Can someone PLEASE explain small penis humiliation (SPH) to me?

[B_Nia88]

So why do these men enjoy watching? One is that they want to see their wife or girlfriend enjoy sexual fulfillment that they cannot provide. Another is having a small penis and rather than her leave for a better lover it's understood she will stay with him as long as she is in total charge of who and when and how she chooses a sexual partner.
By allowing himself to be her cuckold he takes the submissive position and endures the humiliation if it means she will be completely fulfilled sexually. Watching another man have sex with her and seeing her react to him naturally arouses the cuckold male and if allowed to masturbate while watching will have an intense orgasm.

 

[redrunner]

there is an explination that is totally for this and one that is totally not. but what about all the other fetishs that are weird like wearing diapers or bdsm or fantasies that involve several household items and all the other weird things out there. it is all in the perspective of the person who wants to act out on it. if you do not understand it but it is there just deal with it. there are so many other things that are out there that baffle my mind also but i just let it go and let whoever wants to do it do it. i am average size 8 inches and have just dealt with it. my wife and i are into the swinging lifestyle and have alot of things and we say to each their own.

 

[spsg523]

When you talk about small and largr penis, what size in inches are you talking about? I had better that 5 1/4 that did the job. After 2 surgeries Ihave 3" The wife can still cum but she misses the pentration that was once there. Don't try to tell me you know what its like unless you've been there. Get a ring and put it on at 3" and just use that amount and see what its like. I think your oppion will change about men with small ones. I have finally accepted the fact taht it is small and I can't do anything about it. I'm to the point to where I'm not going to try to hide it but if someone is going to see it, go ahead and let them look. After surgery I was embarrassed even to have my wife see it, but now if she brough some one home and wanted me to show them I would not have any problem showing off. I would like her to tease me about it both at home and in public this would be a big turn on for me

 

[SR_chixdiggit]

^^ what are you talking about? They cut 2 inches off? Huh??

 

[spsg523]

No they didn't cut off 2". The cylinders that were put in were to short.

 

[Uncutpete]

So why do these men enjoy watching? One is that they want to see their wife or girlfriend enjoy sexual fulfillment that they cannot provide. Another is having a small penis and rather than her leave for a better lover it's understood she will stay with him as long as she is in total charge of who and when and how she chooses a sexual partner.
By allowing himself to be her cuckold he takes the submissive position and endures the humiliation if it means she will be completely fulfilled sexually. Watching another man have sex with her and seeing her react to him naturally arouses the cuckold male and if allowed to masturbate while watching will have an intense orgasm.

From my observation of these husbands, this is a very good description of the mind set of the men whose wives I have had sex with. The one thing that it does not explain is their passion and desire. Of course, there are some couples where the wife is demanding satisfaction and the husband sees that he has to oblige, but very often the situation is different.

Often the hub sees that his wife is not being satisfied and she initially denies it, trying to take care of his feelings. He desperately wants to see her with another man, with me. Only after a good deal of persuasion and fantasy, showing her my pictures and so forth, does she agree to fuck another man, and then often with reservations. After the first time, when the orgasms come fast and furious and she begins to give herself over to the pleasure, does she become an enthusiast.

But, and this is what I don't understand, almost every time, so does he! One would think that jealousy for what he cannot give her and I can would be overwhelming. They do feel it, in fact for some hubs it is acutely painful, but at the same time they become more and more attached, even addicted to seeing their wives in the throws of the pleasure that I am giving them... and that they cannot. After years and years, I still cannot really explain this reaction, although it happens very often.

 

[littlepenis]

Its just a fetish/desire that some of us small-dicked guys have. We crave humiliation when someone else is getting off or at least amused at our degradation, patheticness and humiliation. True the reality is that most men who are normally or largely endowed dont care as well as women in men's relationships - but the desire for SPH by the small-dicked guys is there. These guys like me just can't find anyone else who is into it - so we go on still not satisfied as it were.

its hard to explain the pyschology behind every fantasy. I am sure there is one, but sometimes the pyschology behind it might not be as important as the fantasy itself. There are probably countless fantasies the world-over. Some I don't get at all - but even those that repulse me turn someone on somewhere. Fantasies are just that - something that cause some kind of arousal in someone. So I can't explain why small-endowed (or large-endowed) guys have SPH desires, but some, obviously do.

Full disclosure - I have these fantasies as well. Since I was a kid, whenever I was made fun of or teased or otherwise humiliated whule someone else enjoyed it, as much as I hated it, there was a part of my that was aroused by it. Those desires just grew. So, now, as an adult, humiliation in general (private, public, SPH, anything) is one of the strongest points of arousal for me, whether bby girls, guys, or groups of both.

So, yes, being small-endowed, and subjecting myself to SPH does do it for me.

why do i come here every now and then? don't know, but I do. Sometimes there are guys into SPH here - great for me. But, even if not, maybe its my subconscious that seeing large endowed guys and then noting my lack thereof, becomes humiliating even just within my own mind and consciousness. seeing other large guys reminds me of my lack of manhood - and that helps drive the SPH.

maybe since I feel I can't please a woman because I am small endowed in the "traditional manly way" (being a good f--k), maybe subconciously I get off on providing pleasure the only way I know how - allowing other people to get maybe a litle sadistic enjoyment, amusement, pleasure from controlling and humiliating me....


I think there are certainly elements of bdsm and in there. Some scenes of bdsm do NOT have humiliation - other fetishes are part of that scene. However, frequently, various aspets of humiliation are part of bdsm. Humiliation also sometimes plays into the fantasies of the small-dicked guys, though not always (and some secure men who are secure, just get off on SPH), so there very well might be aspects that are connected between SPH, BDSM, etc....

As a guy who is below average (~ 4" erect, and about 4.5" in diameter) and has this fetish, this sums it up nicely for me.

 

[NotsobigBill]

Im into SPH and its definitely about the giving of control. I love my fiancee and she loves me. We have a very strong relationship. I trust her and in that trust I give up a sense of control and oddly it removes any anxiety about performing because of my size. There is definitely an aspect of tackling my fears and letting go of them makes the orgasm more intense.

We have a cuckold relationship but its not filled with feminization or locking me up or anything along those lines. I have watched and even sucked some of her boyfriends (we dont call them bulls) but it was out of my desire to not because I was forced.

 

[Uncutpete]

I have never been in a relationship with a couple where the hub was forced to do anything, and I have been in many dozens over my life. As I said, most guys desperately wanted to watch me give their wives all kinds of pleasure that they were not able to give them. Also, many grew to need to be subservient to my sexual power. Sucking me clean, licking my sperm from their wives, and even more kinds of sexual service are all pretty common with them. All of this is fine with me, and no one was forced to do anything... but I confess I cannot understand these desires.