Can two guys with big dicks be friends and not rivals?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_UNKNOWN321, May 29, 2006.

  1. B_UNKNOWN321

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    The immediate response is of course, no – how can something as big a source of pride as a big dick possibly be a bonding force between men when they are so competitive about such things as big expensive cars and the ultimate, a giant dick. Yet the more I thought about this the more I was convinced that two well hung guys could certainly find a bonding by the very fact that they are both so fabulously equipped. What makes a friendship, common interests, common experiences, shared miseries, common goals, but one thing stands out in certain friendships. If two guys have some quality that is so uncommon as to make them feel sensationally different from other men, and if this quality is intimately tied to the male sexual ego, like dick size, I believe there is a hunger to find another man who can truly share the trials and tribulations of having that physical attribute. It is not too hard to find another man who is very intelligent, likes water polo, likes Greek tragedies for they might not be found on every corner, there are ways to find them and possibly form a friendship. A very large penis is not something that is readily apparent in potential friends and if you are the one that has a very large penis and your male friends discover it and they all have average ones, jealousy will often develop and perhaps an insufferable pride in yourself.

    I have become good friends with several guys who have very large penises on lpsg. And far from feeling like rivals, the dick seems to be a normalizing factor since in each case we did not have a large cadre of other well hung friends to hang out with. We can talk about any subject and can easily talk about our dicks as we never would think of doing with guys with average equipment which would be in horrible taste. There is a lot of comfort in meeting and talking to other men who also enjoy the special pleasures in having what all men covet, a big dick. And it is also very pleasurable in not feeling like a pompous ass in bragging about how big you are and how proud you are to be that big with these guys. But of course like all shared elements in a good male friendship, there is still that competition, but not the one-sided one it is with most of the rest of the male population. I really believe that two guys with way above average size dicks really need the normalizing effect of friendships like this.
     
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    Not all men are in constant competition with one another.
     
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    when i was 14-15 yrs old, my best friend had the exact same dick size as me... & there was no competition.

    we'd talk about our dicks & fooling around with chicks... jealousy never entered the picture.
     
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    Come on, Motisslof. Two big-dicked guys being friends? An impossible scenario. In all history it has never happened.:rolleyes:
     
  5. D_Claude Hopper

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    I think that generally, the fact that two friends find out that they are "well equipped" per se, probably only happens out of semi-fluke occurrances. i.e. both having dated the same person, a dare, or some other chance, I doubt many friends actively seek out to find other friends with comparative equipment. That being said, when it does happen, I think stories, humor, and the like probably prevail. I'd say it is a normative experience though, and agree with your statement to that effect. It won't change that guys are competetive. I always will be. That's part of who I am. Though, cock size isn't really something that can be competed about in terms of a typical competetive environment. It isn't baseball. It's just common ground.
     
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    It depends on if the two guys ARE big dicks, or if they just HAVE big dicks.
     
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    I'm not really into fighting myself, but I know some guys would rather put a fist in someone's mouth than talk to them. Usually this gets socialized out of us by adulthood, or you may end up in jail.

    I always wondered why some guys want to fight and then become friends. Here's a story I found that may shed some light on the question. Others may find the site controversial or merely pornographic.

    http://www.heroichomosex.org/crw/warriorspeak/dickfighting.html
     
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    oh, how very, VERY wrong that is :(
     
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    Yes, I think two guys with big dicks can be friends. One of my best friends during my teens, and still a friend today, has a big dick and got his at an earlier age than I did. He developed quicker and had me by an inch until I caught up, assuming you agree that 8 and 9 inchers are big. We both were the same from around 16 years old until now. We remained friends, masturbated together as teens, shared sexual experiences, and visited each other in later life. We never had an argument or were rivals in any way because of our dick sizes.

    On the other hand, I had several older friends during my earlier years and they had 10 inch dicks with full erections while all the rest of us were much smaller and younger. They were always pulling out their erections, measuring themselves amont all of us younger (several years younger), but they were as close to having the same sized dicks as could be. This did not stop the rivalry and claims from each that he had the bigger dick. This arguing and competitive measuring and bragging led to many fist fights during their teens and early 20s over this dick size rivalry.

    One neighbor, Raymond, three years older than his brother and me and 5 years older than my brother, and 4 years older than some other of our friends, would always parade around naked before us when we were together as teenagers. He was a US born Spaniard with an well shaped 8 inch cock at around 18 or 20 years of age. He would strut around with hard-on bragging about how big it was and how much better and bigger his dick was than any of ours. He was one of those guys that had a dick about the same size hard as it was soft. We would ignore him until he went away with a head swollen almost as hard as his dick, truly thinking and bragging he was better and bigger than we were. My brother would always mention to the others that he was not the only big dick in the room and he certainly was not the biggest. My brother and our friends all knew that mine was larger, but I did not flaunt it. Mine was small while soft and large when hard, and most of my friends did not know how large mine was when they saw me naked in gymn or showers. In any event, Raymond and I were good friends through the present, but he has never seen my hard dick and still does not know how big it is. He has always thought he was the biggest stud in our neigborhood. He did not know that the two 10 inchers and I were all larger than he was.
     
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    Yeah, they can be friends -- and they can be intense lovers as well...
     
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    :rolleyes: Yes they dock! Fuck eachother in the ass !! Thats what freinds are for!
     
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    This is a very interesting thread. I agree in part with what you are trying to say, motlissof (I do not agree with your statement that intelligent men are not that hard to find in society. Yes, they are, I'm afraid, but that's another point).

    In everyday life, bragging about your big dick will only make you look ridiculous in most contexts (particularly, if you do it all the time). Most men don't want to hear that their buddy is well-hung because it creates feelings of jealousy. Let's face it: most men are not well-endowed. Many men say they are, but, usually, it's a lie. Unless your buddies see your erect dick in person or pics thereof (erect size is the only accurate way of assessing the size of man's cock), your true size will always remain a mystery anyways. This is what makes male porn stars unlike most men. They often see other boners all the time on the set, giving them the ability to easily bond with other big-dicked men. I'm sure there is plenty of rivalry, but there is probably some bonding among them most of them (all thinking they are hung like a bull).

    I'm looking at this from a heterosexual point of view more than homosexual/bisexual one. Apart from porn/magazines/locker room, average straight men don't see other men's boners up close (exception male porn stars and young boys jacking off in pairs/groups. This is what is unique to LPSG. It's for men of sexual orientations. One can find men with whom they can "jealously" bond in a non-sexual context. They can see other men's boners, feel their pride and discuss life with a big dick in a context where sexual orientation isn't important. In real life, a straight man may have a very hard time finding other men with big dicks with whom they can bond without being perceived as gay. Male porn stars are very fortunate in this regard. They can see boners day in and day out, talk about their dicks with other men in the industry without any level of discomfort. Even thought men discuss dick size a lot in everyday life, it would be extremely awkward in a heterosexual context for a big-dicked man to actively go in search of another big-dicked man in order that they can "bond" over this physical attribute.

    This is one of the reasons that I'm a member on LPSG. I'm looking to bond with other big-dicked dudes. It's much more about bonding for me than sex.
     
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    ahh, i knew there was a good reason why i didn't have any :tongue:
     
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    You don't have any freinds, Doc?
     
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    I know a guy who's smaller than me, but still decently above average. I know another guy who isn't as long (though not sure how long he is), but is about the same girth.

    They're two of the best friends I have.

    Note: We didn't actually bond because of it or anything, but it certainly doesn't get in the way of our friendships.
     
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    I Honestly think that this is a silly question.... not every man in the world cares about dick size. they care about theirs, obviously... but to assume that two people wouldn't get along because they are both huge is RIDICULOUS.

    There shouldn't be any competition.
     
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    The 'immediate response' in my case is, of course, yes.

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years. It's proof positive.
     
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    I agree with Lex here. I don't think men are necessarily any more competitive than women in any case; and I think that two men who know very well that they are 'well hung' will have no need at all to compete with each other about any extra (probably unusable) inch or fraction of an inch.
     
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    "They" say 1% of the world is hung. That's still 60 000 000 people. (Maybe it's 1% of guys, so it would be a little less but anyway) You are probably encountering people everyday that have a bigger penis than you do. Get over it.

    I don't know any of my friends dick size nor do I care. Why should that have anything to do with me being friends with them?

    The "ego boost" and "proudness" one gets from having a "huge one" come from guys insecurities I think. Are you proud you wear size whatever shoes too? It's not like you worked at getting your penis/feet to that size. It might be kinda cool, but who really cares?

    Having to compete with guys over cars is just another insecurity issue. Why do you have to have a better car than another guy? Unless you are a professional race car driver, your car does the same as anyone else's. You have to follow the same speed limits and rules like other drives. So why get a $40000 sports car when you can buy a $5000 used car which does the exact same thing and costs $35000 less?! That's a downpayment on a house!

    I thought you said it is not very hard to find another man who is very intelligent :confused:
     
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    Contrary to popular belief men don't think about their dicks and where they can put them next all day long although you would think they do with some of the obsessives and nutjobs that frequent this site!

    Blokes base friendships on a million things before the size of their tackle. Dick size means nothing when you've got great mates who respect you, share your point of view and laugh at the same things as you so hard you think you're going to shit your pants.

    A couple of my mates know what I'm sporting between my legs as they've seen me in the gym shower and girls I've screwed DO talk. You get a grudging respect at best and that's it.It all means nothing if you've got no mates though.

    One of my best mates is blessed with a massive tool but I don't give a toss. We have more in common than just big body parts. Jesus, we ain't that shallow.

    End of rant.

    Chris
     
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