Can someone PLEASE explain small penis humiliation (SPH) to me?

[thickpex]

I know there are guys who are members here who consider themselves to be hung relatively small, and some have even expressed having SPH fantasies, or actually having acting it out, like in a cuckold situation. FOR THE LIFE OF ME I cannot understand the thinking or motivation behind such behavior or compulsions?? Maybe some of the larger guys here have been the "bull" in such a "love" (c'mon, there's NO love involved on the wife's side) triangle, and can give us insight as to where the smaller guy is coming from, or wtf they're thinking?? Maybe some of the guys who are in such a cuckold/SPH situation can explain how being humiliated and belittled and emasculated can be something that u can derive pleasure from?? I could never make fun of someone for that, even if u paid me.

 

[uberhund]

I would kind of go along with the last post, but I think it can be even simpler. Men generally like their cocks to be admired: small boys will show off erections and are proud of them until they learn otherwise through societal shame, rightly or wrongly. I think small guys don't get the same chances to show off as well hung guys as they're worried about being judged and ridiculed. Sph is a way in which a smaller guy can have his dick discussed and be the centre of attention, the kind of attention which generally only larger dicks get.

 

[cuck4you]

Its just a fetish/desire that some of us small-dicked guys have. We crave humiliation when someone else is getting off or at least amused at our degradation, patheticness and humiliation. True the reality is that most men who are normally or largely endowed dont care as well as women in men's relationships - but the desire for SPH by the small-dicked guys is there. These guys like me just can't find anyone else who is into it - so we go on still not satisfied as it were.

its hard to explain the pyschology behind every fantasy. I am sure there is one, but sometimes the pyschology behind it might not be as important as the fantasy itself. There are probably countless fantasies the world-over. Some I don't get at all - but even those that repulse me turn someone on somewhere. Fantasies are just that - something that cause some kind of arousal in someone. So I can't explain why small-endowed (or large-endowed) guys have SPH desires, but some, obviously do.

Full disclosure - I have these fantasies as well. Since I was a kid, whenever I was made fun of or teased or otherwise humiliated whule someone else enjoyed it, as much as I hated it, there was a part of my that was aroused by it. Those desires just grew. So, now, as an adult, humiliation in general (private, public, SPH, anything) is one of the strongest points of arousal for me, whether bby girls, guys, or groups of both.

So, yes, being small-endowed, and subjecting myself to SPH does do it for me.

why do i come here every now and then? don't know, but I do. Sometimes there are guys into SPH here - great for me. But, even if not, maybe its my subconscious that seeing large endowed guys and then noting my lack thereof, becomes humiliating even just within my own mind and consciousness. seeing other large guys reminds me of my lack of manhood - and that helps drive the SPH.

maybe since I feel I can't please a woman because I am small endowed in the "traditional manly way" (being a good f--k), maybe subconciously I get off on providing pleasure the only way I know how - allowing other people to get maybe a litle sadistic enjoyment, amusement, pleasure from controlling and humiliating me....


I think there are certainly elements of bdsm and in there. Some scenes of bdsm do NOT have humiliation - other fetishes are part of that scene. However, frequently, various aspets of humiliation are part of bdsm. Humiliation also sometimes plays into the fantasies of the small-dicked guys, though not always (and some secure men who are secure, just get off on SPH), so there very well might be aspects that are connected between SPH, BDSM, etc....

 

[Kotchanski]

We had a regular guy into SPH in the chat room a few years ago, and after watching him ask countless times, and get attacked for asking, I decided to ask him to explain it to me, so that I could better explain it to others when they took issue with him... I don't claim that his explanation will fit all guys, but from my personal experience with fetishes, and discussions with others, it makes sense.

He explained that when younger, he was bullied and ridicules for being smaller than others, and that there came a point where he just couldn't take it any more. He couldn't change who he was, so he had two options: Let it become a major issue in his life, or learn to take pleasure from it, and the pleasure it was giving others. He obviously chose the pleasure route.

I guess if you feel inferior to others and unable to pleasure them, finding something that allows you to feel like you're serving a purpose, that you can please others even if it is in a somewhat unconventional way can be as fulfilling as any other relationship.

 

[SR_chixdiggit]

forget trying to explain it, are there any women on this site who will give it?? my pictures are waiting for your comments, ladies!

but I digress...

for me, sph is about one thing, make that three: attention, attention, attention! for the most part, men just want women (or dudes) to look at their penis and tell them what they think. if it's big, great! how big? yeah, baby, tell me more! if it's small, same thing... Just tells us we're being ogled, sized up, and paid attention to. we're visual creatures, us men. and when our cocks are looked at, we like it! plain and simple.

now i'm not into humiliation per se, or wearing diapers, or the whole cuckcolding thing -- in fact I think these are the associations that probably turn many people off of sph -- so I can't explain that. but as a dude with an undersized wiener, all I can say is:

what's the point of having a tiny pecker if you can't have any fun with it? :biggrin1:

 

[bigonepleaser]

just a fetish some small cock guys have- it literally gets them hard when a big cock guy intimidates, humiliates, or fucks his wife (in cuckolding). I guess you have to be into the whole "power" aspect to understand it...given up power or having supreme power. Most big cock guys seem to be hardwired-not to pick on or put down small cock guys...but the fact is some small guy luv it, alot. I like it...its fun.. My feeling are never hurt, its more of intense roleplay.

 

[teenieweenie_11]

just a fetish some small cock guys have- it literally gets them hard when a big cock guy intimidates, humiliates, or fucks his wife (in cuckolding). I guess you have to be into the whole "power" aspect to understand it...given up power or having supreme power. .

this. I'm actually on the small side and sph is a real turn-on. All happened when my wife (then gf) told me how she was with well endowed/normal guys (3 ex-bfs) before we met.

(my first post)

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

here ya go

Small Penis Syndrome: Characteristics and Self-Help Treatment Suggestions - Anxiety Disorders

 

[dolfette]

just because you don't get it,
doesn't make it less valid.
i could get into it with the right guy,
if i loved him & it got him hot.

 

[minimag]

Nope, I don't get it either. I already feel like a disgusting-looking deformed freak most of the time anyway. The last thing I want is for someone to point out the obvious...as if I don't already know.

 

[bulgeguy]

I think there is a small minority (pun intended) who do have serious psychological issues regarding their penis size and use humiliation as self-inflicted punishment. This is unfortunate.

But for most people who are into SPH, I think it can be a healthy version of role-playing between two consenting adults. It's a bit of a submissive fantasy, not unlike the "bad schoolboy who deserves to be punished by the strict school-mistress."

SPH is also a way of celebrating/worshipping a large penis. After all, the smaller one penis is, the bigger another one will look in comparison. And I think most visitors to this site can easily understand large penis admiration.

SPH is not for everyone, but I think in many cases it's simply a fun bit of escapism.

 

[B_625girth]

I don't get SPH either. growing up I was humilated enuf for being tall and skinny. luckily, I inherited a big penis.

 

[uberlamer]

SPH is just retarded from my persepective. I'm on the low end of average in length, and it's not SPH that turns me on, it's imagining (is that word correct?) myself having a big penis.

 

[stlguy112000]

some of us guys with small dicks are also submissive & are turned on by being used & humiliated. since I have a small weenie, my role is to suck guys with BIG cocks, they're entitled to be serviced & sucked because of their BIG cocks. I especially love laying my little wiener next to a BIG man-cock fully boned to really apreiciate how much bigger his cock is & how small mine is, it's a real turn-on. Anybody else (BIG or small) feel the same?

 

[uberlamer]

some of us guys with small dicks are also submissive & are turned on by being used & humiliated. since I have a small weenie, my role is to suck guys with BIG cocks, they're entitled to be serviced & sucked because of their BIG cocks. I especially love laying my little wiener next to a BIG man-cock fully boned to really apreiciate how much bigger his cock is & how small mine is, it's a real turn-on. Anybody else (BIG or small) feel the same?

If I was big, it would be such a turn on to see how bigger I am than most people. But now, I wouldn't try anything that comes remotely close to what you said.

 

[adequate]

some of us guys with small dicks are also submissive & are turned on by being used & humiliated. since I have a small weenie, my role is to suck guys with BIG cocks, they're entitled to be serviced & sucked because of their BIG cocks. I especially love laying my little wiener next to a BIG man-cock fully boned to really apreiciate how much bigger his cock is & how small mine is, it's a real turn-on. Anybody else (BIG or small) feel the same?

Well, from someone who is not well endowed, big dick'd guys are no more entitled to cock sucking than any of us are unless that's someone's fetish in itself, to suck big cock as it is to screw big assed women. Should I ever be inclined to suck a penis, it is the person that I'd be suck'ling, not the dick, large or small, for me there has to be some sort of connection. So you big dicked fellas, you don't get a free pass from me.

 

[Triasco]

I don't think it can be explained to someone who doesn't feel the same way about the fetish. The entire reason things are labeled as fetishes is because they are things from which people derive pleasure even though the majority of society may not understand how. Things that kind of make sense, like bondage and such, are kinks, but fetishes go much deeper than simply "what feels good physically." Fetishes exist in the mind, or maybe even on a deeper level than that. So, naturally, it is very hard to understand if you don't feel it and very hard to explain even if you do.

 

[B_subgirrl]

some of us guys with small dicks are also submissive & are turned on by being used & humiliated. since I have a small weenie, my role is to suck guys with BIG cocks, they're entitled to be serviced & sucked because of their BIG cocks. I especially love laying my little wiener next to a BIG man-cock fully boned to really apreiciate how much bigger his cock is & how small mine is, it's a real turn-on. Anybody else (BIG or small) feel the same?

I am very submissive, and into being humiliated. But people laughing at my real world attributes does not turn me on. For example, if someone made fun of my breasts during sex (eg. saying I was a slut because they were large) it would in fact be an instant turn off. I just don't get it.

 

[B_Jimtfmb]

I don't get SPH either. growing up I was humilated enuf for being tall and skinny. luckily, I inherited a big penis.

It's rare anyone tells me I have a small penis. Just average here 7x6. But I like guys way taller than me. Often they are about my size or smaller. Met one 6ft9 guy with a huge 10 inch cock, it was kinda hot when he told me he loved how small and cute my cock is. The guy is a total cum lover and gets off on having the entire thing is his mouth.

So not really a humiliation since I have a strong ego, but hot being way smaller in the cock area with him.

 

[TheRob]

no
I can't explain it cus I have NO IDEA why it would make people horny
however I'm interested in trying Large Penis Humiliation if a hot chick will help me out : o )