Can straight & gay men truly be just friends?

[GE_1972]

i have some very good friends which are gay.

 

[554279]

Women, have a kind of 6th sense about who their men / man finds attractive sexually. Sort of like who among their friends does her guy have a secret crush on, who they should watch out for etc. It is that extra glance, that extra smile, that extra friendliness, that extra attention a guy pays to one of her girl friends that gives t away. Not that anything would ever happen; but Presuming that Gay men are just as intelligent as Straight Woman you are probably giving off signals of your crush just a matter of time till your BF picks up on them

 

[554279]

Bit like When Harry Met Sally...

Can a straight and gay guy just be friends or will the straight guy always be thinking "he wants me."

Thoughts?

To be candid - I have a crush on a straight pal, but 1) I'm in a committed relationship so nothing will happen and 2) He's straight

Problem is - I do fancy him, but I wouldn't ever act on it. I just don't want him feeling awkward so I'll just pretend I don't fancy him. Does that sound OK? I feel like being honest in this situation would make things worse and it's quite a new friendship so I don't want to lose one of my only straight mates. Besides there's nothing to gain from telling him he's attractive - surely someone would only be honest about that if they DID want something to happen, no?

Yes anyone can have straight/gay friends, if either party starts to have a crush on the other I think they are going down a different path and it changes the shape of the question

 

[ronin001]

I love his comedy

 

[554279]

I love his comedy

Me too. Shit stays on the path of stupid though and we will be banned from listening to him

 

[BWPHOENIX]

Of course it can happen. I have at least 3 gay friends that I know of, and a few that I suspect might be gay. I’ve been friends with all of them for years, and have never had any issues with them coming on to me or anything like that. They know I’m straight, they respect that and our friendship.

 

[Tripod228mm]

I grew up in the arts, so I was usually the only straight guy in any given circle of friends at any given time. I have friends from that era and there have never been issues.

Similar to "Can men and women be just friends?" My best friend and "best man" at my wedding is a woman, and she even partied with us at the bachelor party and got dressed with the guys before the wedding. I didn't think anything of it, but the other guys got sort of excited about it, understandably.

 

[Bifurquer]

My best friend is gay. He made his coming out more than 30 years ago. We are the best friends ever. We have no sexual desires for each other. What he is doing in his bedroom is not my business !

 

[g0nz0]

Absolutely. I'm straight and although I find large cocks very impressive and can admire them I don't really find myself attracted to men. And I don't flatter myself into thinking every gay friend of mine wants to hump me in the sack, no more than I think every straight woman friend of mine wants to... So of course you can be friends with a gay male if you are a straight male.

 

[creek47]

My best friend and he was my best man in my wedding, he’s gay. We don’t care, so it is possible.

 

[giantguy23]

i have good gay friends but i have some that doesnt give up and try to make me change my mind

 

[petergroot]

Of course you can be friends.
Its like asking can men and women be friends.
You dont have ro fuck every single person you meet.
And if you try to you will be friendless in due course.

 

[palakaorion]

Absolutely a straight man and a gay man can be good friends. However, being straight, if I knew my friend was interested in me romantically or sexually, it might change our relationship for the worse.

 

[Max_Polo]

Of course, yes.

Friends don't fuck each other routinely, regardless of combination of gender and sexual preference. I have lots of heterosexual female friends and at least a few gay male friends and in the last 20 years, I've only fucked one female (my wife).

 

[notthatguy]

What does sexual preferences have to do with friendship?

Not an issue.

 

[meningreentights]

I have had some gay/bi guys I've befriended that don't know how to separate sex and love. So, those don't work.
I do have some gay friends that love me as a friend and nothing more. No stress at all in the relationship from physical desires.

 

[meningreentights]

A good friend is rare. Why risk a rare gem in life's treasure for a romp?

 

[jakerick1989]

if they will be together as lover, then obviously logically and by common sense, the straight guy will not be a straight guy anymore. He will be considered as Bi.

 

[HungRedneck]

I got two gay friends. They a couple but never had any problems with them.

 

[nicnic]

I've had several gay friends, especially in college. I guess that comes with the territory in the arts. They respected my boundaries, and in some ways it was better because there was no sense of competing against each other. Plus, gay guys tend to be better about sensing needs and addressing emotions. I found it easier to talk honestly with them.

Now I'm in a different area with fewer opportunities for socialization and friendship, with gay or straight guys. I'd welcome another friendship like that.