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So I’ve been having trouble sending live cum shots because of my overwhelming need of porn. Some guys I talk to can finish in like 5 minutes and it’ll take me a lot longer to finish, and that’s with porn, without porn I just can’t finish. Most of the time I just care about getting the other guy to cum, but sometimes they want me to cum for them, so I’ll have to get a quick porn to jerk off to quick. I’ve seen so many guys that can just cum due to being more in touch with the actual feeling of jerking off. I know I have an addiction to visual stimulation since every porn I see I picture myself as the bottom getting rammed, and I know being a virgin definitely contributes to that lol. Any tips on being able to cum without porn all the time, I know most people will say just stop watching porn, but I’m just curious to know if anybody else can relate.
 

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I-I... i can relate.. i'm also very visual. some things that get me all fired up are having a toy in my butt, and using silicon lube on my dick. no lube, or water based lube on my dick doesn't seem to do much, but the slippery silicon lube seems to get something extra going. just some things to try. good luck!
 
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I can relate to this. I have read several times about early ejaculation cause by watching something like porn, but it seems to work the opposite for me. When I was jerking without watching a porn, it takes a lot of time for me to ejaculate (like 15-45 minutes) but 3-7 minutes while watching, and it is also affect my sexual experience with someone. My cock after cannot maintain its hard after a few stroke to the hole, but when jerking with them, I can cum (idk why tho, maybe because I choose the wrong position?). So yeah this is kinda relate to me as I am an active porn watcher. I hope we could find the reason here by some professional passing by ahaha. Sorry if you don't understand my English, it's not my mother language
 

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So I’ve been having trouble sending live cum shots because of my overwhelming need of porn. Some guys I talk to can finish in like 5 minutes and it’ll take me a lot longer to finish, and that’s with porn, without porn I just can’t finish. Most of the time I just care about getting the other guy to cum, but sometimes they want me to cum for them, so I’ll have to get a quick porn to jerk off to quick. I’ve seen so many guys that can just cum due to being more in touch with the actual feeling of jerking off. I know I have an addiction to visual stimulation since every porn I see I picture myself as the bottom getting rammed, and I know being a virgin definitely contributes to that lol. Any tips on being able to cum without porn all the time, I know most people will say just stop watching porn, but I’m just curious to know if anybody else can relate.
Do you feel called to porn at all? Like it's pulling you in. I get that sometimes I think it's common among people who watch too much porn. Maybe you could try weaning yourself off porn? I don't know I think I might be in a similar boat as you but I can still cum without visual stimulation. I do like reading porn but I don't know how different that is from watching.
 
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Yes, been there done that. I couldn't get hard without porn on. Then I couldn't cum without it on. So I quit it over 2.5 years ago. I'm 200% more connected with my body and its response. Stimulation is unreal post porn, I feel things I don't know I've felt in over 30 or more years. I get hard instantly now and my EQ is better than it was in my 20s, I'm mid 40s now. I always have a rock hard boner, it just lasts longer now without stimulation or any attention. I can cum in a minute or two, or I can play and edge for almost an hour, all without images pictures videos anything. Just me and my body! With my wife I can do all kinds of things for however long I choose to last or as long as she can handle it.

My advice would be to ditch porn completely, fall in love with your body and especially your cock, and feel what your body feels like on its own. You'll wind up losing your virginity a lot faster too is my guess.
 

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Yes, been there done that. I couldn't get hard without porn on. Then I couldn't cum without it on. So I quit it over 2.5 years ago. I'm 200% more connected with my body and its response. Stimulation is unreal post porn, I feel things I don't know I've felt in over 30 or more years. I get hard instantly now and my EQ is better than it was in my 20s, I'm mid 40s now. I always have a rock hard boner, it just lasts longer now without stimulation or any attention. I can cum in a minute or two, or I can play and edge for almost an hour, all without images pictures videos anything. Just me and my body! With my wife I can do all kinds of things for however long I choose to last or as long as she can handle it.

My advice would be to ditch porn completely, fall in love with your body and especially your cock, and feel what your body feels like on its own. You'll wind up losing your virginity a lot faster too is my guess.
Thank you for your testimony. I am struggling with this as well. During hookups, I don’t get hard at all. When I am alone or watching porn I always get hard! How can I gradually quit porn? Did you follow specific steps? I really need to quit porn :(
 

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Yes, been there done that. I couldn't get hard without porn on. Then I couldn't cum without it on. So I quit it over 2.5 years ago. I'm 200% more connected with my body and its response. Stimulation is unreal post porn, I feel things I don't know I've felt in over 30 or more years. I get hard instantly now and my EQ is better than it was in my 20s, I'm mid 40s now. I always have a rock hard boner, it just lasts longer now without stimulation or any attention. I can cum in a minute or two, or I can play and edge for almost an hour, all without images pictures videos anything. Just me and my body! With my wife I can do all kinds of things for however long I choose to last or as long as she can handle it.

My advice would be to ditch porn completely, fall in love with your body and especially your cock, and feel what your body feels like on its own. You'll wind up losing your virginity a lot faster too is my guess.
Quitting cold turkey can be very hard. Do you have any more moderate ideas?
 
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Quitting cold turkey can be very hard. Do you have any more moderate ideas?
I think it should not be a sudden cut of porn. But rather gradually. In addition, you MUST find healthy alternatives. Because there will be a huge gap inside you. Some popular alternatives would be: hanging out with friends, doing sport, and if you are single, sticking to one or two sexual buddies REGULARLY. That what I would think of as a porn addict.
unfortunately I don’t have friends, I do a lil sport and I don’t have a regular sex buddies, I hook up every two weeks… for me I should really seek help :(
 

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Thank you for your testimony. I am struggling with this as well. During hookups, I don’t get hard at all. When I am alone or watching porn I always get hard! How can I gradually quit porn? Did you follow specific steps? I really need to quit porn :(
You just have to absolutely end your relationship with it. Just cut it off, violently, stop watching completely ASAP. Do you have like MFC or Chaturbate accounts, or PornHub or any accounts on any of these sites. Delete ASAP!! What do you have to lose? I used to cherish all the porn I tabbed and also downloaded. Just the thought of something bad happening to one of my accounts, omgggg would've been the end to me. But then when I realized sex with my wife and just being with my own cock alone, appreciating it sincerely, was just a computer shut down away, I deleted all my cam site accounts, my xHamster, pornhub, you name it. Deleted.

Then it got weird. I got pretty depressed for a few days. Like my dopamine was on "fuck you" mode. A few days later I was in the old sex room (we have a bedroom devoted to sex, playing, solo time, porn, meditation, etc.) screen off, no computer on. And I stood there and grabbed my dick and went to town on it. I did get hard, it worked! But then I came within seconds of being hard. But that's okay, I used to edge for 45-75 minutes to porn and then finally release. No porn=seconds to cumming. I tried again, and again, training my body back to normal, baseline, the way a man's body is supposed to be and behave, not looking at hundreds of women that I could never ever be with. I'm now going to look at myself, and my wife, and get off on that.

A month later I could last 10 minutes when playing with myself. My wife was completely unable to have sex due to menopause, but she sucked me and gave me handjobs, stuff like that. After 3 months my morning wood was triumphant whereas when I was on porn every day I'd never wake up hard. If I was hard it would go down in seconds. Now it stays up for like 30 minutes if I lay in bed I don't even have to touch it, my system is working well now. My erection is more solid every hard on I get, it stays up too with no stimulation for a few minutes now. Used to get instantly soft the second I wasn't looking at porn :( The glans is enormous now, very full of blood and rigid and hard as hard as my shaft during erections, it is red-purple in color and looks healthy and great, not grayish red/pink like before and shriveled up and never got hard, and its not cold anymore its always warm.

I don't look at pictures, I don't look at magazines, definitely not porn or video of any sort while I am alone with my cock. Self pleasuring can be very very fun alone with no porn, you just have to be into it and want to do it to yourself because YOU are worth it and IT is worth it and its supposed to be wonderful and amazing to do and to behold. I do myself for almost an hour now if I really want to, keep my erection rock hard the whole time, and no screen of any kind on in my face. My orgasms are stronger than they already were, I cum for a long time over 30 seconds every time usually like 40-50 seconds, but now its insane level strength I have to grip my face its so intense. I thought I came hard edging to porn for an hour; now I'm blowing my brains up from just 15 or 20 minutes of solo play.

Just do not go back to porn. If you have trouble getting hard just keep trying, just keep breathing, don't stop telling yourself your cock is awesome and that you love it, tell your cock how bad ass it is and that its amazing and so hard. You have to have confidence in self if you want your boner to live on strong the rest of your life. I am 47 now and my erections and confidence in my penis has maybe never been higher. I can't explain the physiology of it, but the psychology of it certainly is "porn=cock killer" and I've lived it and know it for sure.

You can do it! Don't have a big blow out cumfest to hours of porn when you want to quit. Its just fucking pornography, you don't need it to live, you don't need it to get hard naturally, your brain is addicted to the dopamine and the connection with sex makes it so insatiable of a habit. End it all ASAP, turn it off an delete it.
 

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Quitting cold turkey can be very hard. Do you have any more moderate ideas?
I know it can be very hard, extremely hard. That's why its worth doing. Guys who ween themselves off are still getting that trickle, light stream, and then when you stop you had only looked at a "tiny amount" for "not that long" so if you wait a few days and realize you aren't getting hard without porn and start freaking out and say "well, I was good for 5 days, I'll just look at one video to get hard..." that's not quitting is it? When I quit it was like a fucking flood was on and then I was in a bone dry room, like "where did the water go, its been here over my head for 20 years???" but then I could actually breathe and it felt good. You will have withdrawl and it will suck. But weening yourself off, like making yourself go down to just one cigarette, makes it easy to just have only one cigarette next time, its only one, I ended on only one, so I can quit again easy no problem. Addiction doesn't work that way. And porn definitely doesn't work on the brain the same way either. There's so much going on with watching porn and jerking off: Visual sexual stimulation, auditory sexual stimulation, sex is one of the most innate parts of our brain and a lot of our brain connects together during orgasm so sex as the dopamine release reinforces the stimulus and makes it more addiciting, physical stimulation sensation and pleasure of your own penis, and then all the other stuff to the sides of the screen all the other videos you can watch instantly which makes your brain predict and anticipate more of the fix that will prolong the dopamine high as long as possible, it all combines to create one amazing addiction. A cigarette sure feels good for a couple minutes, but nothing feels as good as orgasm. When porn and your orgasm happen repeatedly, you become addicted to porn because of the orgasm paired with it, every single time. You have to cut the porn off hard and fast, all or nothing is how I see it. You won't die from something so drastic as that; it won't hurt you, it won't injure you. But you will have to work to get your sex drive and cock back in sync again.

We're talking about your erection here. Is there nothing better than that worth a "cold turkey quit" over?? I'd quit anything in life cold turkey if it meant my erection would be bigger, stronger, more sensitive, and cum harder. That's just my hot take on all of this. The moderate approach probably never works that well.

Are there porn-quitters here reading that quit successfully for 1+ years that quit through moderation?
 
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I believe most of the issues with me needing porn stem from the fact that I have no kissing, sexual or any type of physical experience with people, since I knew I was gay, I always relied on porn because I never had anyone to experience sexual pleasure with, I don’t think I would need porn in a hookup because my stimulation would mostly come from the face that I’m pleasing my partner
 

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I believe most of the issues with me needing porn stem from the fact that I have no kissing, sexual or any type of physical experience with people, since I knew I was gay, I always relied on porn because I never had anyone to experience sexual pleasure with, I don’t think I would need porn in a hookup because my stimulation would mostly come from the face that I’m pleasing my partner
This is exactly one of the reasons why I watch porn, I am literally touch-deprived man :( I even seeked cuddlers pros and others to drive down my insatiable desires a lil bit. I depended on porn for years before having the courage and starting seeing actual human beings, and when I did I was anxious and shocked, the guy or girl have a porn star body in front of me but I remain soft when I am with them, I recently discovered that this is because of porn! As I am in my late twenties and I get hard when I am alone
 

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This is exactly one of the reasons why I watch porn, I am literally touch-deprived man :( I even seeked cuddlers pros and others to drive down my insatiable desires a lil bit. I depended on porn for years before having the courage and starting seeing actual human beings, and when I did I was anxious and shocked, the guy or girl have a porn star body in front of me but I remain soft when I am with them, I recently discovered that this is because of porn! As I am in my late twenties and I get hard when I am alone
I relate to this so much, it’s also hard to find someone willing to experiment with me due to my body
 
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So I’ve been having trouble sending live cum shots because of my overwhelming need of porn. Some guys I talk to can finish in like 5 minutes and it’ll take me a lot longer to finish, and that’s with porn, without porn I just can’t finish. Most of the time I just care about getting the other guy to cum, but sometimes they want me to cum for them, so I’ll have to get a quick porn to jerk off to quick. I’ve seen so many guys that can just cum due to being more in touch with the actual feeling of jerking off. I know I have an addiction to visual stimulation since every porn I see I picture myself as the bottom getting rammed, and I know being a virgin definitely contributes to that lol. Any tips on being able to cum without porn all the time, I know most people will say just stop watching porn, but I’m just curious to know if anybody else can relate.
I used to be bit addicted to porn but not entirely. I still was able to get hard but did not have much arousal in my mind. It was like body mi d connection was not eorking properly.
Porn creates the same addiction as Social media. It is about stimulating reward centre in your brain (do not remember which dopamine or other two) and that gets you going.
Do some research about porn and social media addictions, there is plenty on YouTube and some legitimate documentaries as well. If you research far enough you will find that "This is part of the plan of "elite" in order to take away your own sovereignty and true creativity".
All suggestions are "Stop doing it" but other side of it is "Be aware of it". After doing your research what porn does to your brain you will be more informed and will give yourself opportunity to be aware.
I quit cold turkey but soon it creeped in "Oh just this one more time", that's the moment to use your awareness "Ok i want to watch porn because reward molecules/hormones are depleted/going down" "that's fine". I had moments after week to fall back and watch something but i would be aware "I could not withstand desire, ok that's fine" but i also realise "I did not watch anything for a weeek". Next time it was two week or three week gap. And soon you know you are over it, like after three month or half a year.
Porn addiction is as bad as any other addiction, because under the surface it is all the same - addiction.
But most important first step is to admit that to yourself. After that you can heal yourself.
But first just do some research on pirn addiction as well as social media addiction. It will help you to understand yourself
 
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I find my imagination is way more powerful than any porn to get off to. I'll use porn as a starting point, but then add my own twists to the 'plot' of it. Turns into some wild, f'ed up fantasies that get me right off.
Same here, the things I can imagine are WAY more arousing than porn, I can even cum hands free using my fantasy. I use porn to set the mood, I usually cum without it