sex room (we have a bedroom devoted to sex, playing, solo time, porn, meditation, etc.) screen off, no computer on. And I stood there and grabbed my dick and went to town on it. I did get hard, it worked! But then I came within seconds of being hard. But that's okay, I used to edge for 45-75 minutes to porn and then finally release. No porn=seconds to cumming. I tried again, and again, training my body back to normal, baseline, the way a man's body is supposed to be and behave, not looking at hundreds of women that I could never ever be with. I'm now going to look at myself, and my wife, and get off on that.
A month later I could last 10 minutes when playing with myself. My wife was completely unable to have sex due to menopause, but she sucked me and gave me handjobs, stuff like that. After 3 months my morning wood was triumphant whereas when I was on porn every day I'd never wake up hard. If I was hard it would go down in seconds. Now it stays up for like 30 minutes if I lay in bed I don't even have to touch it, my system is working well now. My erection is more solid every hard on I get, it stays up too with no stimulation for a few minutes now. Used to get instantly soft the second I wasn't looking at porn

The glans is enormous now, very full of blood and rigid and hard as hard as my shaft during erections, it is red-purple in color and looks healthy and great, not grayish red/pink like before and shriveled up and never got hard, and its not cold anymore its always warm.
I don't look at pictures, I don't look at magazines, definitely not porn or video of any sort while I am alone with my cock. Self pleasuring can be very very fun alone with no porn, you just have to be into it and want to do it to yourself because YOU are worth it and IT is worth it and its supposed to be wonderful and amazing to do and to behold. I do myself for almost an hour now if I really want to, keep my erection rock hard the whole time, and no screen of any kind on in my face. My orgasms are stronger than they already were, I cum for a long time over 30 seconds every time usually like 40-50 seconds, but now its insane level strength I have to grip my face its so intense. I thought I came hard edging to porn for an hour; now I'm blowing my brains up from just 15 or 20 minutes of solo play.
Just do not go back to porn. If you have trouble getting hard just keep trying, just keep breathing, don't stop telling yourself your cock is awesome and that you love it, tell your cock how bad ass it is and that its amazing and so hard. You have to have confidence in self if you want your boner to live on strong the rest of your life. I am 47 now and my erections and confidence in my penis has maybe never been higher. I can't explain the physiology of it, but the psychology of it certainly is "porn=cock killer" and I've lived it and know it for sure.
You can do it! Don't have a big blow out cumfest to hours of porn when you want to quit. Its just fucking pornography, you don't need it to live, you don't need it to get hard naturally, your brain is addicted to the dopamine and the connection with sex makes it so insatiable of a habit. End it all ASAP, turn it off an delete it.