Can too much sexual activities cause sexual boredom?

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  1. motoramic

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    I am having a much harder time in getting arouse nowadays. I use to be horny all the time and would jack off to porn sites, have regular hookups or attend sex parties. Now, I feel like I am bored with it. Even if I didn't cum for a week, I may struggle to remain hard when receiving a blow-job or may not be able to perform at all! I do have Viagra but I do not want to be too dependant on it. I do have morning woody sometimes so my dick should be functional. I think it's more of a pyschological thing. It is obvious if I am less arouse, it's harder for me to get a hardon. I can find new ways and new attractions to keep the excitement near the same level but eventually it would put me back to square one. I am comfortable to what I am attracted to so I don't want to go further with kinkiness. :redface: Do you think maybe I had too much of it? Last year, typically I would jack-off everyday and now I am struggling to do it 2 or 3 times a week. Would do you think? :ponder:
     
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    could be anything

    stress,caffeine etc............
     
  3. motoramic

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    Nothing that I could think of that would put me into that situation where it's hard for me to get arouse other than sexual boredom. I do get bored easily. I always have to rotate my taste in clothes, music, food etc. However, do you think a person can ever be bored with sex??
     
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    I think this site has lots of porn links, and they do seem to get old after awhile. I remember when simpler stimuli could get me going. Perhaps we could take a break from porn -






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    I guess our minds are rotting away.
     
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    Boredom can happen in anything and it is not the activity itself it is the fact that there is nothing new to challenge your mind on an erotic level.

    Been there a few times myself.
     
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    Absolutely, yes. In fact, I just read an article in Psychology Today about this. The article said that it's a very well documented phenomenon and that it happens with men who watch too much porn. Apparently too much porn can totally dull your libido so that it takes more and more stimulation and more extreme forms of kink to turn you on, until you find yourself only turned on by cross-dressing midgets in nurses uniforms wearing chastity devices giving enemas to women all bound in latex and hung upside down on St. Andrew's crosses while being spanked by Japanese "schoolgirls" wearing strap-on dildos, and then even that stops working.

    The solution? Simple. Just take a break from it all. No porn, no erotic stimulation. Your libido will return back to normal and the things that used to turn you on will work again.

    So read a book. Take up a hobby. And don't worry about it.
     
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    Umm, probably I jack off to too much porn, huh? I may have suspect that watching too much porn may have reprogram my mind of what is sexual ideal so when I do have sex with a real person, visual stimulation that I am accustom to would make it much harder to get arouse even though I may have intense physical stimulation from that sex partner. I should read that article. Thanks petite!!!

    Anyone else who struggle with this ?
     
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    By all means, take a long break from all porn. Just do remember that the brain you have is your most potent sex organ. Your solo sessions should be fully furnished with the products of your sensuous mind.

    You might take time to observe real people. Some of them you will find to be sexually attractive to you even when they are fully clothed. Here, again, your mind can furnish them with what their clothes conceal.

    You might also try keeping your hands off your cock. See what you can make it do without touching. You will be amazed, I think, to discover what you have been missing (ignoring).

    Yes, there may be underlying physical problems, but, whatever your age, you should still be able to think yourself into the mood for sex.
     
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    I am not convince yet whether porn is the ultimate impairment in bringing down my sexual arousal with real people. Obviously it has heighten my sexual visualization at the beginning and but does it really lower my physical stimulation eventually? How about just by having too much sex can also lower someone's sexual arousal because of sexual boredom. What do you think?
     
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    I agree. But not for too long. Taking up a new hobby is a great idea to put your mind somewhere else. After a while you'll be more relaxed and everything will work again and better than before :smile:
     
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    In life we go through phrases where we lose in interest in things that very much interested before, like sex. Not sure why, it's just how things are. Also, we're always evolving (well, most of us lol), and our tastes can change drastically in food, clothing, etc. I would assume that when your sex drive returns, you'll find yourself sexually refreshed and attracted to new and even more exciting things.

    All the best,
    Bull:smile:
     
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    ...thye above still works for me...
     
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    Are you saying that you feel like your penis is less sensitive now to touch than it used to be?

    The only thing I can think of is from Dan Savage's YouTube channel (if I remember correctly). He answered a question from a college student that was somewhat similar. In that situation, the young man was gripping too hard during masturbation which had desensitized his penis so that he could no longer orgasm during vaginal intercourse. The solution to the problem was similar: no more masturbation until everything became normal again. Dan Savage said that if he stopped masturbating and only engaged in vaginal sex, that eventually everything would work the way it's supposed to during sex.
     
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    "Too much sex" is a highly subjective term along the lines of "promiscuous": what might be outrageous for one could be an average for someone else.

    I think the sum total of several years of intense sexual activity can lead to someone becoming jaded. It takes a little something extra to push things along; eventually "vanilla" sex can lose its interest in favor of spicier encounters, which in turn eventually get ever more piquant in order to achieve the same level of satisfaction.

    But, again, we're dealing with highly subjective terminology which is open to multiple interpretations. A certain instinctual curiosity led me early down a path that few other members here would consider standard or typical sexual expression. Though fetishes are learned sexual responses to inanimate objects, the propensity for a fetishistic impulse is, in my mind, much more innate in some people more than others.

    Certainly the only way to adopt and explore sexual fetishes comes through experience, and the more one explores a fetish the more it becomes a requirement to sexual satisfaction. There's a T-shirt I see frequently that says "It's only kinky the first time" :biggrin1:

    Different from fetishes yet similar to them (and often confused in some people's minds) is what I refer to as "extreme sex" such as BDSM, WS, DP, fisting, humiliation scenarios, etc. These are decidedly different from a fetish of, say, women's shoes or even leather in general (where the smell and/or look of certain leather garments triggers an irrational sexual response). Despite the rather lurid expectations of novices or the completely uninitiated, "leather" and rough/extreme sex are not necessarily synonymous: I know plenty of guys who wear harnesses, boots, chaps and armbands who disdain bondage or other forms of "kink" (whatever the hell that umbrella term actually means).

    Likewise, I know plenty of people (myself included) who are fetish-free but who can only find pleasure in forms of sexual expression that many here would find either impossible, abusive or otherwise repulsive. But since I depend upon complete consent (and enthusiasm) before launching into the more esoteric sides of my sexual comportment, there is no actual abuse, and I am capable of a great deal of tenderness and compassion despite the extreme nature of much of what I do. In fact, intense empathy to the submissive is, to my mind, a requisite to being a truly effective Dom(me).

    I work six nights in an gay bar which, unlike some fluffy-sweater joint or twink palace, is an intensely sexualized environment in which my financial success depends on being highly seductive. The fact that 98% of the clientele holds no interest for me on a sexual basis is largely irrelevant, though when I find someone who genuinely intrigues me, I understandably kick it up a notch :wink:

    I'd be lying, though, if I didn't say that working in such an environment hasn't jaded me even further. Even if I'm not actually engaging in any sex (which I don't), the constant promise of the possibility of it has led to a pretty much depressed interest of sex with anyone except those whom I find extraordinarily attractive (based on my own and decidedly singular criteria and preferences).
     
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    Take some time off. A break now and then won't kill you. You'll bounce back.
     
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